The Not Happy Thread

What are those two things that Sweden is preventing you from doing? If you feel you need to be in California to do them, by all means, do whatever you need to do to get there. Remember, you and only you are responsible for your own happiness.

 

Oops, poor wording there. I meant to say that the things I feel are "wrong" have rooted themselves and grown so large that I'm unable to sit down and write properly. I can't really explain it, but I can't write when I'm in a very poor state of mind and I can't tak advantage of any negative emotions to write; I just don't work that way. It's basically like a big fog in my mind, and I need it to be clear in order to write. I also need it to be clear in order to focus, which is very important when doing mathematics, the other thing I love doing. Mathematics is also my main field of study in university so it's affecting my studies as well, and my current job also centers around solving problems so focusing there is difficult as well.

I picked California because I have fond memories of the place last time I visited, the weather is nice, and like many other places in the world people there are more open and outwards than people are here. I also have a good grasp of the language, so there is no language barrier either, and cultural differences can be used to my advantage as well as being something new and fresh. So it doesn't actually have to be California, it's just the first place that pops up in my head when I think about where I would like to move.

 

[MENTION=55406]Orihalcon[/MENTION]: Are you taking Vitamin D supplements? In the UK, that has similar amount of sunshine (very little) loads of people have borderline or deficient amounts of Vit D, and it's associated with loads of things, most notably depressive symptoms (aches and pains, low mood, difficulty concentrating, lack of energy).

 

First of all, Orihalcon, I would try what jazzabel says. It makes sense, and certainly can't hurt. Check out that your low feelings and/or lack of energy and purpose doesn't have a physical cause that might be easily fixed.

I would also caution you about fixating on moving to California, unless you've looked into the possibility of getting a green card or student visa or something like that. You can't just move there. By all means visit, if you like, but moving is an entirely different kettle of fish. I did it the other way, moved from the USA to the UK ...and it was quite a red-tape palaver, even though I moved to get married to a Scot. If I hadn't been getting married, they wouldn't have let me come at all. (We're still married 28 years later, this week, BTW.)

Do you feel there is something in Sweden that is actively holding you back? If so, by all means, look at other places to live. (Be aware that you will be leaving your friends and family behind, perhaps forever.) You might try looking into moving elsewhere in Sweden first, to see if a change of scenery and environment can give you a boost. Perhaps it's a too-familiar rut that's making you feel dismal.

If you can't think of anything specific wrong with Sweden, or have nothing specific that attracts you to another specific place, I would be cautious about expecting another location to create the magic want you need to make your life feel better. We do tend to carry our 'homes' on our backs, after all. I would concentrate more on figuring out what your bad feelings actually stem from, and work from there.

 

[MENTION=35110]jazzabel[/MENTION]: My diet consists mainly of white meat, fish (salmon and mackerel), eggs and vegetables (the ones in those bags of mixed woked vegetables). Perhaps I should consider taking Vitamin D supplements the days I don't eat fish. Thanks for the tip!

[MENTION=53222]jannert[/MENTION]: You're entirely right about the difficulties of moving to the US. Moving to any other country is not something I would do lightly and without thorough research to ensure that I won't just get kicked out when I get there.

I landed a three-month job in Stockholm (the capital of Sweden), so I've been here since the end of May. It's a great job: developing future telecom technology at an international company's R&D department. If I found a place to stay after mid-september, I could probably continue working here. It's been more than two months now and I feel the same. Perhaps I'm not giving it enough time. Who know how much time is enough? I know why I feel the way I do - it's just that everything I've tried to fix it has failed. And when it comes to the social parts, no good can come out of having reached a point where inner negativity becomes outwardly visible, and that's a dangerous spiral I've wanted to avoid but now feel trapped in. So I suppose I feel like I should drastically steer my life in a different direction since this one is not doing me any good.

 

[MENTION=55406]Orihalcon[/MENTION]: Maybe count your blessings for now, save money for another trip to Cali, and while doing so, try to get out of the "rut". It's little things that help. A different route to home from work, a road trip, a new café, a new hobby etc. Sounds like you have a good job and Sweden is a great country. Stockholm is pretty during summers. Maybe check out some local sites?

If you wanna go to the US, find yourself an American girlfriend and get married

 

I think we've all been on downers like this dude - ride it out and you'll be fine! If not, one more illegal immigrant won't do any harm, I hear there's going to be an amnesty soon...

 

Well I certainly wish you all the best in your search. It's true that sometimes a change of location can be beneficial. I'm really sorry you're feeling so out of sorts just now. Not fun.

 

[MENTION=55406]Orihalcon[/MENTION]: Take them for a couple of months, every day, see if you notice the difference.

 

I don't want to come off as negative, but I've already tried the whole "go to different places, get new hobbies, study something different"; none have worked. I consider myself to be fairly interested, open-minded, laid back, very tolerant and sociable. People just don't seem to like me very much, and I seem to end up meeting people that aren't social. Things have been this way for as long as I can remember, and different stages of life have yielded the same outcomes. I don't consider myself very Swedish at all, so perhaps I simply don't belong in the culture or society I live in? I'd prefer not to leave the country, but I can't really think of any drastic change that could match something like that. Or maybe I'm just not likeable?

 

Trust me, go to CA. People there are in general much cooler and more fun. Better looking, also (in America, probably not Sweden).

 

What do you think it is that people don't like about you?

Have you tried meeting up with people with the same interests/hobbies? I'm sure there are a few people out there who are very outgoing and eager to make new friends.

 

Oh man, leaving France for good in 72 hours, the house is upside down, boxes everywhere, so much to do and I'm really hungover

 

Well, at least you didn't say the house is literally upside down.

 

At least your leaving France

 

I really hate the update of the Writing Forums website. I think it was much better before.

 

What makes you say that? Yes there are a few issues that need to be hammered out but overall, the forum has become much sleeker in looks and in performance. I am pretty confident that we won't be seeing "Database Error(s)" in a long, long time.

I sometimes really don't get the conservatism with regards to software, especially not when looking at this forum because almost everything is exactly the same, it just looks a bit different.

 

Don't you love it when you're doing well in a class and because everyone else is doing well, the proff says he's going to make the final extremely hard? That's nice. I get A's on the midterm and assignments then bomb the final because he's a jackass. Oh sure he told us what material to expect, too bad none of it was there. Life is thus.

 

I'm SOOOO glad I'm not in school any more!

 

Up at 5am, in Dublin Airport at 7am for 10am flight - at 5pm (10 hours later in a crappy departure lounge)they finally decide our flight to Chicago is cancelled and there may not be another till Saturday not much for for a 14 month old baby

 

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Something in my reply here is causing an internal server error that didn't happen in the other post.

 

I tried to say:

That really sucks.

Is there a silver lining? Did you get to see family in Dublin on your way from france?

 

But when I tried to post this, I can't:

That really sucks.

Is there a silver lining? Did you get to see family in Dublin on your way from france?


Unless I can now, playing with deleting certain things. OK, let's see if it will let me edit it. I deleted the frowny and the quote header.

Please forgive the following posts while I try to find what is causing the internal server error, Thanks.

 

That really sucks.

Is there a silver lining? Did you get to see family in Dublin on your way from france?

It was the frowny face in the quote, and yet, I didn't get the error when I combined the original quote with a different reply. I shall share this with admin.

Thanks for your patience.