Jealousy rears it ugly head

By soujiroseta · Mar 31, 2008 · 974 · 3
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  1. firstly i am by no means perfect. i am just a normal human being like everyone else. just had to say that:redface:

    anyway so today was supposed to be the day that i asked the girl that i liked out to lunch and as these things always have a habit of biting me in the ass it did just that. i was there ready and poised, the conversation was good and everything was perfect...until he came.:mad: he calls himself Delicious, dont know where that came from but anyway, this guy arrives on the scene and all her attention just shifts in the other direction. we were sort of seated from left to right with "delicious" on the far right, the girl i like (lets call her keira) sitting in the centre and me talking into her back while she giggled at everything he said.:(

    so ol' ''delicious" starts showing off pics of his girlfriend and im a bit more at ease thinking keira's done herself in but to the contrary she almost drools over the screen. i got up and went to the toilet. splashed water on my face before i said something i'd have regretted.

    my friend asked me if i had feelings for her and i kept quiet. is it normal to feel jealous like this even though you're not actually ''with'' someone and how do i fix it because these feelings aren't going away they get stronger every time i try to ask her out. right now i am unsure whether she likes me or whether she's just toying with me. is it advisable to ask one of her close friends to do a reconnaissance mission for me behind enemy lines or should i confront her myself?

    is this normal behavior or am i just over-reacting?
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  1. ChristiMac
    I think you may be over-reacting, but that in itself is normal. You sound a bit young, so I am going to assume this is a High School romance, especially to the reference to the seating; it sounded like a cafeteria or something. Anyway, I would strongly advise against talking to her friends, as they are most likely to tell her about it. Believe me, that route can only end in humiliation.
    I would advise you to keep doing as you are doing, and if she does (stupidly) continue to show interest in "Delicious" then you are going to have to nobly admit defeat and move on. I can assure you, she will one day recognize her mistake. Though I know it's poor consolation now. So, I would say, keep doing as you are, and even if you only remain her friend, at least she'll have someone as thoughtful and courteous as you as her friend.
    Sorry I can't be more proactive than that, but it's all I can recommend. Sometimes young ladies don't care about what's good for them.
    ChristiMac, Mar 31, 2008
  2. (Mark)
    Delicious sounds like he's very, very confident in himself, and that's what most girls in high school are going to want more than anything else. Walk up to the girl and ask her out. If she says no, so what? It might hurt for a little while, but in good time you'll find somebody else.

    Have some faith in yourself. Look in the mirror, and tell yourself that you're not going to let Delicious or anyone else make you feel like less of a person. If you don't believe in yourself, people are going to walk all over you and get all of the girls.
    (Mark), Mar 31, 2008
  3. Luminous
    Normally I would say "Man up." jokingly to this kind of thing, but that may come off harsh :p

    Or I would say go gay and life will be easier, but...I discarded that one too :O

    So instead I will say...Choices are up for everyone's personal discretion. In life, your mind is the only thing to decide what is 'good' and 'bad' as quality isn't measurable. In the end, whatever decision she makes isn't a mistake, but her own discretion in her choice.

    All you can do is come off as the kind of guy you want her to think you as. I hope things work out. :love:
    Luminous, Apr 3, 2008
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