We're talking about homecoming? Man I wish I came into this one earlier. My homecoming was a mix of sitting in a corner by myself and wall punching not so fun for me.
I had a date thats why it was so depressing she just kept walking away from me and stuffz we danced once then i tried to kiss her and she totally dodged it it was sad and angering
Doesn't sound like the right date for you then... I mean, that's not very kind, right? If I'd been there, I had smacked her... Really, she sounds quite heartless to me. I'm sorry it went that way.
Thank you. There are two things that I really crave approval over. The first is my writing (I love it when people say that I'm well-spoken or am a masterful writer, especially when they dont know that it's one of the highest forms of praise in my book), and the second and more importantly is my brains. Most of my friends are fairly elevated on the IQ scale, and I always feel inferior, so hearing someone say I'm not a complete bimbo is refreshing. LOL... as for the guy. I felt so awful! The subject of politics arose, and I'm not particularly quiet about my beliefs; a reporter on the TV screen said something, and I immediately piped up saying something along the lines of "That's idiotic, and this is why..." And then my friend leaned over and whispered that he'd spent three months out of town working on said campaign. ... /facepalm. Now I at least know how to hold my tongue until I know someone fairly well.
No way! Wouldn't you rather be accepted no matter your beliefs? That's my philosophy. I have a few beliefs that aren't really that popular, and I'd rather someone know that and still want to be my friend/partner.
Haha the last time I said something controversial without knowing a person it got me a gf so maybe it's like a 50/50 thing sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't
Oh, he accepts me for sure; I just think that first impression probably has stuck with him. (Along with the getting lost bit and laughing at idiotic jokes...; I dont think he's ever forgiven me for being late to our conference because apparently I dont know the difference between east and west.) I like that he's so different from me --quiet, fairly religious, economics team captain -- because that's one of the few redeeming qualities in people, I think; our diversity. I think once I meet someone who has that same sort of mindset (and can bear with my frequent Homer Simpson "DOH!" moments) is the day I'll be over the moon.
wow that sucks! actually my last years homecoming wasn't that great either...I had no date qand jsut went witha group of friends...it was ok... I pretty much paid 20$ to talk with my friends so yeah hopefully this year's is better I've totally got an aweosme group so it probabaly will be by the way, thanks everyone for your support/suggestions/whatever you want to call them
I don't have a date for my homecoming--I want to go with friends and more than likely flirt around there with guys --plus I look amazing in my homecoming dress......if only i knew how to post a pic of it...
Can any of the girls here tell me why, when you like a girl, you have to show that you're not that interested in her? Example being. I've been seeing this girl lately, and we get along really well. I know that I like her so I decided to do a little experiment, and come across as I actually feel. Not hold anything back. I'm 95% sure that she liked me as much as I did her. Anyway, I did all the sweet stuff for her. Roses, dinner, movies, etc. It was actually the most I've ever done for a girl. Her friends (which also happen to be my friends and talk to me occasionally about my girl) said that it was really sweet, and that they wish they had guys that did that for them. In the end however, it turns out that I came on too strong. I showed her I liked her too much and she got over it. So what's the go? I despise playing "the game" but it seems (as this experiment showed) that it is quite necessary. What a stupid way to have to go about things!
personally I would rather have a guy do that then appear not interested. For me I'm going to mostly keep it to myself and wait for him to make the move. If the guy is acting like he's not interested then nothing will happen. So personally I think thats stupid to act not interested when you are. Maybe all you need to do is tone it down slightly, different things work for different people, it just all depends. @Gigi-I want to see your dress!!!! you have to show me!!! I am your twin after all
"the game" goes both ways, so i know how you feel. i have a best guy friend that i'm really into right now (and i've been told by his best friends that he likes me as well). apparently, though, he's intimidated at the thought of dating a senior (since he's a junior). so how does he solve that? by dating a whole crapload of girls he doesn't even know to impress me. so, personally, if a guy was totally into me and brought me flowers (which none of my boyfriends have ever done, by the way) i would rejoice but i think there's a middle ground. sometimes you don't need all the gestures (although some would do just fine *grin*)...sometimes it's just nice to do nothing at all and just hang out.
A2theDre....you got the wrong girl. Most of us would NOT react in that way. I know I won't. And I might not be your typical gal, but I think I can vouch for most of them in this matter.
I agree with both of these. I hate playing guessing games, so if a guy likes me and tries to act like he doesn't, that's a surefire way for him to not ever get to date me. Life would be a lot easier if people would just be honest about how they feel.
Two close friends of mine are about to start eating lunch with me and my, well, crush for lack of a better word. They're dating, and i'm gonna be all "Sigh. " when they get here. I love all of them. But. I will be slightly depressed.
Okay, so I'm going to give you an answer you can work with. All that stuff "sounds" nice to me when I hear it --all picturesque and in the movies and "he must really love me" sort of feelings and images enter my head, but if it happens in real life? To be honest, I get a little freaked out, especially if the guy does a lot of things like that in succession. I'm speaking strictly from my own feelings and experiences here, but it could be that she didnt 'get over it,' she just might think you're a little too fixated? And I dont mean that to sound so... not nice... as it does, but I really cant think of a better way to put it. I always wonder, if a guy is so smooth with me, then how special am I really? He's obviously had a lot of practice. And if he's just really devout, I wonder why he's so interested in me, and I wonder if I want someone who holds my hand, so to speak, every minute of every day. (For the record, I dont think anyone does.) So I dont know --I dont necessarily think it's a love game but just a societal game. Like, if you make a new friend, and you think (s)he's really cool, you dont want to come off as pathetic or creepy by going to an enormous amount of effort until some time has passed and a trust bond, or even a love bond, has developed. Then I dont think I'd be so creeped out about a totally devoted guy. In fact, I'd feel flattered, thinking, Wow! He's seen me at my worst, without makeup, as a total bitch, in all normal situations, and he still likes me? Okay, he's a keeper. But if you do it too soon, honestly I wonder if the guy is desperate, or if he just wants to get into my pants --and maybe some girls are cool with that, but I'm not. I dont know; that's my take on it, and maybe you've known her since you were two years old --you didnt specify, but that's my general thought process, coming from someone who's had Greatest Boyfriend Ever* and also dealt with Creepy Older Dude and Totally-Devout-Oh-My-God-Please-Get-the-Eff Away-From-Me guy. * Apparently not forever. LOL. If you did everything right, maybe she's just too full of herself? Rose-coloured glasses are incredibly deceiving. xxx Em, that sucks. =/ I always feel so awkward in those positions. Maybe he'll take the hint though? Silver linings!!!!!
Guys can be like that, too. In fact, I was reading an article just yesterday in which the author (female) was saying that men like to chase, rather than to be chased. Not being a man, I don't know how true this is. But I've definitely witnessed it in my own past relationships, and those of my friends. From a girl's perspective, there is such a thing as too much too fast. It's not necessarily playing games. She may just feel pressured by your romantic gestures at a stage in the relationship when things are still new and uncertain. While you may feel sure of your feelings for her at this point, she may still be discovering what hers are for you. There's nothing wrong with that. Just give her a little space. It also depends on the girl. Some girls love to be fawned over, given gifts, and written poetry. Others would prefer nothing more than spending an evening on your couch, in pajamas, watching a movie.
