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  1. waitingforzion

    waitingforzion Active Member

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    I just gave a negative critique and now I feel bad

    Discussion in 'The Art of Critique' started by waitingforzion, Jan 19, 2015.

    I just critiqued a poem that a guy wrote, and I feel bad because I looked at his picture and he looks happy and I don't want to insult anyone.
     
  2. A.M.P.

    A.M.P. People Buy My Books for the Bio Photo Contributor

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    If it's up for critique than there can be no wrong unless you wrote "You suck. Uninstall word from your PC"
     
  3. Void

    Void Contributing Member

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    So did you critique his work? Or did you insult him? A bit of both?
    Critique is not inherently insulting, telling someone of the supposed flaws in their work is a very useful thing for any creative individual. Generally, most humans (but rather less than preferable) seem to be naturally predisposed towards kindness in certain circumstances, so I tend to view criticism as more honest than praise.
     
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    thirdwind Contributing Member Contest Administrator Reviewer Contributor

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    I don't think your critique was that harsh. Usually what I'll do is say two things I disliked about the piece for every one thing I liked. It's what a professor back in college used to do when giving critique, and I think it's a good model to follow.

    The only other thing I'll say is that you need to elaborate a bit more. Offer suggestions for improvement. You also need to define what you mean by rhythm since you state that your idea of poetry is different from most people's. Little things like that can really improve a critique.
     
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    123456789 Contributing Member Contributor

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    I disagree with this. A mediocre piece (which is most) isn't really going to have much to like. Coming up with stuff just to be nice (ohh, that was intriguing or I think you might be on to something) just tricks people into believing they're better than they are.
     
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    Just be honest with your critique, cite examples of what you think is wrong or could be improved. Some people respond more to criticism while other respond better to praise.
     
  7. Shadowfax

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    What a rubbish reason to feel bad!

    There are avatars on here (the picture where this guy looks bad) which aren't even the same sex as the poster!

    As long as your critique isn't deliberately unkind, and you give examples of what you dislike (I was recently critiqued for "some obvious mistakes" where the critiquer hadn't even got the manners to point out what even one of those might be) so that the author can learn from what you say. Yes, it's just your opinion, and the author is free to think "He knows nothing! I know much better!"
     
  8. Mckk

    Mckk Moderator Staff Supporter Contributor

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    Are you sure you're not just starting threads cus you like the attention...? I click on a number of threads on this forum and most of them are from you...

    Anyway, as long as you're kind in the way you communicated your critique, even a negative one, there's nothing to feel bad about.
     
  9. Selbbin

    Selbbin I hate you Contributor

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    I just read your critique. It's fine.
     
  10. Christine Ralston

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    My idea of a negative critique is something that bashes the author. If you are constructively offering advise in an attempt to help the author improve his or her writing, then it is a positive critique. :)
     
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    KaTrian A foolish little beast. Staff Supporter Contributor

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    You could see it as motivational feedback. Gives you a confidence boost. I don't think it's trickery, unless, of course, you go way overboard or really downright lie. But usually you can give motivational feedback of just about anything.
     
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    Is that harsh?
     
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    No, because no reasonable person could take it seriously :)
     
  14. NewEnterprise

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    "Uninstall word" made me lol :p

    But yeah, if it's constructive and not just abuse at their attempt then it's always fine :) I love getting some fairly critical feedback myself
     
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    Selbbin I hate you Contributor

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    When I read through the workshop and my immediate reaction is 'this is utter garbage', I choose not to start the laborious process of trying to explain why. And since I don't want to simply write 'This is absolute shit, WTF were you thinking?' I simply don't reply. If there seems to be a grain of hope or I have a particular point to make, only then do I leave a comment. But then I feel it's pretty useless.

    Also, if I read something and feel it is fine so I have nothing to add, I generally don't reply either.
     
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    The world needs takers, too.
     
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    Selbbin I hate you Contributor

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    I do my fair share of reviews.
     
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    I've done a good number of critiques in my time. They are nothing to ever feel bad about. Stop feeling bad.
     
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    Link the Writer Flipping Out For A Good Story. Contributor

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    Unless you made personal attacks on the person (ie, "You should quit writing forever, because you suck. This shit makes Twilight look like The Odyssey!") then you're fine.

    As for the 'his avatar looked so happy', well, I'm fairly certain no one here thinks I'm actually an orca whale typing this in the bottom of an ocean somewhere. :D Just critique, and if he/she gets into a huffy fit about it then its all on them. Don't want it critiqued? Don't put it up. Or put it up on FanFiction.net.
     
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    I don't think I can hide my disappointment upon hearing this.

    I am actually the president of the Voter Apathy Party, though. Many people were disappointed in the 54.9% turn out rate in the 2012 election -- and none more so than us. I'm hoping that by 2040 we can get rate down to 0%.
     
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    We always hear about writers needing to develop thick skin but I guess it really does apply to critiquers too, come to think of it. I didn't see the critique but as others have said, they asked for it and you are helping them polish their work, not just putting it down. But if you don't feel good about it, maybe try "the sandwich method" next time. If anyone doesn't know, that means you say something positive (but true) at the beginning and end, and put the criticisms in the middle. That way the writer gets to begin and end on a high note.
     
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    Link the Writer Flipping Out For A Good Story. Contributor

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    That always seemed like a good method for me when I critiqued (well, barely, but still!) I have this suspicion that some new writers who get upset aren't doing it because they have an ego that needs to be soothed, but because they simply don't understand the difference between constructive criticism with an aim to improve their work, and criticism with the intent to insult and belittle. They only see it as 'wow, everyone hates my work and me!' Then they get defensive about it, which only makes the situation worse because the other side thinks that this is yet another egotistical author who want people to worship their stuff.

    It's hard for me to judge, so I just cover my bases.
     
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    Link the Writer Flipping Out For A Good Story. Contributor

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    I like this best.
     

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