The Not Happy Thread

Sounds like a typical phase guys go through. He'll regain senses.

 

Yeah, he does it every month or so and snaps out of it pretty quickly. It's just stressful while it's happening. Thanks, guys.

 

Crucifiction, I'm really sorry about your brother. I can't even imagine how incredibly hard it must be to deal with- as well as dealing with all the effects, like seeing your dad cry. But I applaud you for being there for your family. And wanting to stay positive for the sake of your own life doesn't make you selfish, it makes you a forward-moving person who lives his life the way his brother/parents would be proud of. Hang in there man.

Link - a few years ago there were two chihuahuas on my street that acted exactly like those dogs you describe. Roaring works, gotta admit it. And I'm a girl, haha.

 

I am of the belief that to be a story, something needs a plot. Most descriptions do not have a plot The dictionary agrees with me, too

 

Agreed. "An account of real or fictional events." Keyword events, something a description of a flower pot isn't likely to have.

 

Dear boyfriend/baby-daddy/whatever the hell you are to me now,

Please, please, please just leave me alone. You made me drive all the way out here, then made me feel terrible about myself, then complained about having to leave early when you know I have a 10 hour shift tomorrow. I wish I didn't have to live with you. I am so tired of doing everything by your schedule just because I'm afraid you'll leave. And if you leave, you said you won't help me. And all I need is someone to watch our son so I can go to school and go to work. The responsible thing. And God, I don't even WANT to be with you. You are a child and you drive me crazy. Can't you JUST PLEASE for once listen to me? And just do what I ask you to. I want to go home and just relax before work tomorrow. I get it. That doesn't concern you. You don't work. Or go to school. You're just a free babysitter. Whatever.

 

He's legally liable for child support, isn't he? Even if you don't live with him?

 

I'm sorry, Bay. That is a hard position to be in, I imagine, and you probably have a million thoughts running through your head. Any advice I could try to give would just be obvious and I'm afraid I would be putting words in your mouth, so I'll just keep quiet on that part, but I hear you, and I'm sorry you seem to be stuck with so many people who seem to go out of their way to be lazy and just plain mean to you, when all you want to do is look out for your son and for yourself and build a bright future. It's not fair.

I hope things get better; I'll send good thoughts your way.

 

I understand where you're coming from and I've been where you are. I don't know how it is in Florida, but here there are programs for single mothers that will pay for daycare for single mothers (if not all of it a HUGE portion of it) in nice places where they teach your baby things and they get to play with other babies. There are programs that will help you pay your rent, help you pay for food if you have to. (No, I'm not just talking about welfare though there is that if you need it) I'm sure there are things like that there. I would be shocked if there isn't. You don't have to deal with it. You're going to school, you're making a life for that beautiful son of yours, you only have to take whatever he is to you now's **** for as long as you want to. This is a temporary situation whether you decide to continue dealing with his bull**** or find another way. Take comfort in that. My thoughts are with you...

 

Trish gives great advice...surely there's friends and family who can help too so you're not dependent on this loser...what part of Florida are you in, again?

 

You know you don't have to rely on him much longer. I know he still pisses you off, but what can you do? You know for a while there I was still rooting for the guy to maybe get his ass in gear and turn his life around, maybe show a little bit of sensitivity to the stress that you're dealing with. Well I'm not gonna bank on it.

You'll get through this. That's what you do.

 

I have a rare knack of saying entirely the wrong thing in response to a situation, so don't take what I have to say too seriously as I may be very wrong, but it sounds like he needs an almighty wake-up call. What effect would putting a rocket under his backside and firing it (metaphorically, of course) have? A verbal rocket at some point may have the desired effect. Of course, if that'll get in the way of you being able to bring up your son it's not a good move, so my advice may be aimed in completely the wrong direction.

And just my own mini-rant: Why does the Job Centre's website never seem to update? Two weeks I've been checking on a daily basis, and I swear that no jobs have appeared. It's just been jobs disappearing. I've already applied for all the jobs I can on there, and nothing's coming back to me. Not even a 'Dear Mr Wilson, got your application, not enough experience, up yours, haha, yours sincerely Bernard'. Might have to start applying for bar work just to keep me busy.

