The not happy thread

I'm peevishly unhappy about a certain good friend who came to me as a blubbering wreck, asked for my insight and advice. I spent a lot of time being considerate and thinking of an answer which would further her best interests, to which she blithely ignored!

Some people, eh!

 

Sounds like me at work! haha. Have a lengthy 10/15 minute chin wag with them and give some advice... 2 mins later it's all out the bloody window! my advice is about as usefull as Anne Frank's drumkit by that point so i dont bother again... until they come back anyway. What are friends for eh?

 

I think what they're actually asking for is free therapy, not advice. They just don't know it.

 

Rather nasty fall down the stoop. One of those days....

 

So very very painfully true.

Someone jacked my lighter...today is already not going well at all.

 

my touchscreen ipod was stolen today, I am most unhappy

I could kill, I really could

 

My friend has been in a rage, a frightening thing really, for the past year or so... His girlfriend told him that she was raped, stabbed and abused as a child.

Now... this may sound wrong, but, somewhere deep within me I'm convinced she's lying... to what gain I don't know.

I've never met her... and I've never told him what I think, but today he told me that some people were claiming she was an attention seeker and lying about the whole thing.

The core problem is that I'm worried about the guy... he has murder in his heart, but I don't believe he's capable.

 

how the hell can someone lie about something like that? you have to be sick

 

I'd be careful about coming to the conclusion she is lying. Rape and abuse do take place at epidemic levels, and can also be at the root of personality disorders like attention seeking. Her being a drama queen does not automatically make her a liar.

If you want to be his friend, support him without judging either her or those who are calling her a liar. You don't know all the facts, and probably neither does your friend at this point. Either way, he is in for a rough ride. It's not a walk in the park to be the partner of an abuse survivor, either.

 

One of those days...

There are many types of days. Today, for me, happened to be an epic fail day.

I seemed to be a fail at everything, nothing I said was right, I ended up being a complete idiot with any conversation I tried. Ugh... these sort of days don't happen often... but this appears to be the worst. I can't do anything right today, its just so frustrating.

I wish I knew when these days were coming so I could foresee it and think before hand that I'm not going to say anything at all, and just keep my mouth shut the entire time.

But don't you guys hate these sort of days? The ones where no matter what you do, or who you talk to, you aren't able to do anything right... you just are stuck in a continuous fail the entire day, with only a few moments when you are able to continue a conversation without being a fail.

So frustrating it is...

 

Don't get me wrong I don't like thinking this... but it's a gut instinct... and cogito that's my exact thought, a personality disorder.

But I'm concerned for my friend, he could waste his life by choosing to do what he thinks is right in one form or another.

I've been supporting him through it for over a year, what makes it harder on him is that it's long distance. The guy has the worst luck...

 

My back has gotten three times as painful in the past 24 hours. I've just showed it my mum and she said she will get me a doctor's appointment in the morning and I might need to 'get it drained'.

Er... what?

 

That sounds pretty damn sinister... XD

 

Couldn't have put it better myself Cogito.

In my experience people who have been abused are often very attention seeking in different ways. I don't understand the psychology behind it but I think I'd try to recognise it or at least give someone the benefit of the doubt.

 

Having a horrid day. Doesn't look like it's going to get any better either.

 

This is going to sound really weird but I just burned my tongue after greedily eating half a pineapple. I forgot how acidic they are! Ouch.

 

I just dragged up my old journal... so optimistic...

 

Hey Evil, why so horrid?

 

I'm worried about one of my best friends. She completely fell off the face of the planet, and I think I know where she is, and that scares me. I am not at liberty to say where she is, but I am incredibly worried about her and just want her home.

 

Excruciating hour and a half trying to keep a very tired baby quiet and happy. The quiet worked most of the time, but the happy didn't, and it's no fun being stuck with an angry baby. Add to that that I have something like twelve hours of school left for today and there are only seven hours left in the day, and you get the reason that I'm online doing nonimportant things. :redface:

 

I played Medieval II: Total War and took over Europe as the French. And yes, I even took England after declaring an alliance with her. Tragically, two things happened:

1) Not enough governors. No governors mean an angry people and an angry people means rioting and rebellion.

2) Mongol Invasion of 1200s.

For the next half-hour, I was forced to watch as rebels and Mongols alike completely shred up the three-hour work I did in the game. Despite all efforts, they managed to beat me to a bloody pulp. Europe is now 75% Rebels, 1% Mongols and 24% me and rapidly diminishing. Noooooo!!!

 

An ex-girlfriend, who I dated all last year, is arguing with me and annoying me. I just want her to go away. I'm trying to stop smoking before it starts up again, but it's not going well. I have a paper due tomorrow that's most difficult and not coming along very well. And finally, its gloomy outside and my mood is pretty much shot. One of the worst day before the last day of school I've ever had. I'm just waiting for something new to lay itself down on that list.

Tomorrow's gonna suck...a huge test, paper due, and I'm moving out of the dorms.

 

I'm sad because everyone else is sad.


I'm so sorry, guys!!! I wish I could better express it, that I could be there, but I can't. And I'm frustrated because I'm concerned and I don't think that transfers well through type. Just know that I'm here for you guys. I'm always a PM away, and remember that it does and will get better.

I really wish I could help more!!

 

Seconded. I always feel so lame when I post and try to say encouraging or uplifting things, like it's not enough, but I really do love you guys, and it makes me so sad when you're struggling! I wish that typing *hugs* could translate into a real hug...

 

I am discouraged because people will not give me their information. Does no one trust the Census Bureau?

On a positive note, I purchased a laptop so I have no more excuses not to finish my writing.