The not happy thread

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  1. Lydia

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    Sorry Banzai. :( Feel better soon!
     
  2. writewizard

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    Knock 'em dead.
    Seriously, you'll do awesome.
    And feel better!!!
     
  3. Evil Flamingo

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    Huge American Literature test today. Possibly a killer, possibly okay; we'll see. I'm a little frightened of it though, since I don't know this professor's tests. :/
     
  4. Lydia

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    I'm keeping my finger crossed for you Steve, I'm sure you'll have done great. :)
     
  5. hiddennovelist

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    I think we can do it. Have you worked out yet today? ;):p

    I'm sorry, Banzai. Feel better!!

    Good luck, Pirate Steve!
     
  6. Cosmos

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    Having to assist with the clean-up of a guy's office after he was laid-off was very unpleasant indeed. Almost had ME crying. :(
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that, Cosmos, I hope that your day gets better.
     
  8. Cosmos

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    Thank you. Poor guy was crying himself. I've been through it twice and I've cried both times, so I can understand the pain that comes with it. I hope the guy gets back on his feet fast.
     
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    One of my friends just earned a $10,000 merit scholarship that's renewable for four years of undergraduate education at an Ivy League school. I'm extremely proud of her and know that this is a well-deserved reward. She is an extremely hard worker. This is good news, or so I'm trying to remind myself.

    Today has been one mess of failure after failure for me, such is the story of my life. I know I should be proud of all I have succeeded in and my talents, and I really am, but it's sometimes kind of hard when you live on Perfection Boulevard.

    I mean, I cant even lose weight properly --nevermind the fact that the girl who just won $40,000 is hands-down the prettiest girl in the tri-state area.

    It's hard to feel good about yourself when you feel so very ugly comparison.
     
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  10. hiddennovelist

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    Sad! Poor guy.

    If it makes you feel any better, I can't lose weight properly either. :rolleyes:

    You're a beautiful, talented, intelligent person, Merc. And I hope your evening gets better. *hugs*
     
  11. Cosmos

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    And I just got let go for the third time in less than 9 months.

    I'd say the day just took a turn for the worst.
     
  12. Doug J

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    No, no, no - do the comparison thing at a minimum - a bare minimum. Sure from time to time we compare ourselves with others - but when we are on that streak - we need to force ourselves to find BOTH ends of the continuum - because that's how life is. Sure Titanica may be the prettiest girl in the world - but that's just one end of spectrum - there will always be folks better looking than us - AND - here it comes - AND THERE ARE THOSE THAT ARE DARN JEALOUS OF YOU - or would be if they knew you (have you seen some of my cousins?). And when we can't get our self-pity past physical beauty jealousy - than contort your mind to other things you have - for example, there are many folks that do not like Americans and the U.S. - but guess what - there are millions and millions of young girls on entire continents that consider you to be dang lucky. So, my advice - find the ends of the continuum - and know that you (me, everyone) are in the middle - sort of like that axiom that everyone has a boss - it's true. Obama, Warren Buffet, the school principal (ple?), the mayor - everyone has a boss - we are all in the middle of some continuum.

    As for the weight - that's a tough one - really tough. Watch Biggest Loser on TV - find the money for Weight Watchers. Remember - Weight Watchers costs something - but if you keep with it - it's free once you reach your ideal weight. Hang in Merc. The world can be so frustrating, but it's the best one we got - and it's up to us to keep improving it.
     
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  13. Doug J

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    Cos - I'm sorry - UGH! Tough job market - but getting better - at least in the some parts of U.S. But let me get this straight - earlier today you helped a guy clean out his office - and then a couple hours later you were laid off? UGH!!! That sucks.

    And, btw, that's how a eulogy began for the funeral I attended today for an employee who killed himself. His sister delivered a great - GREAT - farewell for a young man that knew this world was never meant for one as beautiful has he (paraphrasing Don Mclean song). She started with, "this really sucks."

    And so did this day for you Cos - it sucked. Not as bad as last Thursday was for that sister who had to say the final farewell to her brother - but clearly your day still sucked. A suggestion: listen to that speech Tom Hanks gives towards the end of Cast Away - or better yet re-watch the movie - please do so if at all possible. There will always be something that gets washed upon our shores that will help - you need to know you will make it:

    . . . I had power over *nothing*. And that's when this feeling came over me like a warm blanket. I knew, somehow, that I had to stay alive. Somehow. I had to keep breathing. Even though there was no reason to hope. And all my logic said that I would never see this place again. So that's what I did. I stayed alive. I kept breathing. And one day my logic was proven all wrong because the tide came in, and gave me a sail. And now, here I am . . . I know what I have to do now. I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?

    Best of luck. If it's helpful - you might want to review my comments (I'm in HR) I wrote to Carmine regarding finding a job a week or so ago. Also NiCl's advice a week or two ago on this thread was good job search advice I think.
     
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    God, Cos, I'm so sorry! I hope a more stable position comes along for you soon!
     
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    We need to get more people *cough* heather *cough* to join the wf.org facebook group. Makes me sad. :(
     
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    Wow, you just read my mind after reading Mercs post.
    Merc, my love. Listen to this man. I used to compare myself to other people ALL the time. It used to drive me insane, I'd always feel inferior somehow. Just think of it like this, and yes this sounds cliche but wow, it is true. There is NO ONE like you, in the WHOLE world. This may seem like metaphysical mumbo-jumbo, but you are a singular, unique entity, and even if someone tries to emulate you, they will never be able do it successfully. Also, (even though this kind of contradicts what I've just said), I would punch a baby (A BABY MERC), in the face, for your intelligence. You can do calculus, for example, I find that AMAZING. I can't even do long division without using a calculator. Lol.
     
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  17. writewizard

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    That totally stinks! I hope things improve - fast! *internet hug*
    Want some flour?
     
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  18. Cosmos

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    Thanks, Doug. Yes, I helped some poor guy as he was taking his stuff, and then I was given a box to take out my own. Pretty cold company, I'd say. And I love Don's poem. It was about the painter Vincent, IIRC. And my sympathies to your sister. Seems 2010 isn't exactly starting out as great as many had hoped. But as the excerpt says, you just gonna keep on living.

    hiddennovelist, that is the one thing I really really want right now, but it's something I understand isn't in the cards with this economy. I'll find something, I know it. Thank you.

    writewizard, thank you. I laughed when I read "want some flour?". xD
     
  19. Evil Flamingo

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    That right there is a slap in the face. They're lucky it wasn't me, otherwise I'd go on a rampage. S*** like that is just demeaning and deserves repayment in full.
     
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    Too much to do today...not enough hours in the day. :rolleyes:
     
  21. Link the Writer

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    I'm just as stiff and cold as I was this morning. :( I'm a bit more awake now, but still...

    *sighs*

    Once again, I thank God for giving me the ability to turn off my hearing at will. I'm in the gym building waiting for my Geography class to start and there's a group of students not far off from where I am screaming "B-R-A-D-F-O-R-D...BRADFORD!!!" and a bunch of other stuff. >____<

    Meh, I'm acting like a baby.
     
  22. Lavarian

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    What's that supposed to mean?
     
  23. Lydia

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    Aw, you're not Nemo. I know what it feels like when lots of things pile up together... it sucks. Hope you feel better soon! *hugs*
     
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    Link the Writer Flipping Out For A Good Story. Contributor

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    I have no idea. All I know is that they're making a lot of racket.

    @ Lydia- Thanks. :)
     
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    Bad skiing crash yesterday. I am so sore. And, due to a bad headache that was due to the crash, I slept most of yesteday, so I have a ton of work today. . . . >:-(
     
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