The not happy thread

F your mom. You go to uni and live it up. Don't look back. Sorry you can't take your doggie though.

 

Your mom's probably unhappy w/herself, and so she takes it out on the people she loves. Or she's got borderline personality disorder. Or both apply.

 

You're both right.

I want to have a good time when I go to uni but I just wish things didn't have to be so crap around here. Why cant' this be a NICE time for me?
whatever good thing happens to me, someone tries to make me pay - and it's usually my mum.

To her, you aren't living a real life unless you're miserable.

I'm gonna miss my doggy so much

 

I'm not happy because I am disapointing my basketball team because i have a bad ankle. and their mad at me for not playing.

 

6:43 pm and still no AC. I am hot, it's raining outside,and hotter in the house.
It would so be my luck that a part would have to be ordered in. Couldn't be a simple repair...whatever could I have been thinking..."sigh"

 

I'm not happy, because it would seem that every damn time I visit my doctor, something else seems to not be what he would expect it to be and it feels like he is accusing me every damn time. ><

 

He might be like a doc Vikki had when pregnant. He always was doom and gloom. She emntioned this to another doctor who said, "Yeah he always gives worst case scenario, thta way when things work out he seems like a savior."

Don't let the b****** get to ya Tori.

EDIT: I would trust you with lil Sharky ..... just goes to show what I think of you as a mom.

 

Yeah, I'm starting to think that this doctor is all doom and gloom. But at least he isn't too busy stuffing his face with biscuits and cups of tea, or like the other doctor, insisting on internals every visit... that is just too creepy for my liking.

ANd thanks for that Sharky.

 

I'm sorry, Ashleigh. Don't let your mom get you down-it's so exciting that you've gotten accepted to the university you did, and if she can't be happy for you, then f*** her. She should be proud of you.

I'm sorry your AC is broken! Want me to send you some fans to keep you cool until the part comes in?

I'm with Rumpy on this one. Don't listen to that dumb*** doctor. You know you're doing the right stuff for Lil Pome, and that's all that matters.


I'm upset because of (what a surprise) Joel's mother. We told her this weekend that we were planning on making our own wedding cake, and instead of being supportive, she immediately began suggesting other options we had. Ok, really? You don't think I've looked into other options? Joel told her to stop, and she did...silly me, I thought that was the end of it. Then I went upstairs last night to make myself a lunch for work the next day and there, on the counter waiting for me, was a wedding cake price list for the local grocery store's bakery. Wouldn't be a big deal if she hadn't already been controlling and meddling in every other aspect of the wedding/Joel's life/my life, but it was just the last straw for me.

And then Joel told me that she came downstairs while I was at work yesterday and told him she knew he felt like he had to protect me, but she felt very out of the loop. He asked what she was talking about, and she said "you guys don't tell me anything" and then went back upstairs. First of all, I'm sorry, I didn't realize that because we live together, that means we automatically have to tell you everything. Second of all, why the f*** should I tell you things when all you're going to do after I do is belittle my opinions and try to convince me to change my mind? She has no respect for me, my wants, or my opinions, and I'm sick of it.

 

Are you the eldest child, Ashleigh? I wont say anything of your mum's temperment because it's certainly not my place to, but she sounds a lot like mine. I love her, but she's downright nasty quite often, and is very controlling over me lately.

I ask if you're the eldest because I wonnder if she could be acting more demanding and irrate because she is upset that you are leaving soon? My mom wont even help me with college applications. She wants me to be successful of course, but as the firstborn / only child, she's kind of in denial that when I leave in under a year, she wont have anyone to take care of. Thus, she's ordering me around and exerting massive control over me lately, as if I'm three or four. It's very frustrating, and can result in massive arguments and name-calling.

I'm sorry you have to deal with it though --that sucks. You're right; this should be a positive time in your life, and you shouldnt have to deal with a negative influence when you're already probably quite anxious yourself!

Only a few more weeks, right? (Speaking of which, I cant believe that your school system lets you know of admission / denial to universities so close to the first day of school. Absolutely crazy! I'm going to know where I'll go for semester in September, by February 15th at latest.

 

^ got it in one foul swoop really Merc - our mums are like two peas in a pod.

Although, I'm actually the youngest - I only have one older brother and he (although being very very intelligent) was always bored with school and quit things easily. He never went to uni and still lives with us.

So, I guess this is the first time she's dealt with it - I might aswell be the eldest really, 'cause i'm the first to do everything.

It's alot to do with the fact that she isn't coping well with losing my granddad...I can sympathise so much with that, but I can't take this behavior from her anymore. It's too much, it really is. I don't care how childish I am in her eyes for saying that either, 'cause its true, and I don't need to feel that way right now..hopefully she will stop.

and aagh! yes, craaazy. I hope you get the very best Uni mercy - the photos you showed were AMAZING, so any of those look like they'd be fantastic to go to.

 

I dont think that sounds childish at all. This is supposed to be all about you. Or it is in America, at least. Everything is going to change, and you need all the positive energy you can get. (So you go, girl! )

I'm sorry she's torn up about your grandad... I've lost a lot of people in my life, but never a relative, let alone a father. I'm sure that explains it, but after it's been a few months, I dont think it works as an excuse to be rude to others.

You are going to have so much fun at uni. And I'm jealous.

 

Ash, you should do your best to ignore her when she gets like that. If she wants to argue with someone, then let her argue with herself. *hugs* Sorry you had to go through that.

 

Thanks guys x

 

Anxiety is exceptionally bad this week.

Just waiting for it to pass.

 

My mum is worse today If anything. Completely neglecting, cruel, hostile, and nasty.

Its brought me to tears once again.

God I just can't wait to leave.

 

I'm really sorry for you, Ash. Sounds absolutely horrible...

 

My brother is at the doctor right right trying to figure out why his tongue is going paralyzed and he can't swallow properly. My mother is convinced he has ALS. I did some research. 25% of cases start with that symptom. Unfortunately, there isn't a test for ALS. It will be a process of elimination to figure out what is wrong. If it is ALS, he will have 3-5 years. He is 27. We are all praying it is something else, but we really don't know what.

 

I am so sorry Mina.

 

I'm so sorry to hear that Mina. I hope it's something minor and that he recovers soon. I'll be thinking of your family. xxx

 

morning sickness..........
I wish there was something I could take to make it go away.

 

I'm sorry to hear this, Mina. I hope it turns out to be something else!

I've never been pregnant, so I have no idea if this really helps, but my sister's friend told me she ate saltine crackers and they helped with her morning sickness.

Knowing her, though, she could just be crazy.

I hope you feel better!

 

He is back from this doctor. No news. Referral to Nuerology specialist for some tests. Nothing more to learn until late September. Sigh.

 

I can only spare about five minutes to come on here today because Kommandant Dad is on my back about Uni, continuously stressing that it is my decision, but refusing to let me go about making it on my own.

Git.

Also, my supporter status still hasn't come through after about a week and a half.

 

I'm sorry, Xeno. On both counts.