Helping people can be rewarding. And motivating a person who is trying to reach one or more goals with encouraging words can be quite helpful to them. It's a part of the often enjoyable experience of trying to help others. However, sometimes a positive message for an individual you are trying to help is not the answer. Sometimes you have to be honest with a person you're trying to help. For example, say a person you are trying to help has unrealistic goals. Sooner or later the person will find out anyway that his or her goals aren't realistic. So it can sometimes be better to make the person realize this before he or she gets in over their head. Another example is maybe someone you are trying to help isn't doing enough to help themselves achieve a goal they want to achieve. Maybe they aren't doing enough to help themselves because they are too afraid to do what they'd like to do in life. Letting the person become aware of this can often get them to see that they need to do more to help themselves.