"Turn left here... and crash into a freakin wall..."

By AngryGirl6 · Mar 21, 2008 · ·
  1. So I find myself getting to the point where I'm feeling better about losing my ex. I'm feeling better about my new home and the new friends I've come to live with. I'm feeling as though I've splashed some cool water on my face and taken a deep breath. The night before last, I layed in bed and prayed to God to bring peace over me and keep my mind on the right track.
    Then, amongst that peace and all the good things I've got going for me (my promotion, my friends, my freedom) I find out yesterday morning...

    I'm 4 weeks pregnant with his baby.

    I...

    I feel as though, out of all the bull**** that's happened in my life... I'm pretty shook up because... I feel as though, for the first time in my life, maybe there really isn't fate and I guess God does test people to make them stronger but... why on Earth would he feel it necessary to give me this test?
    Now, of all times, especially?
    I'm more angry now than I can ever remember being... I'm hurt, I'm emotional, I'm in every kind of pain and my ex is... probably spending his time getting high and drinking.
    So... I'm afraid of him and his psycho bitch mother, I'm afraid to contact them... I don't even know if I'm going to keep this kid. I don't want to be one of those white trash, single moms on welfare because I couldn't bring myself to get an abortion.
    It's not fair. It's not ****ing fair that every girl friend of mine gets a loving doting man and I get... a man whose fault it is that I'm in this situation.
    And what's most messed up about all of this is that every other guy I've ever slept with would step up and be a man. And I've never loved any of them as much as I love my 'baby daddy' I guess you could say, and he's the only one that wouldn't step up and be a man about it.
    "It's not mine... blah blah blah" He'll tell me to go through my pregnancy (which is his fault in the first place) alone and when it's born, he'll get a paternity test done then. Then his jerk ass will try and take me to court for custody.
    So, where's God now? Where's God when after my whole crappy life, this is now exactly what I'm faced with... shame or welfare? I'm a spiritual person and even after all the bad bull****, I've still always believed in him and his plan, and now suddenly, once again, I'm the one who has to make this ****ty decision. Not my ex, not God, not my super religious sister who's trying to guilt me into keeping it even though I only make $12 an hour.... me.
    I have to do this now... I have a ****ing kid in my body. A kid whose father I don't want it to look like. A kid whose dad I don't want to see or even hear his voice, I'm so angry with him.
    And I have a dilemma that beer and partying can't fix and no one can help me because this is soley my decision and...
    I'm so pissed off at the world right now I could just puke.
    Everyone just... gets their way. There's so many spoiled brats in this world... I don't even have parents.
    Why... everything???
    Why EVERYthing?? Why why why? Why is this even a question I have to ask?
    I'm sick of life's little curve balls. I'm sick of spoiled brat attitudes, I'm sick of diva bitches and arrogant assholes, I'm sick of everything I've seen this world display in the past 21 years.
    I've had it... and there's nothing I can do.
    Jesus ****in Christ

Comments

  1. Navy
    You're angry there's no doubt about that. I'll try to give the best advice I can, but I'm not sure if it will help or offend.

    I say go through with the pregnancy because it isnt worth it to take away a little one's life. What happens after there is all your decision. Don't let your boyfriend take advantage of you.

    It seems like you've had more downs in life than ups. I'd reccommend filling up your schedule. Find plenty of social things to do all day. The best part about life are the things in it, and that includes people. If things are really bad, some style of therapy/counseling could help out.
  2. Cogito
    I won't presume to tell you what you should do. It's your body, your life. Yes, there is another life under consideration, and that is a factor which only you have the right to weigh against your own beliefs. Do not be pressured by anyone, one way or another. Ask those whose opinions you value for their thoughts if you wish, but the last thing you need is to be someone else's moral pawn.

    This is a terrible dilemna, and I empathise, as much as any man could. All I can offer is the knowledge that I have listened, and am not even slightly tempted to judge you or any choice you may take.

    Oh, and if he tries to press for a paternity test, appear to be enthusiastic that he is committing himself to paying child support!

    He may leave a sonic boom in his haste to vanish.
  3. Charisma
    Don't fret it, AngryGirl6. Be optimistic. Life isn't finished. Things can go much worse, but if you sit down and start blaming God, people, blah, blah, for all of this, it won't help.

    I believe this is your choice, though if I were in the same situation as you, I would have not aborted the child. Despite all my desire to do something in life, like you read in my blog entry, I would not let my moral values change. Then again, it's your choice. My advice is, don't feel sorry for yourself, don't blame people and relax. Enjoy the things in life you have; and ignore what you don't have. It's the key to happiness, not boyfriends or money.
  4. Torana
    I am a single mother of two beautiful little angels and I don't work. My daughter has problems with her lungs so it makes it difficult to go into work. It's hard, really hard. But I didn't love their father in the end as he was never there and never provided. He never wanted me to continue either pregnancy, but I could never terminate without severe medical reasons.
    I won't sugar coat it. Being a single mom is hard, being a mom in a relationship is hard as well. But being a mom is such a wonderful thing as well. There are times where you wish you didn't have children because it would be so much easier.
    There have been times when I wish I'd not left their father. Because it'd be nice to have a family. But at the same time I don't, and will never go back to him. Single mom life is the most difficult process to go through. You at times need to get a break and it isn't easy to get that. Other friends don't understand you can't go out and do what you want because you have children to consider, and it hurts. You get angry and upset with them. But your children must come first.
    Going through labor is painful, the pregnancy can be terrible, morning sickness and what not. But it is beautiful. It is wonderful. When you see this most wonderful creation on the ultrasound it is the most excillerating experience in the world, other than giving birth to them and holding htem in your arms the first time.
    Having a child is not the end of the world, it is a new life you have to share with the most beautiful life. You are given the chance to raise a child, your child and show it morals, show it love, show it understanding and teach it to crawl, talk, and what life is all about. I would never change my life now. I've never felt more happy with my life since I had my children. Every day I wake up to their smiling faces and I thank the lord for gracing my life with my Cherubs. They are the best thing that ever happened to me.
    I know you will find it hard, but you aren't alone. You will never be alone. You will find a hidden strength within you, created through this precious life growing inside of you and you will be able to over come EVERYTHING that life throws in front of you. If you ever feel you need someone to talk to, let me know.
    Either way things turn out for you, I am here to talk to if you need someone to just vent at, or to ask for advice. Life is never easy, but you never have to go through it alone.
    Children don't end your life though, they change it and give your life a whole new meaning. I'm always here to talk to if you need it though. :)

    Best of luck to you and I hope that things work out for the best, I really do.
    Lots of hugs and support sent your way.

    Torana
  5. AngryGirl6
    I'm so freakin scared... but I'm keeping this baby. Thank you thank you thank you Torana. I called and left a message on his best friend's phone tonight... let's see what ensues... it's not gona be pretty, I already know.
  6. Torana
    You are most very welcome AngryGirl and try not to worry too much. Things WILL work out. Stress is not good for you or the baby, so try not to stress too much :) Big hugs!
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