I am heavily familiar with my characters. One of my key heroes was created when I was five. My major antagaonist was created when I was seven. Everyone else was created slowely but surely along the way, some evolving from old ideas, few truely real to me. Knowing my characters this much, I realize I opened myself up to one of the most dangerous aproaches in writing.... They have become too real to me. All of them.... They speak to me, I hear their voices in my head.... I'm not writing fiction anymore as far as I'm concerned.... I'm telling a real story about fictional people, if that makes any sense. I have been warned by another writing friend that I need to stay in control.... If I try and figure my characters out too much, they'll start telling me how to live my life, which was, in her (my friend's) case, a potentially sucidal situation. But I feel like the realistic feel gives a charm to my writing.... Makes it feel so emotional.... I cry when I kill off characters often. What should my aproach be?