There's really not such a big deal about valentine's day in Norway (even though the companies are trying their best here as well LoL ). So I won't be anymore depressed than I am normally, and I'm usually not that depressed so I guess not.
I just let it pass as an ordinary day if I'm not with someone at the time. It really isn't anything other than a Hallmark holiday anyways.
I'm dreading V-day very much but I'm also looking forward to it. I really hope she likes my gift I made her.... Other than that it'll pass like any other day.
Yah, I'm sure she will, she means a lot to me, I've had a crush on her for 10 years (I'm 17 now) and we've been best friends ever since, and we are a little more than best friends but not bf and gf, if you get that. Shes a artist and I'm a writer, we always combined are ideas together and we spent loads of hours at each others house passing ideas and such.Going to the movies, anime cons, Art cons, traveling. I'm not sure if we are together as bf and gf or not because I've told her I liked her and she me but we have never actually confirmed it.It's confusing =/ But, there is this other guy appeared one month ago that has been hitting on her too... ugh. I'm hopping he doesn't try anything.
I'd try to lock it down broski. Can't take things like that for granted if ya know what I mean. If this guy swoops in and she thinks you two are just "besties" you're gonna be in a bad spot... Yep, I'd say better to take the initiative and make things happen post-haste.
Just watched The Ugly Truth and was surprised at how many things actually are true. Sometimes I feel like the world's most naive woman.
That movie was pretty funny...and absolutely ridiculous, but I think that's why I was laughing most of the time.
My apologies. I did mean that though, I wasn't only talking about the movie. It just made me think. I'm naive when it comes to men, even with being married and everything, I don't have the slightest clue.
Okay, so there's this guy I really, really like. I haven't liked anyone this much in a pretty long time. So it's a big deal for me. Anyway, it's pretty routine for us to make-out when we see each other and it seems like he really likes me because we talk too about a lot of things, we don't just do physical stuff. But he's continuously telling me that he's 'not the relationship type'. He told me that we have is more of a deep connection. Is this guy talk for I'm not that interested? Or you're not good enough?
Well, I've been in an almost identical situation where it ended up that the guy used me and my affections for him to get in my pants basically. I hope that isn't the case for you but I don't think it'd be a good idea to get too attached to this guy, I can't see it going anywhere or ending well BUT! this is just from my personal experiance, decide what you want, what he can give and use your own discretion.
Seems to me he's giving himself enough space so he can play the field, rather than commit to yourself, or any one person. That said, i'd often use lines like that, but never used it against the person i was with at the time for true bad. If you both talk alot, you could always find time to weed that little bit out of him without giving anything away. But if you have moved into a more emotional place with this fellow and his isnt willing to take that step, i'd seriously think about moving on....guys can use these lines for years before some girls catch on. Just be honest, and open hearted with him. The least he can do it match you with it and the rest should play out.
I can only speak from experience but I once said something similar to a guy (though not as blunt as your example). I said it because I wasn't sure I liked him enough. I was an idiot though because he was a really great guy and he moved on to someone else. You usually don't get a second chance.
Hmm...honestly, I would be careful. Even if it's not just guy talk for him not being interested, if he seriously doesn't think he's the relationship type and isn't interested in trying to be in one, where exactly are you guys going to go?
Hmmm...thanks for the heads-up guys. The whole 'using me' thing did occur to me. I just wasn't really game enough to really think about it too much. Especially seeing as I've known this guy for years, I didn't really want to think badly of him. I might be a little more careful in future. Thanks again.
Yeah. if you have known each other for quiet some time, keeping together (friendship or whatever you guys choose) is still very important. As long as you know how thyings are/not holding onto hope etc. Things happen, people change. Can't take one small comment as the end of the world for yourself and his. Which you already know. Anyway, i hope things go well.
I have watched these things over the many years I have had the opportunity to observe people and I think we are wired to be attracted to the same type of person. We get into relationships that go bad and turn around and get right back into another one that ends the same way. We marry some one that turns out to be a mistake, get divorced and them marry the same person all over again - just with a different name. We (each of us) goes after the same thing over and over. If it does not work we never look at ourselves in the mirror. We always blame the other person and then seek them out again. If you have repeated (serious) problems with your partner take a long look in the mirror. The one, common, thread is you. It is, its you. Your choices are bad and very similar to each other - - just change their names and you are back at it again. Look in the mirror. Look closely. Add up the characteristics you are attracted to. They will be the ones present in every failed relationship. Can you change? Yes. Will you? Probably not.
What do you do when your boyfriend's mother is so controling that she actually unplugs the internet when you spend a long time talking on skype, even though he's 21 and only still lives with them because he's going to school and doesn't have a job?
You plug the internet back in and tell her to act her age? Sounds like he needs to have a word with her about boundaries...
She does. I mean, I understand him needing permission to borrow the car, because it's not his and he doesn't pay for the gas unless it runs low while he's driving. But I had more freedom and privacy when I was in high school than he does now. When they were helping him pack up to move out of the college residence for the Spring and Summer, they had no respect for the fact that it was his stuff and got annoyed when he was being picky about how they treated his projects, which he will revisit in future classes.
Can he go to a library/laundromat/McDonalds with wireless access? It may not be as convenient, but at least it sends a message. What is her damage, anyway?
He can't get anywhere without the car, and they have control over that.\ edit: Forgot to mention, they live on a farm just outside a small town.
