The not happy thread

I suck at spelling and it seems that any misspelled word can have the potential of meaning performing an act with one's...*ahems*

So yeah, I totally suck at spelling.

 

But it was an instant classic, that should be filed away somewhere that monumental spelling errors could be preserved forevar
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Of course. I will be honored to have it be an instant classic in WF.

 

Oh man, he's 15 turning 16. He's going through that lovely, angsty teenage period where he feels like it's his god given right to have the world revolve around him. He's a very fit young man, smart too, but since my Mum passed everything has been about him. My Aunt is constantly checking up on me to make sure how he's going and if I'm taking proper care of him, 'how's Nathan going? Is Nathan okay? Nathan looks down today. Don't you even think of leaving Nathan by himself overnight. Don't you dare make arrangements for him to leave the house on a weekend so you can go out - you make sure he's welcome in the house at all times' blah blah.

Anyway, whatever. We've got a house inspection in like 24 hours, so the boy will be doing work whether he likes it or not. I'm not some 1950's housewife.

Thanks Jon. I do appreciate it, and I will probably take up your offer when it comes to venting, haha.

 

God, Zoe, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this on top of everything else. Hopefully your brother will snap out of that lovely angsty phase that is such a delight to deal with and start taking on more of the work/responsibility so you don't have to do everything around the house and stress about him on top of it. Until then, I know you said it's not likely for parents to let their kids' friend stay over on a school night, but maybe some of them would be willing to do it at least every once in a while, to give you a break. If we lived in Australia, I would totally let your brother chill with us and have my siblings over, but since that's not a possibility, I'll definitely be around if you ever need someone to complain to. I hope the situation gets better, though. One person, especially someone so young, should not have to deal with all the sh*t that you've been through.

 

Dating is exhausting. And boys are just silly.

 

They make much better friends than love interests, I find.

...Though girls can be just as bad, actually.

 

As a boy, I have to say yes. We seem to have the whole "Band of Brothers"/"Friendship" thing down pact, yet we don't really know what goes on in a woman's head.

 

No offence, but I'm the same age as your brother. I typically do things on my own. I went on a journey around the Hebrides on my own. Perhaps he can't manage his finances or schedule, but he can do most of the things you can, and you can take a break.

 

Thank your lucky stars...

 

Well, a guy's mind is even worst.

 

At least it is in a logical order

Everything is filed into categories: work, mates, gf, or quantum physics.

 

Argh. Joel messed up his knee playing paintball, right after I switched him onto my insurance. My insurance < his old insurance plan. Booooooooo.

 

that's not good

I hope his knee get's better soon!


So there's this path I have to walk everyday to get to and from school. Well there also happens to be a group of guys that love to smoke weed there. I don't run into them everyday, but I do run into them a couple times a week at least. And by now, I am so about ready to shoot them! I really could care less that they are complete idiots who are choosing to smoke away what few brain cells they actually possess, but I would rather not have to deal with that crap seeing that i don't want to be around weed and i don't want to have to walk through their smoke when I'm trying to walk home/to school.

but besides the sheer irritation this causes me, the worst part about them being there is that, while I don't give a **** about them, they never fail to remind me of a friend of mine who smokes who I do care alot about. the thing with him is he has depression issues but he's an idiot and won't tell anybody or ask for help and uses pot to deal with it and it freaks me out a ton, because, for god knows what reason, i care alot about him. And while my day today was actually really good, this part was horrible and the last part really hit me hard today and brought up all the other emotional issues I have about that particular friend that I've been working incredibly hard to get rid of. UGH!

 

I know this is petty, but I just have a lot of work to do tonight and I'm not looking forward to it because I don't have the opportunity just to relax.

 

Thanks, Mal. The doctor said it should heal pretty quickly, so he's got a brace and he's got pain killers, and that should take care of things.

I'm sorry to hear about having to deal with those guys and their reminder of your friend. This is probably a stupid question, because I'm sure if there were you would take it, but is there any other route for you to take to get to school and back? It really stinks that this is something you have to go through.

Hopefully you'll get everything done quickly and then get to relax after!!

 

Thanks heather...

Technically speaking there is another way, I can walk along the street and up the hill that people drive up, but the path is much closer to my house and takes about 10 minutes for me to get to/from school, whereas if I go the other way (which I do take sometimes after school) takes me about 15 minutes longer and with my morning schedule and such, I don't have the time in the morning to do that so not really.

 

That reminds of the times I had to walk by the side of the school and there would be truants pretending not to smoke marijuana, even though the aroma was quite evident. They were part of the reason my school received frequent police visits and additional security presence.

As for your friend, that is quite difficult to approach. I knew someone who smoked and did heavier things because as he saw it life was incredibly oppressive and lonely, mostly because of fleeting infatuations and corrupting influences. He might need your presence or constant worry more than he will admit. Hope things turn out well.

 

The thing about him needing me (which i don't think he really does...) is that my relationship with him has been taking a huge emotional toll on me and i've been working really hard to distance myself from him....which has inserted guilt into my tangled mess of emotions as well...

thanks

 

Well, that stinks, then. Boo.

Don't feel guilty for distancing yourself from him. Being there for your friends is a good thing, but when it's something as one-sided as your relationship seems to be, and especially when the friendship is taking such a huge toll on you when he isn't really willing to be much of a friend in return, I don't think anyone should be expected to let themselves repeatedly get torn down for someone who doesn't care enough to be a good friend back.

 

thanks heather

 

It is a ponderous issue. How much responsibility do you feel you have to this person?
Perhaps involving some social service groups is advisable.

 

all the responability i feel i have is from the fact of simply being friends with him and caring about him and really really really not wanting him to bein stupid and hurt himself and the people around him.

 

If you have told him all this, and he persists then there might not be much else you can do.
What can we do to change a mind that will not listen?

 

well i've told him it scares me and i wish he wouldn't do the crap he does...but he didn't really listen and i know he's not going to whatever i say/do

it makes me more scared and worried honestly