The Happiness Thread

Dammit, Dap. Now I can't let this moment pass me by. A punch to the ribs will be worth walking around with the death belly.

Shit, a black hole would work too. Or Kirby. Or a watermelon.

I should make a thread on t-shirt ideas...

 

It`s one of those dam comments, isn`t it? Allways colliding just right into whatever pulls them in all will nily.

Congrats, now you can officially refer to that niece of you`rs as "practice subject A".

 

Only the biggest joy and trust in one's life.

If you can cut the umbilical cord, then do it. I have done it 3 times and it has a big symbolical meaning.

No, no, no...

That starts in 3 months and last only few months more.

One year old screaming is nowhere near that bad.

And I remember someone did told Moon to get Peltor Optime 3 soul & mind protection tool...

I once had a green t-shirt with Carslberg-font text:

Asperger's - Probably the Best Syndrome in the World. I loved it.

 

That's right, I forgot their voice dropped after 6 months, right around the time their eyes should start opening.

 

Their eyes scream, their noses become prehensile, they bite with the teeth in their ears, and the hair on their backs starts to writhe...

 

I just got back from the cobbler. I got my Birkenstocks resoled. "Fits like a glove" has nothing on "fits like a broken-in pair of Birkenstocks." I slipped those bitches onto my feet and said "aww shit son."

 

Had fun last night. "9 months until your life ends, bud" was the quote round the place (that I remember at least), but after some sake...didn't mean a thing. BRING ON THE CHALLENGER, I'LL TAKE CARE THE HELL OUT OF EM!

Possibly still tipsy but definitely hungover.....

 

I`ve been doing the curriculum on Free Code Camp. Started a while back did all the basic HTML lessons then paused. Not to long ago started back up again doing four lessons a day whenever I can fit it in. Counted it out today, if I keep doing four a day should have the basic CSS lessons completed by the end of this upcoming week and by onto applied visual design. Still a ways from finishing the first certificate let alone all the others, still at the very beginning but. hey I`m

 

Nope, just a new stage in your life... and let me give some advice I overheard an instructor of mine give another... "put the fear of dad into your children" . .

As personal experience has told me with my own dad, the best way to get a child in line is the fear of you gett'n off that sofa.

Oh.... and something I am personally planning on doing, is the moment they can start doing choirs, but a value to them... say $3 to clean dishes, then you keep $2 for rent and taxes and the $1 is theirs to keep, and when they say it's unfair, just say "It's what daddy goes through with every paycheck" and repeat this with advance jobs such as mowing the lawn being $10 to 12 dollars, taking 1/3 for taxes and a couple of dollars for rent... (personally, I plan to put this money aside or in the bank for them (Matching the amount) and let it gain interest, and when their 18th birthday comes, hand it over, hoping I raised a reasonable human being)

BTW, Congrats dude.

 

Never plan on having kids, but some financial advice (the way my parents screwed up): When I was four years old, I saw a stuffed giraffe at the store that I wanted. Nothing huge, but it was, if I recall, ten dollars. My folks saw this as an opportunity to teach me the value of work and started paying me to do the various things that a four-year-old can do: put away the socks, make my bed, help set the table, etc. But instead of handing me the quarters, they made a "bank book" for me and direct deposited the money there. When I got up to the ten bucks, we went to the store and I bought the giraffe, whose name is "Ha Ha I Can Buy It."

Unfortunately, that and some similar projects ingrained in me the idea that saving money is transient and goal-based. I'm trying, but deep down I still have this feeling when I look at my bank balance of "Hey, I've finally got enough money for another vacation!" and the urge to blow it all.

Teach the kids to save as a practice, not as a means to a short-term end.

 

Ah, need to add a saving aspect to it then!!!!

 

Yeah, I'd do something like give them a bonus when they hit certain landmarks, age-appropriate.

 

I hear there's this dude named Jesus who's pretty much the final word on the subject. So naturally the first step to financial success is to stop shaving and wearing shoes, then go around telling everyone how your dad's hooked you up.

