The Not Happy Thread

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  1. KaTrian

    KaTrian A foolish little beast. Staff Supporter Contributor

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    It's not very mainstream, no. It's more common to be a regular metalhead. Long hair and beard, tatts, band shirts -- that kind of thing. I've worn an Iron Maiden tee to the office a couple of times and no one batted an eye. Also, Tuska Metal Festival is still one of the most popular summer festivals around here, so I guess the culture's pretty deep rooted.
     
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  2. LostThePlot

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    I guess that's pretty much what I mean by goths :p I remember in Helsinki it felt like everywhere I looked there was some girl with awesome hair and platform boots who was way out of my league :p
     
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  3. Sclavus

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    Life is piling it on this month. I've got two birthdays, a "memorial birthday" for a deceased relative, Christmas, apartment inspections, two meetings, a party, and writers' group this month.

    In other words I can just forget about having any time for myself. At all. By the time I get done with one event, I'll get home, go to sleep, and wake up in time for the next.

    I'm not going to be very social next year from January to March. I'll still be active online, but being around people is taxing.
     
  4. Averycoeworld

    Averycoeworld New Member

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    I am more annoyed than I am unhappy. Why? For the first time ever while my husband was out overnight celebrating his brothers birthday I was able to fall asleep at a decent time. I am serious, this never happens. I'm usual very afraid to sleep without another adult in the home :( but I convinced myself it would be okay. We just moved into a new place and I am trying to change a couple of habits and fear of being alone is one of them. Well, I managed to fall asleep and was getting great sleep when at 4am his brothers wife (who has never been to my new house) was banging on my door and ringing my bell (screw my sleeping 2 and 11 year old right?:mad:). So, I was startled out of my precious slumber. I thought maybe it was my husband coming home but lost or forgot his keys. It wasn't. His brothers wife was at my door trying to catch her husband with another woman. I was annoyed, confused, and concerned. This woman drove an HOUR away from her home to my house to catch the husband she put out over a week ago whose now staying with us with another woman. There was absolutely no reason for her to think he was with another woman. They separated because he caught her cheating. What makes it more annoying is that since she didn't know where I lived she picked up my other sister in law who showed her where our new house was. Needless to say I couldn't manage to get back to sleep right away. I was up for a while and missed my 7:30am alarm to take my daughter to school. She woke me up at 8:20 to drop her off. Luckily, I am very punctual and she doesn't have to be to school until 9:10. I just like to wake up early so I can make sure she has a decent meal and her hair combed. I was still very annoyed with the whole thing. I'm a private, relaxed person who doesn't do well with drama and those type of antics. It's too exhausting for me. That whole ordeal is totally unbelievable. Thanks for listening.
     
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  5. CoyoteKing

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    Iatasha: that sucks. What a dumb reason to wake you up.

    When your husband is gone at night: Have you tried a weighted blanket? It’s dumb, I know, but it helps some people fall asleep when they’re stressed/anxious.

    I have a similar but opposite problem; I can’t sleep in bed with another person.
     
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  6. Homer Potvin

    Homer Potvin I got more game than Parker Brothers...

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    I think my xbox one power supply shat the bed, less than a year after I bought the thing. I'm currently on a live chat with an "expert" who wants me to go through the same the troubleshooting process I've done ten times already.

    Replace. The. Fucking. Power. Supply.

    We've been at this for about thirty minutes now. I'm on my second glass of wine and the tech's grasp of English is deteriorating rapidly. I'm not an avid gamer or anything, but sometimes a man just wants to come from work, drink a little wine, and play something mindless. Too much to ask?

    ETA: still going 20 minutes later... I should have just called... I actually enjoy talking to tech support, especially in other countries... I'll ask them all sorts of things: what's the weather like, what's the food like, how's the (insert current event in native country if I can think of one)... if they're in the US we'll talk about their local sports teams and why mine usually kick the crap out of theirs... this led to a funny exchange with a guy in Philly who couldn't talk shit back about the Patriots but really, really wanted to by the tone of his voice
     
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  7. Pharthan

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    Work has been getting progressively worse and worse.
    It's my job to train new sailors how to operate nuclear reactors, using an actual (small) reactor plant. As with any job in the military, you never just have one job. You have a dozen or so hats to wear and balance them all out, and you're always trying to add on more jobs to do, meaning even though I teach students, I am in some regards also a student and have to do a similar job to what the students do, also qualifying for new watchstations to gather even more responsibility for myself.

    I had a much longer rant, but I felt for OPSEC reasons I needed to cut it down to just "This place sucks." We've got too many demands placed on us, not enough people to meet the demands, and it's getting worse; the divide between the Upper Chain of Command and the operational/training/maintenance staff is growing. They say they listen to our complaints, but every day they prove they just don't really care, or that they don't have the balls to tell off the people yelling at them; they get really pissed when we tell them off.

