The not happy thread

Honestly, Link, it sounds like youhave cause to worry. You're scheduling your drinking sessions, you are craving beer for its effects rather than te flavor, you are experiencing compulsive urges to keep drinking when you want to stop, and you are trying to keep your drinking secret.

These are not good signs.

 

Although my family do know I drink and they seem fine with it as long as I moderate it, I should stop it before it gets worst.

 

Yet.

You know, it sounds like you're trying to convince yourself that it's fine here, but it was you that posted your concerns in the first place. Not a good sign, dude. IMHO , I think you should quit whilst you have the ability to. You never know how badly things could spiral out of control until it's too late. Better off not taking the risk, eh?

 

What you are hiding is not the fact you are drinking, but the quantity:

That is secretive drinking.

As Ashleigh said, it sounds like you are trying to minimize the concerns you just aired.

I'm not a teetotaler, by any measure. I enjoy the occasional beer, or champagne, or occasionally something stronger. But as often as not, I'll feel like having a beer, but never actually get around to it. It never calls to me, and I never have a problem stopping if I feel I've had enough.

 

Good point, Ashleigh and Cogito.

I'll quit while I have the chance. Starting now. I don't want to go down that road that so many others have taken.

 

A mate of mine in high school died last year at the age of 25 with liver failure, though alcholism. So sometimes the road is pretty darn short it you pick the wrong one.

If it runs in your family and you are even the slighest bit worried then keep the F%$£ away from it. Find a proper activitiy that gives you real fun, not an illusion.

 

Right-o!

I'll start by rediscovering my old hobby of VIDEOGAMES! And constructing model ships.

NOTE: I didn't stop videogames and modeling ships because of alcohol. I stopped because of school work, but I do miss playing it/building them.

Thanks for the advice everyone. I think I've made the right choice here.

 

25?! That's awful Life had just begun.

And i'm proud of you, Link. Well done for recognising there's a problem; i've heared that's the hardest thing to do.

 

Ash – Yep, also he never drank in high school that i knew of so, what a downfall.


But i also had a friend OD (and die) at 16, so that's evern more sad.


Link – I’m proud of you as well, but I won’t lie to you. Just realise that choice hasn’t been made until you come under pressure of “do “I or “don’t I”. That’s when you make the hard yards.

 

Does you mom know why you prefer to dress that way? If not, an explanation if you are ready for that, would probably help. Then again that might open a whole other can of worms.

 

Saying that is a warning sign of a possible problem. I loves my booze but anytime I think I might be getting out of hand I quit drinking for awhile. The last time was about a month ago. I didn't drink even a drop for two weeks. The only time I really really wanted to was when I accompanied two friends to the bar. I'd suggest giving this a try and see how you feel.

 

Yeah, I know, I've tried explaining it to her. She doesn't seem to get it. I'm sure she's just worried about me being judged by other people, and I'm sure it's hard for her to see her "little girl" not want to dress that way. I dunno, I'm just gonna try to avoid fights with her until I can move out...

@Link:

Buddy, you gotta be careful. My friend Andy is struggling with a drinking problem right now. He's only twenty, and it only took him a few months to get fairly addicted to alcohol. While I like my beer as much as the next person, just make sure you moderate yourself. Don't use it as a crutch, whatever you do.

 

Oh god, 4 hours of uni left and I'm so tired. Just want to go home and sleep. Mmm. Sweet sleep.

 

It's my last day student teaching and my kids have TAS (woods, metals, cooking) so I don't get to see them except for a small smudge of time right before 3. :\

 

Not only is Domhnall now on the warpath, even though he still has no evidence for his claims, but my girlfriend has just lost a freelance writing thingy because the magazine wants more 'special interest' candidates as part of a local council 'initiative.' She's going around everyone else she knows with a career plan, on Domhnall's advice, and is telling them that it's probably going to happen to them, and I can't quite keep up with her in my attempts to explain the situation.

Domhnall and his self-righteous crusade is obviously going to profit from this, and as he is now actively seeking opportunities to act like a psycopath, someone is probably going to come out of this with a black eye. Hopefully it's not Nighean, but I don't think it will be Domhnall, somehow.

 

One of these days I'll get to attempting to critque a poem/song or two

well my miniscule 15 hour jobs where I don't get to save any $ as 33 years young and as soon as I got my first paycheck (didn't have to pay then) my dad decides to tell me he needs 1/2 my paycheck up to $300 a month, well that lives me with enough for my cell phone bill and the costs to take bus to work, what's the point of that? how am I supposed to save for one place with nothing left? My dad is not someone one you try to 'argue or discuss' things with, you just do what he asks and find a way out, and I swear this better be the last time I have to spend one night in this house (when I get out this time) I'm so fed up with this house, not getting out 1st time til I was 26, that when I finally get out I don't even want to come back to this house for anything, to have relationship with my dad he'll have to come visit me or meet for supper on occasion, cause I can't handle being in this house. I'm so tired from my day out today (interview that doesn't look promising) I could get into more. I'm trying very hard to stay positive but to be honest I've done it both ways
and I've had better luck "fearing the worst" and having it not be that bad, if not actually good, where I'm confident and calm and positive and I get let down. I hate being pestimistic cause until the disapointment, I feel like a better person being an optimistic but when it seems to fail you over and over and over and over etc it takes a toll on one in all aspects.

I've even created a cleansing playlist but the only time it helps is while I'm listening and maybe through the night (few hours if during the day) maybe once I get it on my ipod (someday) I can listen whenever needed.

To top it all off, I thought I'd get to see my friend and talk to him as badly as I need to, he's the only "in person friend" I have but we only talk at his work, occasionally run into each other where I work; it's been almost 2 weeks and I was with my mom then so barley got to say hi (she said she had 2 hours and we weren't there for maybe 20 mins).

 

I have had a migraine for over 24 hours now.

 

I'm sorry, Mina. I hope it goes away soon, that's terrible!

 

I'm really worried that my school district is going to cut swimming next year

there was a board meeting with a really good turn out and really good points and there are way more reasons to keep it than to cut it, but of course the board people are proposing cutting it because it looks easy to cut on paper (even though it isn't at all) so if we don't make enough of an impression then we're probably going to lose it next year...

 

Educational cuts are so familiar here, the arts and music, and after school or always the first to go. It is a disservice to the children, well those in public school anyway, which is most.

 

That really stinks, Mal. Budget cuts in education are really the pits...regardless of what you cut, it's going to hurt something.

 

I see it as a good thing, sorry. More and more parents will start homeschooling which has proven itself a far superior method of education.

 

Haha, that's only assuming parents are attentive and educated enough to teach, valid point nevertheless given a more egalitarian society.

 

I consider everyone equal in the ability to improve themselves if they want. So i don't see this as an egalitarian issue.

 

I know, and there's alot of money that has to be cut out of the budget
there's alot of stuff that we don't want to go that will have to go, however cutting swimming shouldn't be one of them. For whatever reason they've decided to single out swimming (as in cut swimming or cut swimming, golf, and wrestling is one of the ideas to go with) and honestly when it's all said and done, cutting swimming is going to leave alot of atheletes without a sport (400 in the whole disctrict) and it's barely going to save them anything. My dad figured it out last night and it's only about 150-200 dollars per person for facilities, maintinece, coaching, etc. That's really not that much.

Sorry I'll stop now, I'm just really worried and kind of pissed that they think it's easy to just cut swimming, like no one will care or notice.