The not happy thread

Argh....sick of being in love with a man almost 3 times older than me...on top of which, he literally couldn't care less if I was dead or alive

 

Ree is right, do whatever you can to get your foot in the door. Baby steps first and then bigger ones. Talk to people, network, take risks.
One guy at my Dad's company phoned and faxed his resume to the company everyday. He did this for a month, finally they gave him a job just to shut him up.
Wait outside the company door wearing your best suit and a resume. Learn what the managers, vice presidents and boss looks like. When you see them go over and strike up a conversation. If you can do it in a casual way mention how you're applying for a job with them. Do this at least once a week. Make them recognize you.
If you know a convention is going on, go there with business cards and meet and greet.
Send e-mails to the bosses and vice presidents of the various companies (you can find them if you search) and send them friendly e-mails just asking them simple questions. Ask them what they like most about success, what they do in their free time, something simple and not begging for a job.
If they respond try to start a conversation, don't beg, just talk. People in high school have done this and gotten good results.
If you contact enough people they're going to realize you've got the guts to attempt a long shot plan involving very powerful people. One of them may just open a door for you.

 

editing: thanks for the words of encouragement ree and dom and nacl and all

 

Thanks, Nemo. I hope your mom feels better soon.

 

Double post.

I'm not happy... actually, I'm pretty angry at myself for something I've (not) done. And it wouldn't have happened if I had not been so selfish.

 

What's wrong, Lydia?

 

Made someone unhappy because I was so stupid only to think about my own feelings. And I really regret it.

 

It'll be OK, Lydia. I'm sure that they'll forgive you for whatever went on.

 

Thanks. I think so too, but I can't help wishing I'd been a bit more considerate.

 

*hugs*

 

Thanks, Marina.

 

I'm in a terribly... frazzled? if you may, mood tonight. My cousin has left her husband for his ill treatment of their youngest child who is only a toddler and things have got nasty between herself, her mother and sister. I listened to a voicemail message her mother left her and she has threatened basically. She has said she is going to hide her children so her daughter will never find them. It is distressing me as they are taking their daughters husbands side and he physically harmed their grandson. He threw the child 5 feet. The children are with the father and he refuses to give them back to her and she is going to the police about it. I just wish I could take those children and give them a big hug at the moment. I can't even begin to imagine how this could be affecting them right now being around all this verbal abuse that they are hearing. It's just not right. My cousin is not perfect, but she is a tremendously wonderful mother to her two boys and has never done a thing wrong by them. I can't understand why her parents would side with the man that harmed the youngest and potentially could have done serious damage to the child's physical and metal health.

I'm really not comfortable with this situation. I'm scared for the children and for my cousin as well. More worried for her really. But very scared for these two little boys who have no idea what is going on and still with this man that lost his temper and threw the little one. Who in their right mind would want their family member in such a situation?

I only pray that these two boys are back with my cousin soon and out of harms way. I am beginning to lose more and more faith in mankind the older I become and the more experiences I have.

 

That's terrible. =( I wish I lived close by so I could do something to help.

And yeah, I find myself loosing faith in humanity when I read about horrid things parents did to their own children.

 

That's absolutely awful. In the first place, I don't understand how a father can ever do that to his kid and also, how on earth can it be that your cousin's mother and sister don't seem to find that strange and choose the father's side???! It's just really horrible, and I hope that something can be done so the kids and their mother will be safe. And as for the father... I wish I had the strength to throw that guy across the room.

 

Understatement, Lydia. If I had the strength, and I was there, I'd knock that guy into a coma so hard, he'd never wake up again. If you're unable to control your temper, then you should not have children at all! If, however, the wife does want children, then take anger-mangement classes.

Sometimes I wonder if people like him even know what logic and common sense is?

 

I had this week off to study, like all other Japanese students btw, but not only have I been sick since last weekend, I can't really say that I have studied at all. And I'm starting to feel bad and all, but I really can't seem to get myself to study... I almost wish I had more nosy parents so they would force me to. L o l. But not really. Procrastination feels good. On the inside. Yeaaah. Well not really.

Reading some of the more serious problems here I feel like a real.... for complaining about this.

Honestly hope it works out Torana. :S

 

Well, I know the feeling, Ragnar. Once, all I had was boredom and everyone else had much, much worst things to deal with. I felt like an arse too.

As for how I feel now? Well, I was writing an entry in my private journals about uncles/fathers abandoning their relatives and why that's an apparent theme in my story, and my dad went up and made sarcastic comments about it. When I tried to explain it, he just chuckled.

What's the use of explaining it to them? >____> On with my journal entry, then.

 

Yeah, I know what it's like, Ragnar. I had the same problem with getting ill when I had to do my exams. You don't really want to study, and yet, on the other hand, not doing it feels bad, even though you can't.

Oh, Nemo, you shouldn't care what other people around you - especially family members- think about your writing. My sister does that to me all the time, but I don't care, because I know she doesn't have a clue what it's like to write.

 

Thanks, Lydia. I finished the journal entry. (It's on a personal file though.)

 

I wish I had the answers for the people who come to me seeking advice. *sigh*

 

thank you Lydia, Link and Ragnar. I spent all night tossing and turning and worrying like crazy. When I did finally sleep I woke up in a cold sweat after a bad dream...

Ragnar, you shouldn't feel like that at all, sometimes people have major issues that are getting them down, and other times people have other things getting them down, doesn't make those issues any less important. If there is ever something that is getting you down, you really should get it out because even the smallest of issues can escalate into a major issue if you leave it bottling up over a length of time. Big hugs to you and I hope you feel better and are able to get your studying done.

 

I am consistently frustrated with people (particularly those with whom I am ashamed to say I share a religion) who say lots and lots of things are wrong, but never offer any solutions/alternatives, and just come off making themselves, and other people who partake in the same belief system, look like arrogant hypocrites with nothing better to do than to point out how you are wrong and horrible.

 

I know just how you feel, Emily.

 

Emily:
Totally understand, I've been there before too... It's not an easy mess to get out of and it's a totally frustrating mess to be in.

 

There are people in every group that make their religion or politics or science look dumb, absurd, hypocritical, uninformed, etc. The only thing anyone can do about is make sure you're not one of those people. And yes, I do know that sounds like an inspirational calendar.