Random Thought Thread

I gave up on dating for the most part. No one wants me.
Probably why I drink. Oh well that is life of this loser.

 

How could it be a factor, when I don't meet anyone to begin with?
I wouldn't have a reason to drink, if it were the other way around.

 

Same boat. Nobody wants a cray-cray secular humanist with commitment issues.

 

Mine is because I am shy, and have self-esteem issues.
That and I feel like crap having to admit that I am divorced.
Even though I left her, I still look bad for leaving her cheating
ass.

 

So you left a relationship that wasn't working. And?

 

And then nothing.

I got lonely, and started writing to escape.
Also I never had the free time until I was
that I could chase that little dream of mine.
So yeah, I am not much of a 'people' person.

Also everyone asks about whether you have
been married or not at my age, so I go with
the honest answer. (I still have the certificate
so I can't really hide it.)

 

Yes, but it was when I was young, 19 or 20, and all these techno-venues of which we are speaking were still pretty much Science Fiction. I had just graduated from DLI and moved on to Goodfellow AFB in middle-of-nowhere Texas for the technical side of my training. A young lady with whom I had attended DLI. Suffice to say, despite best efforts, it didn't take.

 

Bro I am the opposite of a people-person, I empathize completely.

Also, weird. You're only a year older than me and nobody asks me if I was ever married. They just ask me if I have any kids. To which I say "Are you fucking serious do I look like I have/want any god damn kids? "

 

There's a certain logic to it, clearly. When I was at uni, my best str8 friend only ever wanted to go to the gay club. The club (called The U.C.) had two floors. Downstairs was exactly what you expect in a gay club in a university town. Young guys, shirtless, dancing to the throb of gay club dance music. Upstairs was a more sedate affair. Slightly older crowd, professors (I dated a couple of them), and the pool tables where there (billiards), along with a second bar. This was where my friend met girls. Having a gay wingman can be a very successful tactic.

 

Because I find online fights about my autonomy with complete strangers cathartic?

I rarely reply to the creeps & the jerks (most of them) but sometimes a good fight is needed vent

Who are you to say I'm not an idiot?

I'll have you know I pronounced "subtle" phonetically till Junior year of high school, even though I KNEW their was a word I heard spoken "suddle" with the exact usage

And I didn't put the two together until I was berated & mocked for a solid 5 minutes from my younger brother

Well, I live & work on a ranch most of the day—and after a day of toiling physical labour, I tend to crash & not leave the house—or maybe go over to crash at one of my friends' three homes (group of guys rent a house together & two other solo places)

I started like 7 years ago—on the more legit sites, with paid memberships, 'cause my mom was worried that I, the baby maker, had no prospects and she has sworn to steal my first born since I was 12. (My married younger brother & older sister are not viable options for her)

Tried the whole actual online dating thing, didn't quite work out for me, left legit sites and followed my guy friends on the stupid sites where I stalk said male friends (one in particular's profile is hilariously inaccurate—we have a 99% match which makes it better)

And now I either make some random online friends, or I get into fights

The biggest issue with me is I kinda attract two different extremes: the Wild Crowd or Bible Belt Boys

It's 'cause I like things like various rock genres, punk & other crazy fashions, etc. But I'm also pretty hyper conservative—I don't show cleavage; don't like short shorts; I don't drink, don't smoke, don't curse; I'm a Please-and-Thank-You Ma'am-and-Sir sort of girl, et cetera.

So I either get guys going "Hey, you could be a lot of fun, if only you'd just be different"

Or "you were born to be a missionary wife, I know, you just gotta change your clothes & hobbies, and be different."

I'm too traditional to be so eccentric. Or vice versa.

 

Well there's your fucking problem, what did you expect?

 

That's exactly my point. If you're looking for a quality guy, get out of the trash.

 

I say this all the time. My friends who are serial daters are constantly mired in drama and bullshit. I'm over here thankful for my committed, healthy relationship. No thanks to drama.

 

Just celebrated 10 years myself on the 7th of the month.

 

Maybe I'm odd for a woman (okay, I am very odd for a woman), but I see a married guy and ALL the mating desire instantly evaporates. Death Valley over here.