Ok, first off.. I don't know if I'm looking for answers, opinions, or validation here, so I'm just going to do a mini brain dump to try and explain what is going on. I was watching a you-tube vid and the individual made an example of showing vs. telling which really kinda pinpointed for me an area that I've been struggling with. This is how to "show" within a dialog/conversation. I've seen advice hammering on avoiding using "said" too much. So that dialogs do not become "he said. he said. she said. he said." etc., but I look back at almost all of my stories recently that contain dialog, and see this form of telling. I may write something like the following: "I'm going to the store!" she exclaimed, slamming the door behind her as she left. That still feels, to me, like telling. Am I wrong there? Where it *really* is bothering me is the grammatical mechanics. Some circumstances, as I see it, demand a verbal statement from a character be made *before* any description of the action taken, which then traps one into the demand for a "he said" type statement, even if it is followed by an action description. I wrote a dialog last night in a flash fiction story, and it's probably the longest dialog I've done in a while, and I am very unhappy with it for this very reason. I feel like I've simply invented a dozen ways to say "she said". Are there any good resources (examples/tetmplates) that someone such as myself can reference to sort of aid with writing a dialog that is accompanied by "showing" vs. one that relies on "telling"?