The Not Happy Thread

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  1. big soft moose

    big soft moose The Moderating Moose Staff Supporter Contributor Community Volunteer

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    1) call your parents
    2) Talk to the bank - you can probably extend your overdraft
    3) prioritise - dance competition costumes are not the priority over food, yeah sure you want to enter, but you don't have to, use that £60 to get some basic food stuffs like pasta, rice, lentils, tins of beans and so on
    4) economise - there's no way lunch should cost £10 - however you do need to eat three times a day, and economising will enable you to do that
    5) look at what you can sell - you've got a £1000's worth of new clothes for a start (also some places will let you return new purchases within 30 days if they've still got tags)
    6) you can get a job, because you have to - students up and down the country do it all the time - this goes back to point 3 - if you've got the time to enter dance competitions you could be spending that time stacking shelves, putting shit in boxes, or working behind a bar.. you may not want to, but you've got yourself into a position where you have to.

    7) lastly - although all of the above is a bit tough love - don't beat yourself up too bad, students do this sort of thing all the time... in my first year i blew my grant (yeah i'm that old), my loan, and my overdraft, mostly on alcohol and drugs... I wound up taking most of the steps outlined above including bar work four nights a week, selling a large part of my possessions and borrowing money from my family to get back straight.
     
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  2. EFMingo

    EFMingo A Nefarious Flamingo Staff Contributor

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    I did the same...for five stupid years of college...I'm finally paying off the loans a decade later and I still have no degree. I had to join the military or basically become homeless without a degree. Mind you, I still don't have one, I'm just working on it now...with a full time job that travels...

    @EstherMayRose basically what I'm saying is, it can go down hill extremely fast, and it looks like you're teetering on the edge. Moose's pointers are seriously the only way you're going to get out of it, since I sincerely doubt you're going to sign yourself over to a military program like I did. Talking about it and therapy probably aren't going to help you as much as getting cash in hand by the ways he mentioned. The tough lesson I learned: No one is going to save you but yourself.
     
  3. The Dapper Hooligan

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    This probably isn't the most ethical advice, but I've found that dating is a decent way to get a free meal when you're broke. You can usually get around three dates with a guy before they start expecting something more than dinner or start feeling taken advantage of.
     
  4. big soft moose

    big soft moose The Moderating Moose Staff Supporter Contributor Community Volunteer

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    As a guy that wasn't really an option for me :D

    Ligging is an option if you're in a party town (thats where you gate crash, or bullshit your way into, a launch event, or conference, to take advantage of the free buffet and drinks...)
     
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  5. EstherMayRose

    EstherMayRose Gay Souffle Contributor

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    I bit the bullet and talked to my mum. We had a chat about what I could make from what I had, and she said she'd buy me a few non-perishable things. I'm planning to pay back the money when I get my next lot of loan. I might pull out of the dance competition. I'm feeling overwhelmed and too tired and my course has to come first. I'm just not sure how the teachers will take that, given that they'll have to re-block everything and it's only a month away.

    I feel really bad making her pay for my bad decisions. I've spent a while looking on job websites, but they all want experience or skills I don't have. So instead, I've been looking at what I can sell. Obviously, there are the clothes. I have a lot. I've taken the tags off now but since they're new I can sell them for near what I got them for. I'm not sure what else I could sell. I don't have much stuff apart from what I need for my course and cooking/cleaning stuff. I could raid my bedroom when I go home.
     
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  6. Homer Potvin

    Homer Potvin I have misplaced my pants.... Contributor

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    Don't let that discourage you. I hire people with no experience all the time if I like their personality, attitude and work ethic. That's what training is for. I'll take a kid who wants to learn over an entitled 20 year vet almost every time. Too many bad habits.
     
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    Agreed just apply, apply, apply. My job required on the postings master's degree in material science or life science engineer fields, and ten years microscopy experience. I had neither. I have said job.

    Apply.
     
  8. Homer Potvin

    Homer Potvin I have misplaced my pants.... Contributor

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    Exactly. Can you show up to work on time? Not call out? Stay reasonably sober? Stay off you phone? Keep busy (or at least appear to stay busy)? Keep your politics to yourself? Get along with guests? Tolerate coworkers you don't like? Be about your business? Keep your bullshit at home? Follow direction? Do what you're told even if you don't agree? Execute the steps during go-time? Realize that nobody cares about your opinions?

