I watch and read a lot of superhero shows and stories, and I noticed one of the most central conflicts is the issue of the secret identity. Often the hero must keep their hero identities secret from family, friends or love interests. Naturally, this causes problems because these people (particularly the love interests/partners) are obsessed with the truth. This isn't only in superhero stories, also in shows like abcFamily's Twisted. There are secrets that certain characters must keep, and love interests are obsessed with knowing the truth. That is, they feel entitled to know absolutely everything about the protagonist. This always bugs me because these characters act like it's the end of the world if they aren't engaged in each other's lives 100%. I know it's wrong to lie, but do you think couples should be allowed to have some level of privacy from each other? This question is primarily for people with experience, but it's open for everyone. I know all relationships are different, but I personally think that having to reveal everything about oneself shows signs of insecurity and limits peoples ability to retain a sense of individuality. I'm not saying they should be allowed to lie, but is it devastating if they say there is something personal that they don't really want to talk about? Is it so devastating?