Then watch this man. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cpc-t-Uwv1I ( That's two Youtube video threads back-to-back, but I think it's needed. )
I have always enjoyed listening to Anthony Robbins. If you go to www.ted.com (from the annual TED: Technology, Entertainment, Design conference in Monterrey), you'll find a number of really good speakers. You can download any of them in multiple formats, including through iTunes for your iPod. That is where this particular Anthony Robbins piece came from.