The not happy thread

I'm sorry, Xe. I hope you cheer up soon!

Wow, that's pretty effed up. I'm sorry, Steve.

Wow. Sounds like you made a good choice heading home.

Uh oh! Did you get your printer to work??

Don't beat yourself up over it, everyone cheats on their diet every once in a while. As long as you don't let yourself give up just because you had one day of eating junk food (which is what I tend to do...), I wouldn't stress about it.

 

Yeah, I got it fixed, finally.

I am so, so scared to completely bear my heart and soul and thoughts and ideas and beliefs in front of a group of people, some who know me, some who don't. I'm so afraid that the people that know me will take my words and use them to hurt me. I am so afraid of being hurt tomorrow.

 

Well just the fact that your doing this shows that your braver than any common person. If they try to use what you say against you, know that those are the cowards hiding what they feel and what they know. Your far braver than myself for going up and doing it, and I give all my respect to you. I hope it goes well.

 

^ What he said.
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Is it just me or does no one on the internet know what "devil's advocate" mean? Because recently, someone was debating eugenetics and gangsters (Like we get rid of them the ULTIMITE way.)

Even though I didn't agree with the OP's suggestions whatsoever, I felt like arguing for them anyway. Result? Everyone who disagreed called me a Nazi and accused me of believing that the Holocaust was the best thing to have happened since sliced bread. Apparently they ignored my little disclaimer saying I did not agree with the OP's suggestions.

Despite my attempts to convince them otherwise, they were apparently enthusiastic about calling me a Nazi.

I mean, sheesh! It's not like I'm agreeing with the OP's suggestion that we should construct labor camps and stuff like that. And I hate the Nazis and wish the Holocaust never happend. Did they listen? Nooooooooooooooo!! They kept quoting posts that were accusing me of being like Hitler and saying "This" and "Seconded".

What does "playing the Devil's Advocate" mean? I thought it meant defending the evil side even though you may not agree with the evil in the first place. (re: Lawyers with criminals)

That's why I fear joining discussions like that, because I know there's a good chance someone will call me a Nazi and harp on and on about it. =(

 

Most of the time, when someone throws the word Nazi around, they have given up on rational argument. There even used to be a global FAQ on NNTP newsgroups that specifically stated that.

You're best off ignoring those posters. You won't generate any light by discussing with them, only more heat.

 

There's a law called Godwin's Law, also known as "Godwin's Law of Nazi Analogies" that states: "As an online discussion grows longer, the probability of a comparison involving Nazis or Hitler approaches 1." The law also states that this is usually around the time the arguement ends, as the other members realise that it has gone too far and lost any sort of basis in reality.

 

True.

I also think that they do that to feel like they're morally superior when really, they're just being stupid. After all, if I know I don't support Nazisim/Hitler, then that's all it matters. They can call me Hitler all they want. They're the ones killing the argument, and me trying to convince them otherwise is just helping them.

 

When I look at who I am and what I've done in my life, I feel so dissapointed. :/

 

I don't about who you are IRL Lydia, or how circumstances are there for you, but you're one of the nicest people I know online..*huggles* Hope you feel better soon.

 

Why? You're only eighteen. You have an entire lifetime to do amazing things, and you're too young to have screwed up anything beyond repair. I mean, from what I've seen, you're a pretty rad chick. So I find it pretty unlikely that you've been guilty of anything really horrible, like punching babies or directing Paul Blart: Mall Cop.

 

Thanks guys. I know I'm only eighteen, but I'm not the person I wanted to be at that age, and I can't see anything at all that could make myself or anybody else proud- that's what makes me sad.

 

I don't want to say that I know how you feel, because I hate it when people say that to me. They don't know, not really, and it just belittles what you're actually feeling. But I think I have an inkling.

My parents expected me to get into an Ivy League school, get an education in law or physics or something, and be a successful, married homeowner by the age of twenty. I expected that for myself, too. So, when I slacked off during my senior year and decided that maybe college wasn't what I wanted...well, I let both my family and myself down (though I wouldn't admit it at the time). I could have done things differently. Maybe I would have been happier. Maybe not. Either way, I'm pretty happy right now, and I've got goals for my future that also make me happy.