 

no that's Saving as it cash... not Saviour, though you can always bank with Jessus.

 

...is giving them enough love and unshared attention.

If you don't give them enough attention, they seek it by bad behaviour. If you do, they don't need to.

And only full attention is attention when we talk about kids - or other loved ones.

If they learn early that they are not worth parents full and total attention, they start to seek substitutes to that. And that's not good. And later they pay back. Then you are not worth they attention.

 

Do you have kids? I am one of these children who was given way to much love and unshared attention from my mother and it jacked me up... gave me a false sense of how the world worked and a delayed development. So from personal experience, I know this is a no-no... of course, you need to give them the right amount of love and kids need freedom from their parents to become independent not some helicopter parent.

This dramatically delayed my development as an adult, and yeah I get a lot of it was my fault for taking advantage of it. But still, my mother gave me no incentives and I often joke that if she had her way i'd be 39, jobless and playing video games in some basement while others pay for me.

so fuck that shit, put the fear of dad in them, show them that life is not going to hand them the world on a silver platter, and as soon as possible children need to start learning responsibilities and understanding of the economy.

edit: I constantly wish my parents were harsher on me... I don't blame my dad, he worked his ass off to provide. and was constantly countered by my Mother, as was my step dad, growing up. and ironically, I myself now would not accept the behaviors I displayed as a young man.

 

Well here in the good ole surveillance nation, we know somebody is
watching over the little tyke.

 

There is a best seller book that tells about Him. It's very interesting. And it's got hints about finance, education, self help, philosophical and moral issues... There is even lot of things about asymmetric warfare.

It's so multilayered that you can read it many, many times and still find new plot twists, character flaws, cultural arguments...

 

Three kids.

They get a lot of love and unshared attention.

Love means also duties, work, disappointments. Love means not to give things on a silver platter. Silverplatter is not love but pseudolove. That might be lack of borders or something else.

Unshared attention means that if I listen to them, I do it without doing something else at the same time. And I really think what they tell. It's the of opposite "I can hear you while I watch/listen/read..."

 

Okay, so we had a bit of a different definition of what you meant then. But still gotta have that fear (Maybe respect instead) for dad.

edit: actually both parents, since they need to have a unified front against the children.

 

When I was a kid I got plenty of love and affection, but I still misbehaved because I was a right little shit with an adrenaline fixation and a poor grasp of human mortality.

 

Well there you go.... I was an asshole too, . arrogant and delusional.

 

Respect - absolutely.

Unified front - yes. Against the kids - no. For and with the kids - yes.

When I talk about love I talk about valuating someone about as high as myself and keeping that valuation high.

How you meter that? - I would die or kill for my kids if that was absolutely necessary*. My time is not more valuable than their time. My interests are not more valuable. My health is absolutely not more valuable.

But...

Where ever you see virtue signalling you also see a huge lack of virtues. That lack of virtues is masked behind virtue signalling.

Where ever you see love signalling via different kinds of substitutes, you see lack of love. That lack of love is masked behind all those substitutes and their signals.

If I watch American social life and communication with my Finnish eyes I see huge amount of love signalling without love. "Oh dear, so nice to see you. How are you..." (And don't even think about answering that question and if you make a mistake to answer it, don't be honest.)

Yes... If I talk about love, I talk about love, not the substitute covered pseudolove or suffocative need based "love" or expressive social play or...

If you love, you don't control, suffocate, signal... unnecessary. You support, but not too much. Your job is to make yourself unnecessary but always to be the most reliable safety net if really needed.

And if you love, you don't put your goals to your kids, you don't make them an extension of your life. You love to see them claim their life and territory and you love to see that it's their, not yours.



* This is not signalling socially anything. It is defining and stating the meaning of a word.

 

Me too.

And it was not seeking attention that I was lacking but having fun by fulfilling my nature.

And I'm sure you know the qualitative difference between adventurous misbehaving and misbehaving because being emotionally abandoned.

And I'm sure you know how important that difference is.

Show me an artist who has never been an asshole, arrogant or delusional...