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    Meanest vs. Nicest

    Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Lavarian, Jun 7, 2009.

    What is the meanest, most hurtful thing anyone has ever said to you? Now, I don't mean name calling from some bully at school. I mean something that someone who means or meant a lot to you said. Now to contrast that, what is the nicest thing someone has ever said to you? Something that you remember to this day and still feel warm about?
    (Oh, and you can have more than one of both as you remember, let's just keep it to one pair at a time for the moment)

    I'll start I suppose.

    Meanest:

    You're not the type of guy that a girl goes for, Rob. You're the type that she settles for.
    - My (now seperated) wife.

    Nicest:

    When I'm around you, you make me strive to be a better person.

    - An Ex-girlfriend
     
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    Meanest: I can't remember an exact quote, but he basically just told me all the time what a ridiculous, stupid, unattractive person I was and that I was lucky to have him because no one else would ever want to be with me. (my ex...he's awesome.)

    Nicest: My best friend when I was dating Josh (paraphrased above) told me one night after Josh got drunk, got mad at me, left our house and texted me to tell me he wanted to break up basically that I shouldn't let anything Josh ever said to me bother me because I was a package deal...not only was I pretty, but I was also intelligent, fun, and the nicest person he had ever met. He wasn't exactly a heart-to-heart, hug you and make you feel better kind of person, so it meant a lot to hear him tell me that.
     
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    Nicest: You are the specialist mum in the whole widest world and you make us special. - My 5 year old son and 3 year old daughter.
     
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    Meanest: I don't see what you can do with this. Why don't you get into something better then this stupidity? It's unrealistic and a terrible goal in the first place.-My aunt about my writing

    Nicest: They cannot stop to think what writing is like. You have a brilliant mind and I want you to use that mind. You're like me when I was a kid. An innocent ball of expression. I love you so much.-Grandfather whom died when I was 11 about my writing I loved him so much
     
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    Meanest: You are lazy and stupid and completely worthless. You might as well go out and do drugs and become a welfare mom because you will never amount to anything. --my stepdad

    Nicest: You are doing an amazing job. You are creative and you work hard to build our students up. I know you care about our students and you are making a difference in their lives. --my boss
     
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    I quote these word for word:

    Meanest: You get uglier and uglier every time I see you. Was just a guy who hung out with the same group of people I did, I chose it because it's the worst thing I ever believed.

    Nicest: You're uber fantasically special. If your specialness, and an average person's specialness, were turned into racing cars, and they had to race round a track full of gorillas and trees and old people, your car would own the track and skillfully win by a mile. As said by one of my closest friends.
    :)
     
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    Meanest: 'Hey come here, me and Linda have something special to tell you'.

    (I run over to them in the corner of the playground, full of foolish anticipation. I'm nearly 5, and this is my 3rd day at school).

    Linda and Meanie, in strange chanting voices: 'Break friends, break friends, never never make friends.'

    (What? But Linda asked me to her birthday party only yesterday. I've already drawn a card...)

    Linda and Meanie then pretend they can neither see nor hear me. For the rest of the year (or so it felt).

    Nicest: (Last Thursday, comment from student feedback form) She is sometimes tired but she always find time for us and smiles. When I was unhappy she helped me a lot. That's why she is the best teacher which we are love.
     
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    Meanest: "That's the ugliest, most disgusting thing I've ever looked at in my entire life." --My former best friend, in regards to my face, my outfit or possibly myself in general; the sentiment remains the same.

    Nicest: "I love you for your mind, so elegant and verbose... Educated and self-assured. I love you for your heart of gold, harm to none, a meekness that we can all only aspire toward." --My ex-boyfriend, from the first and only love letter I ever received
     
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    Meanest - 'Do you have to run, or can you just walk away from home?'

    Nicest - 'He has to sprint!'

    Fail :D
     
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    Meanest: "When your hair hangs in your face like that, you look disgusting. Also, you're dressed like a bogan, and it doesn't help that you're fat. You should lose some weight." - My Dad. Thanks Dad, and you wonder why I avoid talking to you.

    Nicest: "You saved my life, you stopped me from killing myself"- My Mum (in reference to a period of time when she was severely depressed and the only person she could count on was myself).
     
