Tavern's Lads & Girls Discussion Thread

Sorry for the double post, but I just gotta say how it's strange my reply doesn't come up as the last post posted lol.

 

Haha yea that is strange....it's also strange how nobody seems to have any relationship trouble lately :/ I mean I do but there's really no advice anyone could give me lol, it's more like a helpless situation..

 

I still haven't talked to the girl i like yet, probably cause she plays sports and i don't. I'll look like a failure to her cause im not very good at my clarinet so yeah im out of her league. But the question is, when am i not? I already should of talked to her a week ago- but now it seems pointless. Who's interested in somebody writes alot and plays the clarinet and no sports?

 

@Fullmetal Xeno - You are absolutely dominating this thread. ;D

You shouldn't think about 'leagues' or anything like that. Just talk to her, become friends or just acquaintances, and see where it goes? Picture her naked if you have to... Wait no, that's for public speaking. Never mind that last part.

 

Dude, leagues are like insanity all relative.

 

But the thing is she plays volleyball... so i get the impression she only likes guys who play sports. Im not athletic, even though i used to play baseball when i was much younger but my parents can't afford the city leagues now.. I don't have a baseball team until i get into highschool but i just haven't played in so long.. i just feel like most girls like athletic guys... and im not athletic....

 

Don't assume everyone likes the same thing, I'd say try it, or don't. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

 

Depends who you ask. I was just trying to lift his spirits. ;D

@Fullmetal - Cross Country is a good sport that is seriously overlooked. You could always try that?

 

No not to you, that was to him. oh the horrors of the Internet.

 

Aha now begins the thread confusion where there are twelve conversations going on at once.

 

Xeno, don't read too much into little things like if she likes athletic guys or if you're good enough for her. Your thoughts will inevitably translate into both a mood and mindset which will only worsen your chances at doing anything with this girl. You have to be comfortable with yourself first, before you can expect her to be comfortable with you.

 

I don't really like cross country. I would love to play baseball again.. but then i probably won't be good at it and i probably won't make the team. I am sp uncofident in myself for exactly these reasons. I feel like such a failure, i don't have a chance with her. Im too shy and i don't play sports. That already make me not have a chance with someone who very athletic...

 

Wait can I ask a question? Are we helping? Cuz if not we better redirect our ideas here, in a new approach.


tl;dr: Should we give different advice.

 

I wouldn't assume that just because she plays a sport that means she's into dudes who play sports. Maybe she spends so much time around the jock type that she's tired of them and wants something totally different...you never know. Until you talk to her.

 

I used to play sports but it didn't mean I was only into guys who did. Stop thinking you're not good enough because you absolutely are good enough for anyone. If you like her, then try and show her you do. If she's part of a sports team, you could go and watch her play (whether a match or practice) and then that gives you something to talk about as in you could compliment her afterwards and stuff.

 

Not necessarily true. Some girls like guys they could totally take in a fight. I know I do. Everyone's got different tastes, is what I'm saying.

Not to be a broken record, but you should talk to her anyway. The worst that can happen is she ignores you.

 

Just talk to her.

Stop overthinking.

And do it.

That's all I have to say.

 

If you need to, like Youniquee said, just talk. I would be damn if I had to over think this out.

 

Calm down folks, he is not logged in. I'm sure he has an update just wait.

 

Actually I am generally repelled by jock types. I guess because I got picked on mercilessly by them at school not to mention they
literally shoved me around in the hall if I got in their way.

I've always been a sucker for geeks and nerds myself. My current bf is a big time trekkie and he wants to be a mechanical engineer. I'm a whovian and an artist. The combination works well for us.

 

You might have too. One day she gives me alot of neutral glares then the next, nothing. Or ill be walking to get something or sharpening my pencil and she would try to avoid me. But then other days we make constant eye contact so i don't know. Girls really confuse me. Now im just left under the impression that i could be misleadied and that she could be scared of me or something. I know i should of already talked to her, i just don't know what her response will be.....im very nervous to see how that turns out...

 

Why would she have any reason to be scared of someone her own age. Unless you are like 10 feet tall or something.

 

But the thing is, wouldn't that seem a little odd that an athletic chick would be with a guy who isn't in any sport? I just feel very small when it comes to athletic people. I used to play baseball but my parents can't afford it, so i lost all my athletic skills.

 

I don't know, that's partly the reason why im so confused. Im one of the quietest people in my classroom. I just don't want to get the wrong impression. Other days she doesn't avoid me then others she does, it's very odd.

 

Well here we go(sounding like a broken record, even the saying), Have you tried to say anything at all. Ask her what the homework is or something. Find a friend with a locker near hers and ask him loudly or something. See if she replies.