The Not Happy Thread

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  1. Jenissej

    Jenissej Professional Lurker Supporter Contributor

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    Oh god. Shit like this is why I went into forensics. Let's be naive and hope it was a fake... did you at least report it?
     
  2. O.M. Hillside

    O.M. Hillside Senior Member

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    No it already was. They put a warning on it and kept it on saying that fb is only keeping it in the hopes that it'll help in the effort to find the mom and the maybe rescue the kid. But it was definitely real. Not sure if maybe she did that only for the sake of the video or if she wanted to kill her kid. No matter what it's definitely something insane.
     
  3. Jenissej

    Jenissej Professional Lurker Supporter Contributor

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    What kind of fucked up excuse is that? These videos need to be taken down and stopped from spreading there's a legit black market for these kinds of videos, holy fucking shitpile of a company!
     
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    I have a little motto, don't be sorry for who you are. I open my mouth all the time words come out. I have found myself looking at the quotes thread as of late. I started on page 1 I'm now on page 6. I like to visit there at least once a day. I love a good quote. There was a quote I saw there I think said basically. I may not agree with what you say. But I will defend to the death your right to say so. Just last night I came out of the coffin as it were. I had to explain in detail why it is I like to drink blood. When all that began, have other people drunk my blood, have I drunk anyone else's? I stood fast to myself, this is who I have been ever since I read my first vampire book. I love universal movie monster's. I love monster's. I love the romantic idea if a serial killer. Not the actual event. All these things came crashing down on me yesterday. I was put to the test. Would I fold. Will I still fold. Will I have a moment of weakness and let the "other" dictate to me, who I am. Who I should be. How i should live my life. I don't think so. I love myself once again. More than one person loves me now for who I am. Some of them are here on the forum. Don't believe the lies they tell you. Don't believe the lies you tell yourself. Feel what you feel. Say what you think. You won't find me telling you not to be who you are.

    I wish some more quotes would come to the quote thread.
     
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  5. J.T. Woody

    J.T. Woody Book Witch Contributor

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    say you're interested in reading a book. it looks really interesting, and you want to give it a try. you go to a library and ask for help in finding the book. the librarian says "you want to read THAT book? its crap! I read it and i dont know why YOU would want to. i'll give you a list of books that are way better!" person felt so embarrased, he left without the book. (didnt happen to me, but it has happened in my presence)
    There are some people on this site that think like this, and it irritates me.

    the point is, the person thought the book looked interesting enough to want to read it. the person wanted to read it and develop his own thoughts on the book. who was that librarian to tell him he SHOULDN'T read it? people come to this site, for the most part, for advice.... not to be made to feel like they made a poor choice or to be swayed away from what they want to write about. There are ways to have an opinion without putting down the person.
     
  6. NobodySpecial

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    Back in April I had a Dr appointment I paid for myself, the doctor doesn’t work with my new insurance. Today I got a bill for the ballance of the cost. I’m trying to figure out why, if they didn’t then charge me the full amount. My copay on the old insurance was $30 for an office visit, in April they charged me $70, now they want another $41. For what?
     
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  7. Cave Troll

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    It's a 'processing' fee.
     
  8. Malisky

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    Ok, the librarian was a little bit rude but not to an extreme, from my POV. (From where I come from, everybody is a smart ass, so I'm used to it maybe). I mean, I also get irritated from time to time when unknown people (especially sellers that use this way as part of their agenda) talk to me like we are buddies, but maybe she was just trying to be helpful in her own way. Sometimes, people speak this way in order to mend the gap. Anyhow, I see your frustration, but if I entered a library and wanted to read a book, I'd rent it whatever the annoying librarian would have said.

    Let people be them. You, be you. What's the trouble?
     
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  9. J.T. Woody

    J.T. Woody Book Witch Contributor

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    There are ways to give an opinion without being rude. "I've read that book, and i'm not a fan, but let me know what you think!" or "I didnt hear very good reviews on it. What brought you to this title?"

    Anyways, the librarian thing happened a while ago and its a longer story that involved the librarian getting a complaint from others and the supervisor hearing about it. I wont go in to details about it because it isnt the main focus of my original comment. The librarian story was the closest scenario to what has been happening on this site for a while. I used it as a parallel because i didnt want to name names or call attention to specific threads
     
  10. Iain Aschendale

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    But nobody here is a professional, and even the staff volunteers only have the job of stopping fights and keeping the system from crashing. Passive-aggressive parables aren't even going to help anyone figure out what you're complaining about either.
     
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  11. Malisky

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    I see the parallelism that you made and I still think that, you can't expect to communicate with everybody in the same way. Some people you like, some you don't. That's all there is to it. Stick to what's useful to you and ignore all the rest, because at least from my pov it's always good to be in a creative community of your choice. You might also meet some people that you'll creatively connect or even become friends with! Look on the bright side of things! :)

    [Edit: Shit! I just reread my post and I sound like a goddamned elementary teacher. Should I worry?]
     
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  12. Iain Aschendale

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    Just saw a cockroach the size of a hamster scuttling down the wall in the school cafeteria kitchen...

    I hate hot climates.
     