    God forbid anyone tells them "this s*** wouldn't fly in the fleet. We'd never do this."
     
  8. big soft moose

    big soft moose All killer, no filler. Contributor Community Volunteer

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    I've got news for you bro, that shit isn't limited to the military - in my last job it got so bad I found myself virtually crying or raging with frustration, and eventually off sick with depression

    I binned that job with nothing to go to, and it was the best decision I ever made. I now am fortunate enough to have an employer who actually thinks of their employees as people rather than things
     
  9. Iain Aschendale

    Iain Aschendale Unworthy in the eyes of the LORD Contributor

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    What Moose said. Doesn't matter what the job is, the people in charge never give a shit about getting it done right, just about getting themselves to look good. The best advice I've ever heard, which you should not apply as someone training people not to fuck up nuclear reactors, is "Don't try to care more about your job than your boss does, it'll only stress you out."

    But yeah, Fukushima, Chernobyl... Care a lot, do it right, and keep up that OPSEC, I know the feeling even now.
     
  10. Pharthan

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    Point is that the difficult life is supposed to be when you're working 120 hour work weeks underway.
    Not when you're getting the job that is supposed to keep you wanting to stay in the military.
    I never planned on this being an easy job.
    I had planned on it being a better deal than deploying. People shouldnt be welcoming a life when I have limited access to family, friends, internet, food that I can describe as "edible," toilet paper that can be described as "not sandpaper," sleep deprivation, average work day is 17 hours long, et cetera.

    EDIT: Also, Fukushima/Chernobyl not really a concern if you designed your reactor, like, in the past 50 years. Mine is literally the oldest reactor operating, but we have other things to make that not be a concern.
     
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  11. big soft moose

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    If you want a stress free life in the military you need to achieve the rank of admiral (we used to say Major back in the day but I've had to move the grade up since a good made of mine became a light colonel) or get a staff job in (Washington for you ... we'd say Andover)
     
  12. Pharthan

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    Or just not be a Navy Nuke.
    I know that's not entirely true... but for the shore-command aspect of it, it's not far off. The most prestigous shore command for the rest of the Navy is literally considered an insult in my field to get stationed there.

    I did actually get a 6 month gig that was stress free. That was all about timing, I was the only person who had all the right qualifications at the right time.
     
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    You had me at “sailors”.
     
  14. LostThePlot

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    As the bishop said to the actress...
     
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    Finishing up a big move to a new place, left behind a box of odds and ends, including some tokens of love from my fiancee in our first year of dating. Think my dad thought it was trash and burned it all when he was drunk. Frustrated and sad but I guess that's partially my fault because I left it in a stupid ass place. But life goes on.
     
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    He set fire to a box without looking inside it first :bigconfused:
     
  17. Lemie

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    I'm not moving until tomorrow - but I feel weirdly lonely tonight!

    Just realized this will be the first time I live by myself for over five years. Tomorrow I won't even have my cat to keep my company. What if I just can't handle being alone after all this time? What if there are ghosts in the apartment?
     
  18. LostThePlot

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    I know that feeling man. In ten days (or so) I'll be moving out by myself after an eleven year long relationship. But, well, I find it better to dwell on the things you can do now instead of the things you can't.

    To be by yourself means you can focus on you. It means that you can find things that make you happy, things you always wanted to do but never somehow made time for.

    To me living by myself has been something I've moved from dreading to relishing. Because it's finally a time when I don't have excuses; where if I want something I just have to go get it. And that's still scary, because you never know what's going to happen and that doesn't sit well. But for me at least I'd rather have the chance to do stuff and failing sometimes instead of forever making excuses not to try.
     
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    I moved away from my ex after five years living together straight into my parents house. So moving will be wonderful, but I just don't know what to do with an empty apartment! Or, I do. I've got plenty of furnitures to re-paint and ideas to be put on paper.. It's just a bit scary.
     
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    *hugs* It is. But it's the anticipation. Once you get there you'll realize that it's not so scary :)
     
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    I've just ordered a bottle of chocolate "chill pills" for a secret Santa because I thought it would be appropriate since our A-Levels are coming up and now I'm struck with crippling anxiety that my joke will be misinterpreted as a slight on her character.
     
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    There is chocolate involved - no worries!
     
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    If you're reading, Alanis Morissette, that's ironic.
     
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    Lol, sounds like you and I would make great friends because Id be worried about the same thing. Maybe attach a note thats says "for A-Levels anxiety" with a smiley face or something.
     
  25. LostThePlot

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    It is far too early. I've spent the last two nights in awful hotel beds and have managed maybe six hours sleep across the two nights and today my job involves trying to look busy while standing outside in the freezing bloody cold and doing almost literally nothing :(

    Update - OK today was actually pretty good :p Carry on, nothing to see here :p
     
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