I'm writing a difficult character and could use a little advice. She's recently moved back to her hometown after divorcing her emotionally and verbally abusive husband. I want to show how badly the abuse damaged her self-esteem and self-image without making her come off as whiny and self-pitying. She's the MC for my novel, in which, while still trying to recover her equilibrium and figure out how she fits in with family and friends she hasn't seen in nearly a decade and figure out how to heal from the damage her husband did to her, her life is even more complicated by being bitten by a werewolf and finding out she's going to become on one the next full moon. By the end of the novel, the challenges she's facing learning about the supernatural community, keeping it a secret from her family, learning that her best friend has been keeping a pretty big secret from her since they were in high school, and surviving and beating two men who want to kill her, she will re-discover her old self-confidence and begin healing emotionally, making the transformation not only from woman to wolf, but from damaged to budding heroine. The story is 1st person, so I can get inside her head and show the doubts she's having about herself, but I'm having trouble finding the right balance between showing her doubts and fears, and making her sound like she's a helpless, attention seeking mouse wallowing in self-pity. She has an innate core of strength, and I want that to show as well. I also want to keep the transformation realistic - she can't go from doubting herself to saving the day too quickly.