Something Crazy I've Realized about Humans...

By Link the Writer · Feb 18, 2016 · ·
  1. So stupid me decided today to look at some social networking sites. BAD MOVE!! In summary: I've read at least a 30-minute long flame war in one such site where the combatants were the typical "I'M OFFENDED!" on one side of the ring and the "SHUT UP, SJW SCUM!" on the other.

    That's when it hit me.

    I've realized that the crazy goes both ways. The "offended" can be just as bigoted as "the offender" by assuming that everyone from the same group as "the offender" are all equally as horrible. And going out and labeling the entire group as bad makes them just as bad as the people who actually hurt them; plus the innocent being smeared for something they didn't even do might actually resent "the offended".

    The interesting part is that "the offended" is so caught up in their own pain that they can't, or don't, realize that what they're doing is basically exactly what the "offender" did, only in reverse and based on pain. They take their anger out on people whose only crime was being born the same group as "the offender".

    What's even more interesting is this: those who resent it might decide to just give up trying and be the horrible pricks "the offended" think they are. TV Tropes has a name for this: Then Let Me Be Evil. Just as it says, if someone thinks you're a monster and won't hear you out, why not just give them what they want? Why not just give them the monster they're looking for? After all, it's what they think you are anyway, it's not like they're gonna give you a chance to show that you're not a bad person.

    Yet, by doing that, you prove to them that every suspicion they had of you to be correct!! By you being caught up in your own pain that you decide to just be what they think you are.

    It's a vicious cycle!!


    So you've got:

    #1- The offender.

    #2- The offended so blinded by his/her pain that he/she takes it out on people from the offender's group.

    #3- Some members of that group get pissed enough to just go, "Fuck this" and be what the offended say they are.

    #4- By doing that, those people prove to the offended what he/she likely suspects is true.

    #5- See (1)

    It's a vicious cycle.

Comments

  1. lastresort
    All those "Link the Writer" types are all the same. they just think reading facebook is a waste of time.:)
    (on a more serious note-F#) I can be guilty of playing victim, I admit but also the supposed bully too. But I try to have a sense of humour about it all, which usually brings me undone, and I lose all effectiveness.:)
  2. Lifeline
    @lastresort : Yeah, by this account I am a 'Link the Writer' type too. Who are you to judge with a sweeping brush? You don't know me at all. Sorry, but your post does not sit well with me.
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  3. lastresort
    don't sit with it then.
  4. Link the Writer
    Don't make me have to go over there... I'll report if I must.
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  5. lastresort
    You don't get it and you wouldn't be the first to not get my sense of humour. I hate facebook too so I can be lumped in with you guys as well if you want. But my main complaint about facebook is the vacuous nature of the posts, people trying to impress each other with their knowledge and "amazing" links. The flame wars that Link is talking about are more prevalent on anonymous username forums like this one.
    No but hang on, this is interesting isn't it ,because this actual conversation can become a flame war, and we can analyse it too. Are you and Link the victim? And I am the heartless flamer?
    I liked Link's analysis actually and he's right about the victim becoming just as irksome as the bully. "how can they say such a thing!" They become outraged, full of emotion and lose all rationality.
  6. Lifeline
    This isn't about hating or not-hating fb. I just took exception to a broad category you implied. I don't like people making sweeping judgements and that was said by the actual words. We are writers here and trained to pay attention to what gets said.

    And that is all I am going to say. *This is Lifeline signing off* :D
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  7. lastresort
    Then let me be evil?
  8. lastresort
    I'll try to simplify this further. I was just giving you an ironic example of a sweeping generalisation. "Those Link types hate facebook" is a deliberate sweeping generalisation." Get it?
  9. lastresort
    And interestingly Lifeline took my fake "sweeping generalisation" personally. Nothing to do with her anyway. All the data is right here to analyse. Perfect!
  10. Kingtype
    Link and lastresort

    Dudes chill, ain't nothing on the internet or heck in real life ever that serious unless its some form of assault or exceptionally cruel behaviour. I mean I don't really have any like authority to exercise given the position I have and so I can't warn you all. I'll leave that up to the bigger mods to sort out but please can't you all just relax? huh? Quit the rustling of the jimmies.

    Honestly.

    Chil-lax bros. I know I'm probably being a little unsympathetic about this and all but I just don't get it. You can't be wasting your energy on getting so heated and trying to rope each other into some keyboard warrior logic brawl. Its like Bruce Lee said 'Be water my friend'.

    Cool, ya know?

    Like Fonzie.

    Anyway I might not be making sense but really relax. :)

    Quit the rustling of the jimmies.

    Don't like to see ya'll get mad and everything. I think we'd all prefer to be more friendly and civil and benefit from it. :D
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  11. lastresort
    I love bruce lee by the way
  12. AlcoholicWolf
    Use it for character development, Link!
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  13. cydney
    I enjoy reading and writing like this AND the replies. I so often write about other people and my feelings toward them. Later, I look back and see I should've included myself in those 'other' people.

    For one thing, it's probably true - I'm just as bad as the folks I write about. And for another thing, I've come to believe realizing that I'm ALSO part of the problem makes my writing more inviting or attractive, so to speak.

    I'm not talking about emotional journaling - can't help that! I'm talking about writing when we're trying to convince readers regarding something we believe to be true. There's a name for that type of writing - expositional? I don't know - something like that.

    But you get what I'm saying. :)
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