Reading all this stuff with Xeno, I just thought, "D'aww, haha, how cute~" Now I think I might be in the same boat. Blargh. I haven't made any friends at my school yet, but I met this girl who seems friendly, and may share some of my interests. I'd really like to get to know her better, so I at least have someone to talk to. The thing is, she's really good-looking, so I get all shy and nervous and can barely manage a few words when I try to talk to her. And I'm not one of those people who like stutters and fidgets adorably when they're shy - I think I'm just coming off as creepy. This is probably an incredibly stupid question, but what kind of things make a person come off as a creep? I need to know so that I don't do them, because I'm pretty sure that I might be kind of a creep.
Yeah just talk to 'em. And creepy, don't do any touchy feelie things. And do something simple like "forget" the homework.
So me and my gf are in an open relationship and she wants a ring (not a engagement one but a I have a bf and he gave me this ring type thing) Now I really dislike rings. I have seen a few really nasty ring injuries at work. one of my first EMS calls for a de-gloving from a ring. They also gave us a bit of training in my unit of why we don’t wear rings on duty or in uniform. they also carry a lot of pathogens. So I am sort of stuck. I have moral qualms about giving her one. I know she wants it, but at the same time what if it injuries her. Any thoughts?
It depends on what line of work she's in, I guess - my best friend wears four or five rings at a time, and she's never had any issues with it, but when my parents were still married, my dad never wore his wedding ring, because he worked in construction and said it got caught in something once. If your girlfriend doesn't work in a place where it'd be a hazard, it should be fine.
As long as she does not screw around with computer insides too much at work, it should be fine. I’m more concerned on the off chance it gets stick and de-gloves her finger.
I'm a 17 year old girl, and I totally like a boy in my class. I take the same bus as him to school, so I try to utilize this and hang out with him on the bus when I have the chance. But every time it gets really awkward and I can't think of anything to talk about. I tend to be a little shy with people I don't know, and I just wish that I could be myself around him, but it's so hard when I can't come up with anything to say. I'm always so nervous around him, and my mind turns completely blank when I see him. I don't really want to tell my friends that I like him, so that's why I'm posting it here instead, I just need to get it off my chest, at least a little. So do any of you have any advice on how I can get to know him more, or what I can talk about with him? We mostly talk about school, but I try to ask him about music and things like that as well..
Try to talk to him with another friend and one of his or something of the sort, whittle it down till you are comfortable with talking to him alone.
The funny thing is that the shy, not knowing what to say crap continues into adulthood. Fortunately as an adult you can just say, "sorry, I am nervous and being a bit of a knob" and that usually gets a bit of a laugh, shit I cringed myself reading that back. As a kid/ teenager it is bloody difficult, cause hormones are going mental everywhere. This sounds like some Oprah Winfrey bullshit but concentrate on what you like, on what your 'hobbies' are (I mean tunes/ films, books, or whatever) then discuss it. If they don't like it then perhaps you have fuck all in common. That is my advice.
Not shore if I am a great person to give advice. Whenever I am nervous I just remember one thing “ the gods favor the bold”. All the good things in my life came out of being bold. The idea of talking to him with a friend and such might be helpful. Also just think about this, What is the Worse that can happen? It’s not going to kill you. high school is a small part of your life. what is the worst thing that can happen.Also sometimes the fear and nervousness can be fun. Wish I felt it more sometimes.
To get to know him, you could just try asking him about himself. People like talking about themselves. Also, James Berkley's post is all kinds of true and you should listen to him.
When you're hanging out with him, jump into something you like and see if he likes it too. I've done this with a lot of people who are now my friends; I jump into something like, "Hey, last Saturday I was watching Doctor Who..." or "Do you like Doctor Who?", something like that. If they like it too (as my friends did/do), they'll jump right into the convo. If not, at least you can explain what it is and why you like it so much, and then he could get into it and you'll have something in common, or he'll say, "That reminds me of..." and you could like what he talks about. Just jump in with whatever.
Ok I'm back for some more guy interpretation advice!! First I'll give some background info. My brother has a soccer coach who has a son that comes to the games and practices to help coach. He's really nice and talkative and thus talks to the parents (and siblings) of the boys on the team at games. I've become friends with him because of this, and like I said he's really nice, loves soccer and he's fun to talk to. He's a couple years older than me and I'm not super good friends with him, but I did kind of like him for a little while. However it wasn't anything major and as I didn't think anything would happen I let it go and things were all good. There's the backgroud, here's the interpretation-advice needing part. Today after the game he messaged me on facebook (first time) and we started talking. Partway through he told me that I should watch the first two paranormal activity movies and then he'd take me to see the third-his words (at the game we had been talking about paranormal activity 3 since he just saw it). We then talked a little bit about how he wanted to see how much it would scare me and I eventually said that horror movies weren't really my thing. He then asked me what kind of movies I did like and said he could watch whatever. No dates or actual movies were set up other than the possability of going to a movie. So now to the question-WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?! Is he sort of trying to ask me out? Am I reading to much into this? What does this mean? Any advice is welcome lol
I think he means he would like to take you out, but is nervous to ask outright, so is hiding it behind film talk, if you want to go out with him I would pick a film you like and suggest to him you go together, I am willing to bet he will jump at the chance regardless of film choice
A while back you had a similar issue right? (Before the Xeno monopoly) I'd say he is asking you out, just doesn't know how to say it. Just recommend a movie you can both enjoy and just go for it, see what happens.
There's this girl I met and I'm pretty sure I like her. She doesn't go to my school, generally I see her about twice a week (One time with others, second just me and her) and a while ago we went into london together, with her sister and her friends, but we ditched them and walked off. What was weird was that we walked everywhere holding hands and cuddling on the train/bus. At one point she fell asleep when I was holding onto her. One problem, she's two years older than me. And we're both quite young so its more obvious here. I don't know weither to act on it or not though, thats the problem. (She's 16 and I'm 14 btw). Any ideas would be apreciated!
AltonReed: If your okay with it, your Parent/Guardian is and the same for hers. Two years really is nothing.(Although check out the pedophile law, see if its legal[or I should say legal in a few years.])
It's not illegal in the UK lol Unless you're doing something sexual. I don't a 16 year old can be a paedophile by law (I've never heard of any cases like that xD)
I just meant two years sorry my man, I'm not a worldwide law book. Hell I'm not a law book at all. I say go for it.
I still don't know if she likes me though, just because she held my hand which she could have done with everyboy she hangs out with, doesn't mean she likes me. My friend said I do need to find out, because if she doesn't like me she is leading me on.