    Show up. Do your job. Count your money. Go home.

    Life is hard. Work is easy.
     
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    Something to keep in mind is that a sizable percentage of jobs aren't usually advertised. I know that makes things more difficult if you're not socially inclined, but making inquiries and having a résumé ready has been, at least in my experience, far more effective at finding me employment than looking online ever has been.
     
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    Perhaps you can try and return the clothes? And just... cut away everything non-essential? This may seem to be a bit cruel, but if you're really need that energy, cancel the dance thing.
     
  11. NigeTheHat

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    All of this. Beating stupid out of people is fucking expensive.
     
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    Hugs, and kicks, but mostly hugs.
    You're an artist. Every art needs a patron, for a moment or a lifetime. Never be afraid to ask for help, it's part of the path. You don't get anything by not asking.
    Look at the labels, then buy the biggest size of the cheapest thing with the most nutrition.

    :bigsmile: More hugs
     
  13. big soft moose

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    that - job websites are the last place to look for the sort of part time gig economy work a student needs. Go into every pub in town, especially the ones the students frequent - and say 'have you got any bar work' - ditto coffee shops for barrista work, local shops , ask local firms about warehouse work, go and see the local temp agencies.

    Also don't forget the university itself - some hire students to do KP work in the canteen, or cleaning... then there's the SU bar.

    I once picked up a cash in hand job helping the contractors who were installing new furniture in the uni offices purely because I was passing as two of them were manhandling furniture parts out of a van in the pissing rain... I held the door for them, stopped and had a chat and just asked them 'do you need any casual labour' - they called their foreman and he put me on for £50 a day cash... that was worth about £450 over the next couple of months
     
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  14. Malisky

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    So... last night of shootings and... my actress never showed up. Lol. The story of my life. I just hope she's ok and she didn't break up with her boyfriend or anything... Yes, I'm speaking from experience. It's something like a curse during my shootings schedule. We can reschedule, it's not like she quit or something. It's just that since I still had the rented camera today and I have to return it tomorrow and we only needed 2 hours tops, I mean 2 hours if we pulled it from the tits, it would have been soooo much better if we wrapped it up forever tonight. Oh, well. Anyways I've already lost the deadline (the premieres are tomorrow), I've already known that. At least I'll have time to make a decent montage this time around. Mostly, in this short I've focused upon technical things. Difficult shots that are going to need heavy editing. Cloning a person twice in a frame, which means that the lighting must be perfect or else. I even made a trick in order to shoot from the ceiling for fucks sake. I really hope that I lighted the scene correctly or everything will fall apart. At least we've got tons of bloopers. Proof that we really tried.
     
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    Was it just me that read that and went "Oh no..." before being happily surprised?
     
  16. Malisky

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    Yes, indeed it sounds a little macabre everytime I say this. Is there another way to express this without sounding like the mafia?
     
  17. Some Guy

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    I hope not! :D
     
  18. flawed personality

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    Having my calls being ignored by my mum for 4 weeks hurts. I think I'll just give up altogether, as my phone won't accept international calls or texts anyway. I've run out of things to say to her answer phone at this point. I wouldn't mind if I knew what the problem was, but I have no idea and no way of knowing. So much for family. :bigfrown:
     
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    I miss the good old days when you get in an argument and the other person can smack
    me in the face. Man those were the days, just doesn't work so well in text format. :(
     
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  20. flawed personality

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    Maybe we should petition for slapping emojis. Or at least drink throwing. Cos the latter is immensely satisfying. :twisted:
     
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  21. flawed personality

    flawed personality Brotherhood of Misanthropic Writers Contributor

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    But I can sword fight you if you like. :p

    :fight:
     
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  22. big soft moose

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    we're writers - why emoji when you can describe ?
     
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    flawed personality Brotherhood of Misanthropic Writers Contributor

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    Because our relationship is based on writing, and it's nice to have a different form of expression. Writing back and forth for 365 days, not gaining a qualification or even being paid sucks when it's no longer fun.

    And sometimes, you just need to able to throw a damn drink. :p
     
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  24. big soft moose

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    Never the less this here is a writing forum - the expectation is that members communicate using words, not solely emoji's or memes. What you two do in the privacy of your own conversations is no ones business but your own (thankfully)
     
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