  13. Lemie

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    "Nothing is so good it last eternally..."

    I'd break out singing Chess - but I can barely speak, and we're at a fourm, so you're all spared.

    Going home tonight.
    Or - going to Sweden tonight, going home tomorrow. Feeling a bit sad, but mostly exhausted.
     
  14. J.T. Woody

    J.T. Woody Book Witch Contributor

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    Am i complaining? am i being "passive aggressive"? It seems like I was just venting my frustration at a topic of my choosing... just like everyone else on this thread.

    Just because I don't want to call people out, doesnt mean I'm being "passive aggressive"..... it means I dont want to call people out. End of story.
     
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  15. flawed personality

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    Filling out a form for my daughter's birth registration (it's a long story), and it seems I've been given a re-registration form. Given that her birth hasn't been registered before, I'm a little confused!

    ETA: I think this is just the way they do things here. Making everything as convoluted as possible, just because!
     
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  16. Zerotonin

    Zerotonin Serotonin machine broke

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    The past few weeks have been rough.

    As always happens when my insomnia revs up, my mental state has been deteriorating slightly, day-by-day. I'm finding myself emotionally exhausted every day when I get home from work, and I'm spending my days off lying in bed trying to recover and catch up on some much-needed sleep, to no avail. I want to write, as it's one of the few things that brings me true enjoyment anymore, but whenever I sit down in front of that blank page, my mind seems to mirror it and I'm lost an abyss of non-thoughts.

    Really hoping I get some solid sleep soon and that my insomnia settles so I can do what I love again.
     
  17. Malisky

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    I thought you said that you just saw a hamster getting eaten by a cockroach in the cafeteria for some reason... That would be a sign of the apocalypse. Our days are numbered. :p
     
  18. big soft moose

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    Basically people on this site have been expressing their opinion about what people should or shouldn't write in a particular circumstance, when that person asks them... shock and indeed horror, its not like this is a workshopping forum or any.... no wait.

    In essence anyone can write whatever they want, but if they don't want the opinions of others on it they'd be wise not to ask - this isn't a site for people who want smoke blown up their arse about how great they are
     
  19. Malisky

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    I get through these phases too. A lot. Although it's tough, try to avoid the internet and excesses that keep you up at night. When your brain feels like something is missing, it didn't get fulfilled or entertained the way it should have, it tries to fill in this gap with whatever is the closest to it, which usually has nothing to do with it. So my advice would be to abstain from the internet and social media for a while, maybe go out and have a beer, or a walk, or a beer while walking with a friend or two and then just lie in bed and try to sleep. Don't even try to write if you're out of it. Just rest for a while. When you wake up rejuvenated you'll feel much better.
     
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  20. Zerotonin

    Zerotonin Serotonin machine broke

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    I read a few years ago that you're supposed to lie in bed during the hours you would be sleeping, even if you can't, to keep your circadian rhythm, so that's what I've done ever since. I tend to just lie there in darkness, staring at the ceiling.

    An hour or more before bed, I usually shut off my electronics and read, as it tends to make me drowsy. Lately, though, it hasn't been working.

    This happens to me every six months or so, sometimes more, sometimes less. This time, however, has lasted much longer than any previous bouts of insomnia. They usually last a few days, a week at most, and then I'm back to sleeping normally. This time around, I've been sleeping poorly for about a month, and I've gotten to the point of next to no sleep at all over the past few weeks. I've gone to a specialist, but he says that, because it isn't persistent, there's nothing he can really do.

    Just have to soldier through, I suppose.
     
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  21. Dragon Turtle

    Dragon Turtle Deadlier Jerry

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    Interesting, I've always heard the opposite: that if you can't fall asleep, you should get out of bed and go to something else (that doesn't involve looking at screens) for a while. It's a classical conditioning situation; you don't want your brain to associate "being in bed" with "lying awake for hours." Insomnia quickly becomes a vicious cycle for that reason.

    Personally I'm bad at following this advice, because I'm always convinced that if I just relax a little harder sleep will finally come, so I'm reluctant to get up. :p
     
  22. CoyoteKing

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    I saw something today that upset me.

    I must be a naive flower.

    Someone was talking about how they have arguments. You know how sometimes when you have an argument with someone online, they’ll insult you personally, or twist what you’re saying, or lie about things, ect?

    Apparently people do that deliberately. Am I a naive flower? Why would people do that? What’s the point?

    This is a PSA:

    If you deliberately use ad hominem attacks or strawman arguments in order to “win” internet arguments, you are not a manipulative genius or master debater. You’re a jackass.
     
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  23. Zerotonin

    Zerotonin Serotonin machine broke

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    I've seen both. I'm going to have to do more research to figure out which is actually correct.
     
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    CoyoteKing Good Boi Contributor

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    I have chronic insomnia problems (due to the anxiety disorder). Not as bad as Wreybies... mine usually lasts for 2-4 days then goes away for a few weeks.

    I’ve also heard the thing about getting up and not lying in bed awake. I’ve tried it, but it appears totally irrelevant. Getting up (or not getting up) has never had any effect one way or the other for me.
     
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    Dragon Turtle Deadlier Jerry

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