Yeah, abandon ship, shit's going down fast. Only the best friend gets to say that. Here's the decoder, guys: 1. If partner asks partner, partner is seeking reassurance. The correct answer is always, "Darling mine, you always look beautiful" or whatever level of mush your relationship can handle. 2. If best friend /sister is the one asked, the one asking is seeking the truth. I'd be mad if my best friend/sis let me leave the house looking like a fool. 3. If best friend/sister is not avail, and partner is asked "Does this look OK?" and there is time for a clothing change, and it doesn't look OK, use your discretion, and offer an alternative in a postive way. ("I lovel that red thing you wore to the--- That's my favorite." Or, "It's nice but I like the red dress better.") If there is no time for a clothing change, pump the partner up; you've been asked because partner is not confident the outfit works.
My wife will alternate between "don't I look fat?" to "don't I look skinny?" How the fuck am I supposed to answer either of those? They're like logic teasers where neither can be correct. The funny part is my wife is maybe 125lbs soaking wet and built like a Brazilian belly dancer. Seriously, her shadow is sexier than most people's corporeality... so what the hell are we talking about? (and, yes, I'm fully aware that self-image has nothing to do with objectively, so spare me the platitudinous fire hoses)
What a question. As I consider myself a ghost writer. Stopping now that I have been doing since 1994... is probably not even possible. A mere thought pops into my head and a poem can be born. I challenge myself by asking people to give me a concept that they would like a poem for.... and yes it happens. Life is filled with poetry, and I am able to express it in poem.
No you aren't missing anything at all. It is a long story which I didn't share. I will say my ghost is actually quite spiritual.
Ghostwriting is a very specific term that means a very specific thing. A ghostwriter is someone who write a book for someone else who takes all the credit. Ghost writers are compensated, but they also must sign contracts that they will never disclose that they actually wrote the books that were ghostwritten. There are no actual ghosts or spirits involved in this in anyway.
To you I say - HA !. If poetry can provide pictures through text, and use crazy terms like personification.... I challenge you now to provide me a better term for what I believe is a spirit / ghost assisting me in my writing. Yes, I do believe in spirits both Holy and otherwise. My life experience has led me to believe in things that most may not.
Most of us aren't here to play games like this. I suggest you familiarize yourself with some writing terms or at least be open to learning them when someone tries to help you out. Say "HA!" to me all you want, but I'm not the one who doesn't know what a ghostwriter is.
"Ghostwriter" does have a specific, commonly understood meaning among writers, so using that term a different way is confusing imo. A ghostwriter is someone who writes a book etc. for another person and gets paid for it, while the person they wrote it for puts their own name on it as being the author. A term others would understand better for what you're describing might be a "muse?"
As to the OP, what would make me stop writing is if I stopped enjoying it, if I just didn't feel like it any more.
No sorry "muse" just doesn't fit. I could go with Spirit writer - but then brings me right back to ghost. I will make it simple for everybody because I am not here to debate or do I really feel the need to explain ... so i will just say I am a writer.
Spirit writer would eliminate the confusion, because no one uses that term for an anonymous hired writer.
No to all of these. 1) I write as an outlet for my imagination. 2) Yeah, it fulfills a creative outlet, however, I do have different creative outlets as well (drawing, music, crafting to name a few), so doing another thing wouldn't make me stop seeing as it hasn't before. 3)Like I said for number 1, I write as an outlet for my imagination, so no. I wouldn't stop. When I started writing, I didn't even consider publishing. In fact, there's a lot of stories and poems currently have on my computer now that I never did anything with and never planned to either. I just enjoyed writing them. 4)If I went blind, I'd probably record my voice telling a story. 5)Same thing if I lost my fingers. 6)I am not married nor in a relationship and I don't think I ever will be so it is not something that would ever be an obstacle, but even if I were married, if someone is not willing to support me at something I love doing, then they are not the person I want to be in a relationship with. Pretty much, the only thing that would stop me from writing (as far as I can see) is for me to lose my entire imagination, but I have a knack of speaking too soon, so I'm going to shut up now.
The only thing that would stop me from writing would be if I died or if an epiphany came to me that made me want to stop for some reason. My heart and my mind always gravitated towards creativity and fiction. If I wasn't a writer I'd probably be a painter or musician. What does writing do for me? It helps me come to terms with things, events in my life and tribulations. It gives me closure in a way. I'm too much of an introverted person to speak or share anything with anyone so a lot of my energy comes out in my writing. Now that we can self publish and share things with others through different platforms it gives me more options. I've been writing since I was nine. I've been an author for only a year. If nobody finds an interest in my writing, I would be content with writing and creating books for myself.
I use words to think so writing helps me think. When it comes to fiction something different is going on.
If a spirit really were writing through you, then the spirit would be the ghost writer, not you, because the spirit is doing the writing on your behalf. That would mean you were more of a proxy or a medium. I don’t believe this is the case, however, and you are in fact simply a writer taking inspiration from spiritual beliefs. Which is fine, of course, but not to be confused with being a ghost writer in the literary sense.
I think the only thing that would make me stop would be if the passion to write disappeared for good. I’ve been writing for sixteen years and even when I’ve had dry spells the passion has eventually returned. A partner did once ask me me to pick between him or my writing in the past. That relationship ended shortly after.
Being a perfectionist comes with the side effect of not being able to think of anything but writing. Nothing I write is ever good enough. I just keep going, until in the hope that, one day, it will be. So how do I deal with not ever reaching perfect?
