For over twenty years I've been told I write well and know how to tell a story. Today, on the queries sub-forum, I got this comment: "Your query is poorly written with bad grammar and punctuation, poor choice of words, lousy sentence structure, no unique voice… showing me that you can’t write." This is the first time anyone has said anything like this to me. What's interesting is that it mirrors my own feelings about my writing. When I read it I feel that it's not good. It's not as bad as it was decades ago, but it's not good. I'm trying to decide whether this is something I should ignore and/or dismiss as simply the opinion of someone who doesn't like my writing (it's going to happen) or take it as a challenge, get mad and do something about it. Like focus even harder on figuring out where I'm going wrong and practicing till my fingers bleed. Which brings me to the point of this thread. How can we really get the most out of harsh criticism? Use it as motivation to do better? Let it toughen us up? Dismiss it? I ask because eventually, every one of us will have to deal with criticism that lacks any positive angle. So how do we turn negative criticism into something worthwhile?