The Not Happy Thread

Oh, power cuts can be such fun! We had a lot when I was growing up. Never did find out why, though. We were a bit smug, because we had a gas cooker, as opposed to almost everyone else on our street.

 

Want to build a wxwidgets/gtk-3 library for GUI programming, but mingw hates me. Apparently makefile.gcc doesn't exist (to be fair I couldn't find it, but it should be installed or something).

So... Feeling pretty frustrated.

Tried forwarding a port so I could play minecraft with my friend.
Also failed.

 

I have a solution to that problem for you...

 

Should we start a support group?

 

*Look into my Eye.....

Allow me to rephrase myself, Pain in the Ass Coworkers, as opposed to my fellow Pain in the Ass Forum Members.

 

I won't comment on this, I will only laugh loudly to myself.

 

First World if I ever heard it

 

Ah, so you're catching instead of pitching. If it hurts, you need more lube.

 

Damn it.... I knew this going to happen.

 

Had a nap, because my sleep has gone up the wall again. When I woke up, I could taste blood in my mouth, and I got cramp in my leg. Since then, I have had ringing in my ears and a splitting headache. Seems I am breaking down.

 

Your first mistake was using mingw... build it in Linux under a proper gcc environment

 

My leg is still tense over 2 hours after I got up, so I'm having to limp about!

 

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I want more of that too.
Being a guy is crappy, but for diff reasons.

 

Uh, that sounds terrifying.

 

Yep. Going to go have a beer, do some housework, and calm down. This is stupid.

 

Not necessarily. A dumb problem? It's a complex issue. It affects your family by extent too, who I imagine care for you- it takes time and it takes your strength to solve it, not just whipping your back because you haven't fulfilled someone else's notion of value of you.

I really do hope I don't sound derisive or anything, I've had to be very formal all day and it might be reflecting on my speech. All my support for you, Coyote.


EDITED: Coyote deleted the post, so I edited out most of mine- but I do think the last part is quite important.

 

It's okay! Your feelings aren't stupid, and this isn't a first world problem. Anyone anywhere can feel this way.

I do think it's a good idea for you to go do something to get your mind off it and I hope you're having a beer and not reading this for a while, but that's because it sounds like you're ruminating, which can make things worse. Not because it's a dumb problem. It's not.

 

Mama Bear texted me last night "I need you" so I drove down in a flurry.

Baasan can't control her legs and feet at random junctures, so MB needed help catching & carrying her.

Last night was spent with my mom on the couch and me on a futon (a real futon) so that way at the slightest bit of sound from obaasan's room we could rush there in an instant.

I am so thrashed today.

I don't see how I can leave tomorrow if there's no improvement. I can't see my mom being able to do this alone, and dad & ally need to keep the business going as it's the busy season and they can't afford to turn away business.

 

The "like" button isn't really enough to express what kind of admirable thing you're doing.

 

I don't think it's dumb at all. You're talking about the very skin you live in, and about your identity and how you live in the world. Nothing dumb about that.

You can always vent here, or to one of us who would be happy to listen via PM (I have no experience or expertise with the issue, but I'm always there to listen). Don't let ever let anyone say you can't or shouldn't. Your feelings are not stupid, although I understand where you're coming from about not venting to people in your real life. I don't either, because my loved ones have enough on their plates, and my role requires me to be strong for them.

You are a brave, strong person, even though it might not feel like it right now. I'm sending you a hug if you like them.
Also, check your PMs in a minute (ETA: sent!)

 

Thanks, all three of you.

I feel like that was a lot of over-sharing on my end, so I'm deleting my posts. (Talking about my favorite amateur pornstar? That's fine. Pouring out my deepest, darkest fears and insecurities? Naaaahhh.)

This is true.

... and this is true, too. I am ruminating, and I am berating myself.

Thanks for the resources, @Shenanigator

I wish there was any easy resolution. Or... I wish there were some sort of constructive solution I could work towards. But I don't think there is. I think I just have to deal with it, keep improving myself, and see how I feel in the future.

 

and give yourself the benefit of the doubt. After listening to others I hardly call being brave enough to share what bothers you 'oversharing', myself included. PM or let er rip here anytime, as far as I'm concerned.
Sincere hopes for you and others to have things go well. Thanks for showing bravery.