I would just start saying "hi, how are you?" or some variation of that when you pass her. I agree that I would be a little thrown if someone I'd never talked to just came up and started a full-on conversation with me, but if you start smiling and greeting her when you see her, soon it won't be so out-of-the-blue to talk to her more.
This is something I could never have done in school, and something that I would have a hard time doing even today. Once anything seems remotely forced I just go all weird and act in a different way than I normally would. Any relationships i've ever had normally occur naturally, and a lot of the time it's like we're friends first. I don't mean to put a dampener on your plans but i'd just never have the self-assurance to just randomly do something like that lol Best of luck though!
I liked him all through high school and then for most of college, but after a while, I started to realize that while he was a great guy and he had a lot of good qualities, we probably wouldn't ever work out if we tried to be a couple. We went our separate ways, he got married, I got married...it's all very happily ever after. Honestly, I'm glad we never ended up dating...it would have been a disaster.
Oh wow. I hope I feel like that after all this...or I go out with him..hmm. Me and this will probably separate when we go college which is next year for me. The worse thing is leaving this school, and regretting so much more than I already do...-sigh- But I have this bad feeling it's likely to happen.
I have a feeling it'll all work itself out for you the way it did for me. I know it's not fun now, but hang in there.
Thanks, I will Anyone who goes through something like this deserves a happy ending in the end. If they don't I'd have to question life lol I'm happy everything worked out for you tho
Yeah talk to her at the party if she's there. That's perfect. If she's not then oh well. You know where to find her, right? Anyway remember that we're social animals. We crave new connections and the company of others. Going up to her and talking to her is normal behaviour that no one can or should judge you for. I mean, do it at the right time, sure. But don't wait for the perfect time. There might never be a perfect time. I'm not sure how you picture it going down in your head, but my point is that the more you picture how it might go down, the less likely you are to actually talk to her. Meeting people is a natural process. The fact that you're attracted to her is obviously going to make you come across as a bit awkward. So give yourself permission to be a bit awkward. Just don't put too much value on how she responds. Try to be cool with the possibility of rejection. If she rejects you when you were just trying to get to know her, then maybe she's not so great as you thought she was. Then at least you know not to waste your time on her. Whatever the outcome, talking to her is a good idea.
Good advice, wish someone had drilled this in my head before I got too attached. I guess it works the same with a girl in that situation ey?
I have this problem with a girl. We went out for six months and I have to say it was amazing, and people said we were perfect and whatnot and she really had this affection with me that just made me think 'I might be with her for more than awhile'. Bad things happened I guess and we broke up. We go for a retry after two weeks, I messed it up. She goes out with a guy for two days, he breaks up with her. its been 3 months since we have ever been the kind of close we were before. She likes me because of how sweet and caring I am with her and 'different' as she tells me. Were having problems yet again and I don't know what else I can really do to tell her that I really do appreciate her for still being there even if we are done 'dating'. I just need tips or a diagnose of whats really going on with 'us'.....
Personally I can't even attempt to diagnose anything when I don't know what the problems are or how you messed up, or she messed up, or whatever. The seriousness of the mistake makes a difference. My guess would be trust issues, though?
Ah good on ya! Least you didn't do what I always did and keep hopping the entire night the girl would arrive! Us lads are such sad cases... xD
Have you never heard that expression?? It's not as bad as you think lol...it means he got a woman to court, to kiss, etc! I'm not an animal!
Nope, had never heard it and I suffer from DMS (Dirty Mind Syndrome) heh. That's not so bad, then. One question though, if he was hanging out with his "mates" and not even thinking about her...... well... hmmmm... I think I'm confused as to the relevance?
He was at a party so that means he was doing frank the tank and dancing on top of a table naked and doing shots of tequila off a woman's back and then he went streaking down the street looking for the gymnasium!
To pull someone is an English term. I also didn't know what it meant at first when I moved to England. Had to explain it to some of my American buddies too Trying to remember what we said in Australia. Think "to get with someone".
Most common term here I think is "hook up with". At least around here. Although that has many connotations and there are other terms too....
