Why Must Girls be So Difficult (at times)?

1)Insecurity issues

2)They really like their privacy

3)They are afraid that you might steal their souls

seriously though, even the most beautiful person can feel insecure, no one wants to get caught looking stupid on film or with a booger hanging out of their nose or something

alot of so-called photogenic people are okay with pictures if they spend an hour getting ready, rarely are people cool with candid or spontaneous shots though

It may sound paradoxial, but here's my theory: the constant focus from the world on their physical appearance makes it central in importance to their identity, increasing their critical vanity and desire for perfection. The more attention they get, the prettier they would need to be, and this creates an endless spiral. They end up with all their eggs in one basket and personal insecurity entails. If they looked only semi-pretty in one photo, their value as a person would be compromised.

Then there's a whole other way to look at it: their age. Maybe once they hit mid-20's to 30 and fight their first losing battles with gravity, they'll begin to appreciate how amazing they looked when they were teens.

Or of course we could stop generalizing women and just accept that not everybody wants a camera stuck in their face.

Plenty of men don't like to have their picture taken either. This isn't a strictly female thing.

Also, why should the fact that a girl looks pretty to you mean that she can't be insecure? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

More to the point, why should a girl have to have a camera in her face to validate herself as a confident, beautiful woman?

Personally if I take a bad photo I couldn't really care less. I don't consider myself to be a 'beautiful' girl, but a nice photograph isn't going to change that either.

Hope that helps.

Lots of love,

A girl.

x-x-x-x-x.

Yeah, I can't stand girls who insist they're not physically attractive, when they very clearly are (then again, as already said by ash, what you and I consider beautiful may differ between others).

Most of the time I think it's just false modesty, or straightout insecurity at work. It's hard to tell the difference sometimes. I'm not a photographer, per say, but I like taking peoples portraits.. I like being able to capture that 'beauty' that some people might otherwise not allow themselves to see... I am someone who is rather infatuated with the human form, so I guess that's why I feel frustrated when the people I'd like to photograph refuse to on the basis that, 'they're ugly'.

Fair enough if someone doesn't want their photograph taken simply because they don't like it, but I think in this blog it's assumed they'd like their portrait taken but refuse to because they think they don't qualify.

It may also be an attempt at modesty. When someone offers to take your photo because they verbally explained that they think you're beautiful, perhaps they feel they should at least say they think they're not so that others don't think them conceited. It's like when someone says "your cooking is great!" and you feel obligated to downplay it so others don't think you have your head up your ass.

Of course it could be the aforementioned fishing for compliments (the more you insist, the more it reaffirms that you think they're beautiful) or serious insecurity issues at work, which might cause them to feel self-conscious. And not everyone likes to be photographed either (my mother despises any photo taken of her, no matter how good) and might use the "oh I'm not prettty" as a way out of it.

Personally I generally don't mind my picture taken, but at this point I've had so many of my photos used in...not exactly appropriate ways so I tend to avoid it these days too. I really really doubt that's the case you're experiencing (fear of misuse leading to rejection of photographing) but it's another to consider.

And yes, please do try not to look at all women as such. A handful of girls you know hardly represent the some 4 billion on earth.

You said, 'Why must girls be so difficult (at times)'. So yes, you were talking about every single girl you know atleast. You were saying that "at times", every girl is overly modest.

Maybe you should've re-phrased your question to: 'Why are some girls so insecure?'

However, I would like to point out that refusing to have their picture taken might not necessarily be because they're insecure.

Yeah, there are alot of attention-seeking females, alot of insecure ones too; but alot of them are quite comfortable with themselves without needing to be told whether they're pretty or not.

Perhaps you just know alot of stupid girls.

I wouldn't worry about it bucket, it's kind of obvious you we're referring to every single female on the planet. Although maybe next time re-phrasing is a good idea so you're not punched in the face for supposed generalisation. Thanks for sharing this blog by the way, it's a curious topic. Women are curious beings afterall. ; D