It's late at night when I miss him the most. How long does it take to stop missing someone who never felt anything for you? Stupid, stupid, stupid me.
That sounds disastrous to me, but I don't know the situation between you and him. Sorry you've been depressed, hun, I hope something good comes along soon for you.
Three years together man, three very messed up emotionally scarring years, then a little over a month ago after a particularly nasty fight, he abandoned me. Haven't heard from him since. merry christmas.
Oh now I get it, I'm very sorry for you. Can't believe he just up and left though, that's real strange? Especially since you guys were together for long. Well, maybe it's for the better, because maybe now you'll be able to find a guy who won't scar you like he has done. Terrible timing though, but I hope you have as best a Christmas as you can.
He was a strange, whiney little jackass and I would like to see him get hit by one of those marvelous double-decker tourist buses and then pull his organs out and make him play a fiddle as I dance and go splishy-splashy in them. This rage keeps me warm at night. Christmas cheer will be kept in tact
Pretty epic death, but you should add being decapitated by a low bridge to that as well...haha Well at least you can still keep up a Christmasy kind of attitude. Presents help.
He should be lit on fire so I can dance in his ashes as well. I enjoy dancing. No one will really miss him anyway. I do it for my marine brother, he really needs the Christmasy stuff to happen. Nah, I like presents, sure, but I like giving them much more ^^ my dad took me to Wal-mart yesterday after he rescued me from Greenbay and told me to gifts for everyone on my list. I tried to be kinda cheap-ish seeing as its his money but it was around 300. I'm excited. I like to give.
I ended up trying to give good gifts this year because I know no one in my family has any large gifts to give this year because they aren't able. My gifts aren't expensive, but I put a lot of thought into them this year and I feel kind of good about myself for it. I'd always been a getting presents kind of guy, but this year I'm trying to change. Good that you are/were already that way. Can I dance as well in the ashes? I think the dust cloud would be pretty spectacular.
Lord knows when i'm finally out on my own I'm gonna trun into one of those getting presents kind of people "Please. . . a scarf. . . a couple of socks. . . a yule log, something!" Imma be broke. Oh sure, the more the merrier, plus, even in his dying, ashen, flaky state, he would be jealous of me dancing with another guy. He was terribly jealous, and terribly hypocritical.
shovel to the faceeee ooouch. -Shovels Shu in the face- . . . -Dances in the ashes along side you; hums dancing in the rain-
Naw man, I know how to work a shovel weapon-wise. Don't ask me to dog a hole though. Ah, I feel a little better now. Thank you -high fives-
Sounds like me in my last relationship. I even left her for her best friend, but Karma got me back royally, so I suppose the whole point of what I'm saying is that Karma will do a spectacular job on him, Shovels, buses, and low overpasses notwithstanding.
One can only hope. I gave everything to that boy. Or I was going to. He's the one and only person I was perfectly open and honest and me with. I think it drove him mad. Either way, I've been depressed over it lately. Lots of late sleeping and no eating. Everything makes me think of him and I hate it. I hope this year sucks for that bastard.
Ok...so I like this guy. But he lives like 200 kilometers away from me. He comes to camp on our property every holidays and we have a bit of fun. I'd like to commit to him more, but the distance makes it kind of hard. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I could do??
How much do you want to commit to him? I committed to my girlfriend through long distance for 9 months. Not across states or the country. In China. She lived in America, in Iowa. It was one of the hardest things I have done. There is no way I could have done it without my commitment to her completely and to God. If you want to try the distance, you have to be okay with struggling through long periods of time without close contact. For those of us who enjoy physical touch and proximity more than others, this is huge. It depends on how much you like him and are willing to work at and sacrifice. Try it out for a bit, that might give you an idea
I'm sorry if you get offended by me being blunt, but it's just the way I am. If you only "like" this guy and haven't been in a standing relationship or are together for long periods of time, I really find it hard seeing this ever work out. You do need to actively see someone quite a bit for a good relationship to even start. You can't just go straight to calling everyday because your too far away. I'm pretty sure I know what will happen. You'll probably really like each other right away, but the the calls and visits will become less and less and pretty soon it will just fall right out under you. Long distant starts just aren't things that work out. Plus, I'm sure there are other guys out there who are just as good (whatever you taste is, I have no clue) that are within half that distance. Now of course, your certainly welcome to try this out. More power to ya if it works out. But I really wouldn't get my hopes way up, because this kind of thing working out is few and far between. Josh(coldwriter), apparently, is one of those exceptions. Just my honest, albeit blunt, opinion. Take it however you wish.
You haven't said how he feels about you. If he feels the same, I'd just do the phone/text msg thing until you can see each other on the next holiday.
Thanks for the advice guys. Don't worry Steve, I'd rather you be blunt than beat around the bush and never make your point. He does like me back, and we've been thinking about commiting properly for almost a year. The distance scares us off a bit. I'll have to talk to him this week end when he comes up. I'm okay with the no close contact thing, but I'm not sure if he is. We'll see how it goes. Thanks again
I think it's worth a shot. The worst that could happen is that you find out it's not working, while the best that could happen is it does work. The alternative, just never knowing, doesn't sound as appealing to me.
My thoughts exactly. I really think the distance thing could work though, because we've known each other our whole lives and kept in touch for years. Just this would be like the next step, kinda thing. I find that long distance relationships make you look forward to seeing the person each time you see them. Like, it's not a common place thing, so it's even more special when you get to see them.
This I agree with. I spent four months away from my ex-girlfriend at each time and it felt like a honey-moon each time we reconnected. The euphoria was huge! It's a good feeling and true... Though I am not going to do it again! Unless one specific thing was sure.
I know it's going to be hard (if it even happens, I haven't spoken to him yet). You've made that fairly clear Josh. But relationships aren't easy even if you live next door to each other. So as long as both party's are willing to try, I think the chances are good that it could last a while. Probably not forever like that, but who'd want it to work out like that anyway?
