Trish you were right, it is trust problems, I believe it was the only true reason why we were so perfect, I would make everything revolve around her, and when I continued to change and care differently for her, we broke apart. I just really wanna know what I shouldnt do at this state.....
Well who's having the trust problems? I mean there's a difference between not trusting someone to call and not trusting someone to not cheat and because of that difference it's difficult to give advice without knowing the nature, you know? I, of course, understand if you don't want to put your issues out there, but the fact is, all trust problems are not created equal
I understand. I had this part of me that believed that she was perfect. Beautiful, smart,etc. I would blame things on myself, never letting her take a blame from our problems and I would frequently and still do continue to believe she is a perfect women that still have feelings towards me and I do as well, but that fact that I can't trust her through her own faults is what really poisons what we have and my shady personality as a caring individual worries too much really isnt helping our matters, *sigh* and I just hope things work out for the better and we can be somewhat friends still as we have for the past 3 months...
Huh?? Okay, well first of all no one is perfect and the sooner you acknowledge that the better. Putting her on a pedestal is only giving her farther to fall (which you seem to be experiencing). Also, you say you believe she has feelings for you which I infer to mean that maybe she doesn't? Has she said she doesn't? And you're determined to believe she's confused or something? You say you guys are friends and you hope things work out for the better so now I'm confused. What is your current status?
Were still friends as of now but its been awhile since we've talked ever since I apologized for something stupid.
So if it's her not trusting you and you want her back (?) I guess you just have to keep being trustworthy. You just have to keep being there for her. You have to keep meaning what you say and saying what you mean. Earning trust back isn't one of those things that you snap your fingers and TADA! everything's fixed. It's something that is a process, long, difficult, and often never succeeds. It's something that you do not just for right this minute, but until... until it's better, until she doesn't question your words, until she doesn't ask other people to be sure what you've said is true. I don't know what you did, I don't know if she's being unreasonable, I don't know if you're being unreasonable, so this is pretty superficial advice, really, though I wish I could do better. If I've misunderstood the situation I apologize, I've only been awake a few minutes.
Its fine, I really appreciate your advice and hope once we start talking, I think will be fine, thank you.
Jack Martinez -- not nearly enough information here for me to give you any solid advice. If you still find yourself stuck, give us some more details here. One thing I can tell you for sure is calm down. I can tell by the tone of your posts that you're really worked up about this girl. That's probably not helping.
I have more knowledge and positive influence from the advice. I know I didnt get enough details but I apologize, I guess its the first time I post these things. Were talking now and I guess I have a more clear goal in mind as opposed to a few weeks ago. I appreciate the advice and concerns sidewinder but I believe all the advice was enough for me to understand and thank you all for your time.
I think I have a legitimate question. It has to do with shoes. And no, not why there are so many. But it has to do with the other question. How do you manage to walk in them? Especially the platform ones.
As long as they fit well, it's really not as hard as it seems like it would be. That being said, they're still not very comfortable...I avoid them when I can.
They look like tools of torture to me. No matter how I try to imagine a woman actually wearing them. Well I did see a woman wear it. And I wonder when her feet were going to snap or her ankle.
I always wear flat shoes. I've only worn high heels a couple of times (for prom and leavers ball) and I couldn't walk in them. The heels weren't even that high. So yeah, I don't know how some girls manage it.
I'm very short... one of my friends calls me "trial size" (lol) so heels are my friends. I have a 2 1/2" heel on my sneakers because I feel so strange (and small) without them. My boots have heels, my sandals have heels, almost everything I own has a high heel. (But you know, it's really hard to reach the top shelf in the cabinet without them!). I'm just so used to them I'd be more likely to break my ankle in flats, lol
I just broke up with my boyfriend. It hurts, too, because I really liked him. See, he, my best friend and I met last year, freshman year. He liked her before he liked me, but she never liked him back. Eventually he said he 'got over her', and started dating me, but he never leaves her alone. He's always flirting with her and trying to get her to like him, and I couldn't stand it anymore.
Yeah, me too. I even confronted him about it, but he insists he's always 'just joking' and that he 'doesn't see the problem'. It's like, HELLO?! I told him he needs to grow up if we're ever gonna be together again. I hate being mad at him, but I can't help it this time.
Well if it's any help at all, I think you made the right decision. :/ You deserve to be with someone who not only doesn't flirt with your best friend, but also listens when you try to tell them you're concerned about something like that instead of just dismissing it.
Thanks, Heather. That really does mean a lot. :/ I want to be happy, and I wish I could be happy with him, because it's so easy and fun to be with him, but unless/until he grows up, I just can't do it.
Sorry things ended between you two. Like hiddennovelist said, I think you made the right decision. I know it doesn't make things easier though. If he didn't respect that something was bothering you, and especially if he still likes someone else, then it isn't going to work.
I just wish I UNDERSTOOD him. I mean, she has never liked him as anything more than a friend, and has stated so to him multiple times and also to me, and she's going out with another guy too. Yet he doesn't quit. Whereas I like him a lot and he takes me for granted, even though I've been there for him.
I guess he's not quitting because he likes her so much. I know that's not nice to know, but that might be why. It's hard to give up on someone you like so much. You deserve to be treated better though.
Oh, G, I'm so sorry. I know how much you liked him. Christ, why did he have to be such an idiot? He clearly has no idea how lucky he was to be with you. He'll learn that when it's too late, no doubt. Anyway, congrats on not sufferring fools. A lesser girl would've put up with that crap, but not you. At least you got out with your head held high, despite how it's really made you feel. x
Thanks everyone. It really makes me feel better to hear you guys talk. It makes me feel like I can hold my head a little higher, even though I want him badly still.
I say some form of scientific babble, but I don't think it would help. So I will simply say I am sorry for what has happened to you. I understand what it is like to be looked down upon a lover. Though I understand also, the joy of having someone who is truly the person you love too. I do hope you find the person who is forever for you.
