For my part, I believe in steering, but not erecting concrete walls. Obviously, there are exceptions. I have taken firm actions to discourage my son from poking things (like forks) into electrical receptacles and climbing up bookcases. But I have never had to actively forbid either of my children from reading something inappropriate. It has always been enough to tell them they would be better off reading something else for now. Besides, I know just how much more appealing something is if it is forbidden! By age 17, though, either I have done my job as a parent, or I will not prevail anyway. There does come a point where you have to trust them to make use of whatever good judgmnent you have already managed to impart.
yeah, it wasn't as if my dad said never ever read that book. he just said that i am too young at the moment, and that was the end of that. simple. but even if i had argued about it, it is his job as a parent to be firm and to do what he thinks is appropriate. don't we all. yeah, at seventeen that is a little over the top. i was on about younger children, like under the age of ten or so. Heather
When I was 12 I was reading Clan of the Cave Bear, the librarian thought my Mom was nuts. But it was a good book and it's not like it gave me any ideas I hadn't already thought of. Now if I'd been reading it when I was 10 or younger, that would be different. Like Cogito said steering children away from inappropriate books is the best way to go. And once a kid becomes a teenager, outright banning anything other then porn, or hate propaganda is a little extreme. Recommending a different book and letting them know why you think the book is bad is the best way to go at that stage.
The only thing I don't want my kids reading is Porn not until they at least reach the age when its unavoidable. Until then I keep that away from them. Symphony my eldest daughter age nine loves watching sci fi and horror. Now i can't sit ion her room making sure she never watches it late. So i say to her. Thats fine you want to watch a Horror film be warned if it scares you its your own fault. She respects that she still watches it. But she has been warned. My son Sebastian well he's only 6 so he's not into books. And the only movies he likes are kid movies and Batman and Spiderman. Oh and Ultimate Avengers.
i am sorry but just "warning" kids at this age is not enough. a six year old, even after being warned is still nearly always going to do it. and it is not nesessarily being scared of the film, but some films and books have subjects in them that a child should not be subjected to. simple. i would not want my six year old reading watching "15 and pregnant" as the material is way too inapropriate. same goes for books. Heather
My son certainly does not. But Symphony nearly 10 has her choice. And for a Nine year old is very mature. Its how your kids behave i think. because that helps make the dicissions.
I have a philosophy about work, but it definitely also applies to family. If you treat someone like a responsible adult, he or she will usually step up to the plate and meet or exceed your expectations. But if you treat someone like a 3 year old who has to be monitored for every action, that person will live down to that expectation as well.
yea, but what if that person is three?! then they need to be treat thier age. yea, of course that has to be taken into consideration, like i have always been very mature for my age. so thats hows and is accounted for. yea, ten is different. at that age they are growing up and they should be introduced to topics that adults would talk about. ok, not thrown in at the deep end, but they should stop haveing everythinsg covered away from them. i am talking about monitering younger children
yes, i do now as i am slighlty older now and my paretns think that they are ok. but there is still one or two myy dad is not happy about me seeing. after all they were rated 18 for a reason, not just for the crack of it. but, after the age of about 10/12 my dad and mam lightened up on that and weren't too bothered. the same applied for books.
The 4 R movies I've seen that I can remember are: -The Blues Brothers -Little Miss Sunshine -Caddyshack -Animal House The first two are only for swearing, really. And while the second two do have their fair share of sex and nudity, my parents know I'm not that impressionable, so they were fine with it. (In fact, my mom was the one who suggested I see Caddyshack, and my dad the one who showed me Animal House.)
yea, but where you seven when you watched them, or the age you are now?? that is the difference. like i have seen Wolf Creek, which even though i was thirteen when i watched it, it upset me and i didn't like it. now, think about a seven year old girl watching that film. you should put a frim hand on what your young children watchj i think.
Blues Brothers: 11, Little Miss Sunshine and Caddyshack: 12, and Animal House: 13. But what point were you trying to make with your post? Were you against me seeing those movies or something? It sounded like you were just talking for the sake of talking...
ok, i will say it plain and simple so that hopefully everyone will be able to understand. i think that the books anf films children under the age of ten watch and read should be monitored as there are certain things that children should not be allowed to know about that young. after the age of ten it is at the parents discression. btw, i know i do love the sound of my own voice, but no, i was not just talking for the crack of it. Heather
Children should not be allowed to read books. Or watched television. Or Smile. Especially smile. Children should be making Nike shoes for 30c an hour. Or less.
