The not happy thread

Careful though, the courts could grant him custody as an alternative to child support. Do you have legal guardianship of your minor brother?

 

Thanks Writewizard and Link the Writer. You guys are great.

 

I don't really know the circumstances behind this guy not knowing that he apparently had a son, but if I was informed from my eldest child that, "Hey, Dad? You have a son that you've never met before."

My reaction:
"Wha-? W-Well, this is...I-I would very much like to meet him. Shall we go have dinner somewhere with him? Where would you two like to eat?"

Then we can eat and discuss the things needed to be discussed face-to-face.

But "I'll see you in court". Blegh, so immature. >____<

 

I might have to move. And I just bought a house. :s

 

Sad! Why do you have to move?

 

I'm not sure yet, but my sister's husband may take a job that's too far away for us to transit it to and thus we'd have to move. I think the idea of taking a job that far away as out of the question, but it's really two against one here. :s

 

Stink. I'm sorry.

 

Yeah it does, thanks for your sympathy though. Who knows, maybe they'll change their minds. I really like this place afterall. :s

 

This is why I can't stand most middle-aged men. I'm sure some guys are lovely - but what the heck is it about middle-aged grumpy men that makes them completely unable to handle authority?

I don't mean to insult your dad at all - i'm sure he has some reason for reacting in such a way.

But, on the whole -

Child support is for the benefit of their child, but they refuse to do it simply because they're legally obligated to do so. Why?


Grr. Men just irritate me.

 

don't you hate it when a day comes along and you think that after so many years you will cope fine, but the day arrives and all you want to do is hide away in a dark room and cry all day long?

Today is one of those days.... it's been 4 very long years now and everyday the sadness only ever grows stronger.
Whoever said time heals all wounds was full of sh*t

 

There are some things that even time cannot mend. That's what coping devices are for. It won't ever make any unpleasant memory fade, but it makes it easier to bear when the pain resurfaces.

My empathy for whatever suffering you're refering to.

 

I'm sorry you're having a nasty day, Tor. I hope that after the days pass if time doesnt heal, you can eventually forget about it for a little while, because you deserve the very, very best.

Zoe, what a horrible, malicious act. What kind of father... I'm really sorry. How could he expect you to take care of yourself and your little brother, and right now?! I dont know exactly how old you are, but you're way too young to be expected of that. I'm really sorry you're having to deal with everything. I cant imagine how you're doing it, and you're definitely stronger than I could ever be.

I hope everyone's days and situations improve.

 

I wish I lived close enough to you that I could go to your house and hug you, Tor. I'm so sorry that today was hard for you.

 

The wound will heal, Sherie. But you may not be ready for it to heal yet. You may still need that periodic pain, because of what it would mean to let it go.

My thoughts are with you.

 

Well, my good mood has gone and flown out the window today as well, so I suppose what choice have I but to join the bandwagon? I feel inconsiderate and rude for even posting here, for even pretending like my problems are as insurmountable as others' are lately. I truly feel for you all and really hope whatever your problems may be --grieving, legal issues, smoking-- can be righted as soon as possible. You all deserve the very best and nothing but.

My own dealings are trivial and petty, but it doesnt stop the fact that I have yet to stop crying in over two hours. I hate crying. I feel emotionally vulnerable and physically weak and when it's over, all I'm left with are the shakes and a nasty headache.

 

I am an intern and i haven't slept for over 48 hours dealing with work. Surely this isnt how working life is supposed to be.

 

^ No, it's not. Hopefully you get paid too otherwise it sounds like they're just taking advantage of you.

 

Mercy, this isin't about how bad stuff is in life. Any amount is too much and when you're crying it can't be that trivial. Good luck.

 

thank you so much. It means a lot.

THank you Merc.

And Zoe, I wish I could walk up to your father and smash him right where it hurts with a baseball bat. What an inconsiderate moron. It angers me so much when fathers refuse to live up to their responsibilities. You and your brother deserve so much better than him in your lives. Big hugs to you hunny, don't let that lowest form of scum get you down too much.

Thanks darl. I kept myself busy all day helping my parents and an elderly lady who needed help at her house.

I deal with it alright, just this time comes and it ain't so easy. I know it gets easier to deal with every year, but he pain is still as intense as it ever was, I think it always will be to be honest. Thank you Dave xx

Merc, I am very sorry that things aren't good for you at the moment hun. Your problems are just as important as anyone elses around here. Why? Because they have you upset and we don't like to see our 'friends' hurting in any way. Don't ever think your problems aren't important. We are all here for you to talk to and like you said to me, if you need a friend, I'm always there for you, no matter what! love and hugs darlen.

 

What do you do when you're an idiot who's trying not be feel depressed?

You actively seek out the source of your depression, AND YOU ENGAGE THEM IN A CONVERSATION ABOUT THE VERY THING THAT IS DEPRESSING YOU.

My brain is running independantly of the rest of my body, apparently.

 

My girlfriend who just kind of broke up with me already has a new boyfriend. It's been a week and a half. And we dated for over a year. It's a bad day.

 

Ouch, been there. My ex started with someone else within the hour.

*hug*

 

I hate drunks. Especially when they try to start on my mates for absolutely no reason beyond a non-offensive joke between mates.

My housemate was joking about with a lad from Middlesbrough about being a 'Smoggie', and so this other guy chucked his drink at him and squared up. Promptly half of our party ran away leaving me and about three others to try to break them apart (which we did, with the aid of security - yes, they have security at McDonalds these days).

We walked home straight after that. We didn't fancy another confrontation.

 

My printer isn't working and I have NO idea why. I have to get this printed, or I can't preach tomorrow.

 

I relapsed on my diet today. F/ck.

Not *massively* but enough. Actually, it was quite bad, considering.

But what the hell are you supposed to do, when you live in a house that never has any food available except the odd bit of junk food every now and then? Go hungry all day, or just eat what's available in as much moderation as possible?

I felt like crap today so I didn't want to walk to the shopping store and spend a load of money on health-food when I'm going back to uni sunday night.

There is never ANYTHING decent here. Nothing. I've no idea how much weight I've lost so far, and now I just feel fat and gross. And headachey,and sick, and as though a sore throat is coming on.

Great.