I recently came across this video on my friend's wall, and it sparked an interesting bit of conversation, which I shall elaborate on in a moment. In this video, a father (or uncle) whips his 13-year-old daughter (or neice) after she goes missing for 3 days and is found dressed like a grown woman... That is, according to the description. On one hand, it's supposed to be funny because for people who've had a "whoopin'" like this, in one sense we can relate. We can laugh it off a bit like, "Wooh, that man to' her @$$ up. Bet she'll think twice before trying something like that again... and she shoulda kept her mouth shut and got in the car." I've never gotten it this badly, but it does bring back memories On the other hand, it's going a too far. No grown man should be beating a 13-year-old girl like that. Where is the love? Where i the compassion? That's more of an expression of anger than corrective or instructive punishment. Pulling hair, name calling, so much intentional violence... what does that teach but fear and subjugation. Based on comments, I can see it's embedded within our culture. My mom whipped me, her parents whipped her generation, and their parents whipped their generation. The idea, now, is that because it's traditional it was better. However, every generation thinks it is cooler/smarter/better than the one before it, but they also think they are smarter/wiser/more respectable or upright than the generations to follow. This seems especially true in African American households, where "a good old fashioned ass whoopin'" is what a child needs every now and again to keep them in line and let them know who's the boss. Look at some comments, shall we: On the other side, you have comments like these: Of course there are many more comments, but I'm sure by now you get the idea. My question is, what are your thoughts on this kind of extreme parenting? What do you think about spanking in general? Is it good or bad for children? Does it work? Is it the only way to raise well-behaved, respectful children? What kind of effects does it have on kids while their young and as they grow up? What kind of society does it stem from or produce? Do you agree with spanking?