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    Wow, wtf? What a nice father...
     
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    Yeah, my Dad's a socially-retarded asshole.
    He'll never apologise for all the awful things he's done and said to me, I know this, because he told me himself.
     
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    Meanest:
    Me: Aww, look. You're so cute."
    Little Kid: You're ugly. *kicks shin and walks away*
    That's probably not the meanest. but it's really all i can come up with right now. I try to block bad memories.


    Nicest: I think your calling is amazing. You're essentially a missionary. Jared, new friend I met this weekend, while talking about this weekend. It was a good one.
     
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    Happened last night

    Boyfriend: I can't believe your doing this. You need to relax your muscles. You never think. Your useless and I have had enough.
    Me: I am so sorry A
    Boyfriend: No your not. As I said I have had enough :storms out of house:

    Nicest thing on the day before.

    Taxi Driver: You seem like a sweet girl.
     
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    You should punch your boyfriend for being such an ass, Obezyanka
     
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    :Sighs: Well he is a dunderhead, and it has been like this for almost four years. He never admits his faults. On again off again. I blame it on his Narcissitic Personality Disorder. Well I guess I should not have said I would let him do it greekstyle if he let me sleep.

    Moving on.
     
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    Just punch him in the face.
    Lol.

    Sorry, I'm in an anti-male mood.
     
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    LOL yeah feel the same here. ;)
     
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    It's not the gender, it's the narcissism, and a controlling nature. This kind of remark is a red flag:
    This kind of remark serves only to tear down someone's self-esteem. It is the hallmark of an abuser.
     
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    I genuinely can't think of the meanest thing anyone has ever said to me. Like Emily, I do a ctrl-alt-delete to garbage messages. I'm gay. I'm sure some hateful crap has come my way, but it's not on my hard drive anymore.

    Nicest?

    A person named Adam, with whom I attended college, once told me, "I love that you think everyone is beautiful."
     
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    Hi Cogito, well I do admit I am lazy and I do ignore him asking me to do things so he repeats himself which drives him even more madder. As I said he has been diagonised with Narcissitic Personality Disorder. Something which he doesn't accept.

    Wreybies you are adorable :) I think that way too.
     
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    I need to adapt to your mindset ASAP. :)

    More often than not, I find it challenging to remember good things and easy to recall the negative. How do you do that? :D
     
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    It's a choice. The positive is worth remembering. The petty swipes deserve oblivion.
     
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    For me, it was just a realization:

    1) People who will make an assumption/decision/judgement about me because I am gay without actually knowing me = their assumption/decision/judgement is based off of an opinion, not a fact since there was never any opportunity for facts to be gathered.

    2) Opinions rarely answer to reason.

    3) Things which are unreasonable - over there.

    4) Me - over here.

    5) Here > There.

    I learned loooooooong ago to never let an opinion masquerade as a fact. ;)


    Edit ~ This train of thought works for absolutely anything that you feel makes you stick out or seem different. ANYTHING.
    Just remove the word gay and plug in whatever thing you think people prejudge you on.
     
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    Meanest:

    It was something like,

    'You really are a crazy f!cking bitch. You've got such a f!cking attitude and the sad part is that you really believe that you're sane' - A complete arsehole.

    Nicest:

    Wow...I found it harder to remember the nicest things.

    Just about anything that Matt has said to me, especially when I've been at a very low point, or when he's complimenting my work. He's helped me through alot of bad times with his wonderful words.

    Recently though, he said

    'See? Before the party you were thinking of leaving early because you felt like you didn't look good enough. Look what happened - You were the most beautiful girl there'

    Obviously I denied it but I was beaming with happiness.

    The most special, though, is one that has stuck with me ever since. When My granddad saw a prom photo of me, and I'd felt so ugly and horrible that day that I couldn't stand to see the photos. (I was 16).

    He said to my mum, 'She looks absolutely stunning'. Nothing else needed to be said. It's because It was him that it meant so much. I cried alot that night - the fact that I felt ugly didn't matter anymore, because he thought I was beautiful, no matter what. Granddad was always a man of few words, but great meaning, everytime - if not meaning, then humour :D
     

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