Anyway, sorry for the autobiographical vomit.

I just want to tell you...it's okay. And it's not that unusual, at eighteen, to feel that way. You probably spent your teenage years saying, "When I grown up, I'm going to __________." And now you're technically an adult, right? So where is all that stuff you wanted to achieve? Hon, you're still young. You don't have to conquer the world right away. And you seem like a genuinely good person, which is something to be very proud of in this day and age.

Sorry if I read too much into all that. Maybe I'm trying to convince myself of all this, haha. So if I'm way off base, then I'll just say this: You're crazy, girl! We all think you're awesome.

 

Listen to Mal.

Also, you already know what I think of you.

And since mine is the most important opinion around...

 

Thanks Mal, that's so sweet. I guess I can recognize myself in what you're saying... I just feel like I could have done better. Anyway, thanks again.

It is.

 

Yeah. Don't rush yourself.

I'm twenty and I'm hardly out of college, don't know what I'll do for a living, I don't own a home, I'm not married, and I most certainly do not have children.

I don't see myself fitting that criteria in five-ten years!

You'll get there when you get there. Some people take longer than others.

 

I'm not happy because I have a headache and I still haven't finished my CIT 101 project yet, which is due tommorow. Secondly, I've not heard anything from the girl's grandmother I'm watching all week, which is a bad thing -- I'm not real thrilled with Social Services at this point. They didn't take "Jason" out of his house when he was younger and now they're not taking this girl out either. I know there are good Social Services' workers out there, but I'm not happy with the ones in our county.

 

And I could not be diagnosed with 72 different things and still live with my parents... We have a deck of cards, and it's our job to construct the house on which they stand.

Point being, of course, that I'm sure you're doing great where you're at now. You've found your way here, right?

 

Oh God. Feel rotten. 7am kick off tomorrow, 9 hour day, and I'm not tired now. Even though I am, and have a headache. Oh, and my mind feels like it's on fire, going over things again and again and again that I'd just rather forget or at least not have to live with every hour of every day.

 

I know how that feels! I'm sure it will get better from here. My boss at my old job sugguested rasing our eyebrows when we were upset because it would "change our outlook." It worked... Sometimes.

 

I lost 3.4 kilograms in less than a week I'm really NOT happy about this as it took me 2 months to gain it. Now I have to try and eat even more food than I already am to try and gain it all back. Thing is, I'm still eating REALLY large meals 3 times a day, just cut back from 4 meals a day and I lost 3.4 kilograms. It really had got me down at the moment, especially since I've not cut down the amount of food I have, just cut down the number of meals I have. So I still have the same amount of food and more snacks throughout the day. So really, I am eating more than I was before.

 

Maybe you can increase the carbs and fats in your diet, and kick the protein up too.

 

I've been on a high calorie and weight gain diet since I was pregnant with Tobin and it was increased after I had him due to him being a breastfed baby. I'm eating all the right stuff and I'm already taking protein shakes each day. I swear if I increased the carbs, fats and protein anymore I'll probably end up with other health problems. I'm already taking 4 times the amount recommended for a breastfeeding woman. I should be a overweight by now!!!

 

Dump the tape worm! LOL

Seriously, have you been tested for metabolic disorders?

 

I have an incredibly busy week. *sigh* Two papers due, school, visiting shut ins on tuesday, preaching wednesday, "free" thursday, and then skipping school for a church retreat Friday, working the retreat til Sunday.

I'm getting really drained and worn out and I feel like I don't have time for the things I actually want to do anymore. Sad day.

 

LOL! And I have been told I've an extremely high metabolism. I am going to try to get in to see my doctor in the next couple of months, just a matter of being able to get an appointment as we have 3 doctors. 1 full time that I refuse to see after my past with him and his neglect with my pregnancy with Tobin and the other two are part time and booked solid for quite some time... even the other doctor is impossible to get into anyways. We have a MAJOR doctor shortage and can't get doctors where I live. They are desperately trying to get one, but they don't want to work here as there is nothing for their family members to do in a little country town that has no night life and nothing to entertain children or partners during the day. It's quite depressing really.