 

Thanks everyone for all the support and advice. I'll be out of this situation in August. I just hate being in it right now.

@Mallory: He only has to pay child support if I ask for it, but he has no income. It'd really be a pointless exercise and I don't feel like dealing with all the drama that I KNOW I'll get from his family about it. Oh, and I live in the Tampa Bay area, way away from all my friends and family. That's one of the reasons I have to have him watch the baby right now.

 

Haha. Every time I look for jobs it seems to be the same lot. Keep looking and I'm sure something will come up, just got to be patient. You could try and get work experience, or do volunteer work to keep you busy until then?

I don't really have much to add to what others have said, but you should be proud at how you're creating a good future for your son. Hope things work out, and on the bright side at least it's only until August.

 

I'm sorry about your situation, Bay. I don't have much to add to it that hasn't already been said, but I did have a friend who ended up in a situation a bit like it. She dated a guy for two weeks and got pregnant. Although she hadn't known him for long, she decided to keep the baby and said he could be as involved as he wanted. If he wanted to do the right thing and be a father to the baby, that was great. If he would rather leave and pay child support, that was great too. But if he wanted to just leave and never have any contact with her, she was fine with that too. It turned out she wasn't pregnant after all and he left, but that's not relevant. The point is she did what was best for the baby and herself and didn't care about the father. My advice is that you do the same. The baby is the most important person here. I'm sorry to say it, but even you are on second. The baby is the innocent one here, after all.

 

Why must terrible things happen to you all?

I'd make you all llama-cakes, but I don't know how to make cakes. =(

 

My brother found a little bird on the street in the rain, and now I've put it in something dry. It won't stop shaking, and I'm just sad because it'll most likely die.

 

Lydia: How long has it been shaking? Does it seem to be getting better or worse? I'd think that it's better off now than out in the rain. So I'd say you did the right thing and helped it, even if it does die. Maybe offer it some seeds/worms/breadcrumbs or something, and give it things like leaves and shredded paper to make a nest for itself...what kind of bird is it?

It's been thundering and raining all day. And I read a news article yesterday that tweaked a really raw nerve for me and as a result I got approximately one hour of sleep last night. And I'm having that thing going on with my novel where I know what to write, but I'm not in the right mode and therefore can't write the scene I want to do in a way that won't feel bland. Blehh.

 

If you really want it to live and have time.. figure out what kind of bird it is (google what kind of birds are prevalent in your area, then go through the pics) figure out how old it is by the characteristics for it's age, figure out what it eats for that age. Some things it will be difficult for you to reproduce but you can if you try. Also birds are incredibly fragile and difficult to handraise, so don't beat yourself if you lose

I've raised baby rabbits, skunks, opposums, weasels, groundhogs, cats, dogs, and, once, a deer. Birds I've tried like hell, but they rarely make it more than a day though I have a friend who has raised several. Good luck.

 

Beginnings of a runny nose, chills, lethargic...

I hope I'm not getting sick.

 

Just broke up with my boyfriend, and it hurts.

 

I just saw on Facebook! What the hell happened dude?! xx Hope you're as 'all right' as you can be.

 

I'm okay, I guess. I explained a little in the Lads & Girls thread.

 

I had a hard day at work today. Our equipment is malfunctioning and because the data for our research isn't usable at the moment. I got off early today and have a "vacation day" tomorrow, but it's only because of these constant problems. It's really stressful. None of the equipment problems were my fault (they're just very old), and I certainly don't mind having a break, but it is hard to be able to stand there and watch things fall apart and not be able to do anything about it.

And I'm just feeling down on myself right now. I am questioning myself almost every day now, and I am extremely concerned and anxious about the future. I feel stupid and inadequate... I feel like I try very hard and I do a lot of things right, but it's just never going to be good enough. It doesn't matter what it is, although right now I am focused on my not being good enough academically. It really doesn't help when my mother is constantly whispering echos of my already present self doubt in my ear every day too.

 

Merc you are a scientist...that should remove any shred of your self doubt...you're also awesome and know how to have fun in addition to all your brilliant, hard work. Don't beat yourself up, ever. We love you!