The not happy thread

Haha that's great! I think I'm going to do that next time.

My favorites are the people who start talking to me about how life is so much easier for lefties now, unlike back in the day when teachers would try to force them to write with their right hand instead.

If the problem you're running into when trying to get girls that you're interested in is truly that you're not a bodybuilder or the "hot" guy, then I think you're pursuing the wrong type of girl, yo. Hang in there...sometimes you just have to go through a lot of crappy relationships, or almost relationships, before you find the right one.

 

Well said hidden: Growing up in the 21st Century is a Bit(h. Too much input, impedes introspection. Not all races are worth running, nor their prizes that desirable. You'll probably flip 80% of your preconceived assumptions in the next ten years.

The "Big ??" is what's coming first?--understanding or Marriage??. Look around before you jump in with your pat answer, many got it wrong. It's amazing how many "once in a Lifetime" opportunities you can miss.

 

Ganman3: Relax. Get a ****buddy or two. And just enjoy the company all the persons around you.

Especially the last one tend to open up you own mind and a lot of opportunities. Enjoy everyones company and you will find that someone of all of the everyone will be the right one for you right now.

 

Yeah, yeah, get a f/ck-buddy if you wanna avoid all the trashy girls that play games. That way when a nice girl comes along, she can run away in terror at your ugly past of sleeping with trollops. Ace advice!

 

Or their see a guy with a relaxed and comfortable attitude his own healthy sexuality. Not that you need to have sex to be comfortable with your sexuality, but if he feels like it i think its a great option and a wonderful way to connect with other people.

He wont be desperate with both sexual and emotional longing but rather more relaxed not in a hunting mode. Hanging out, being social and looking for the opportunity to find some one he connects with romantically. out and relating enjoying he company of other people.

I think it depends on what view of sexuality he prefers, but either way some people will see it as quality, rather then the downside. Its just a matter of who. If you like liberal girls with a positive view on sexuality in general or of you like more conservative girl with a mote classical monogamous view of sex.

Bot can be fantastic, nice, smart, creative, generous, funny, smart, kind, romantical, sweet, strong, charming etc people in my experience.

(But in in the first case he gets to have a rich sex life.)

 

I don't think sex gets in the way of everyone's quest for love, but whatever. It's not like some savage urge that everyone needs to get out their systems in order to enjoy good company.
I think anyone who suffers with that must need mental therapy...

 

Oh. I agree with you. Sex is a desire (among other things), not a need. But I'm of the opinion that it is a positive desire, like for friendship, to be understood, for tenderness, food, excitement or the desire for love.*

I just assumed that he would enjoy sex, and that the intimacy, closeness, tenderness and enjoyment it brings is a positive to add to your life when you are a bit heartbroken and lovesick.




*And of course, all desires can take a turn for the worse. Like causing jealousy or be abused when you are emotionally hurting.

 

It's all cool dude.

 

I'm a virgin. I'm not really ashamed to admit that. It's not that I think sex is bad (mmkay?) but I don't think I could go out and have sex with some random girl, mostly because I complicate things too much. (Plus, my expectations have been built up way too high.)
I'm of the opinion that when you have sex with somebody, you're giving somebody something (that something being yourself), and that to give that to the highest bidder is seriously devaluing yourself. So I think if I were to go out and have sex, it would have to be with somebody who had earned my trust and who I respected.
But I'm probably going to lose my virginity soon, and after that probably many, many, many times. I just hope the first time is great. After that, I'm not so picky.

 

Not to burst the bubble or anything, but that's actually pretty unlikely. Chances are it'll be 30 seconds and then 'was that it?' But I do commend the sentiments you hold - we're not of dissimilar mind, just perhaps a little compromise is in order.

You're piling the pressure on yourself. Which is my problem. The problem could actually be that you are holding out and holding out. Time to relax a little, ask a girl for a drink or whatever. It's what I'm doing (when I work up the courage). Surprise yourself by asking a girl you wouldn't normally associate with, or something.

 

Today just wasn't fun. Work I need chocolate...No - fondu. Strawberries or pretzels preferably.

 

*slides a honking bowl of chocolate-covered pretzels across the coffee table, and smiles at you*

 

*smiles back, gratefully, and pushes face into entire bowl* "Thank you." *snort, snort*

 

I feel awful.

I haven't seen my dad since August, and I won't see him until late November.

I haven't seen my kids (from Honduras) since July. And I don't know when I'll see them again.

A good friend of mine was just diagnosed with an eating disorder.

I would give just about anything to be held by someone right now. I feel awful.

 

*hug* That sounds just horrible, Emily.

 

*virtual hug for Emily*
I'm sorry for you.Things will get better, hunny.

 

For over two weeks my family has been sniffing, coughing, sneezing and just being sick. All this time I managed to escape it, but now I feel something coming I think... Tired eyes, head ache... I don't want to be sick.

 

I'm sorry everything is piling up, Em.

Uh oh! Take lots of vitamin C and feel better soon!

 

So, the dissertation plan didn't exactly materialise. Why do I have such a shocking work ethic at home?

 

Oh Emily! I am so sorry hun. It sounds like you are having a really rough time at the moment. I wish I was there to give you Tobin and get a huge snuggly snug from him, and a big hug from me as well. I'm sending massive cyber hugs from all of us to you! It really sounds like you need them.

 

In an effort to be more politically involved, I started doing research for our upcoming election...and I'm discovering that it's very difficult to find anyone running in Nevada who I could actually vote for.

Discouraging.

Frustrating.

Gaaaaaaaaaaaah.

 

Not happy right now as I have a killer headache. Not a massive reason in comparison to others in this thread but... yeah.

 

Have to agree Hidden: It's extremely discouraging to have to choose between degrees of "crooked corruption" all wrapped up in Cloaks of lies!!.

Public Political service pays so well under the table today, is has devolved into a pure "Corruption Magnet"!.

Reading these posts will only exacerbate your headache: Be "Logical"--take an aspirin and lie down.

 

Thanks guys. It's frustrating. It's getting both better and worse.

Tobin snuggles sound wonderful.

I actually got exactly what I needed last night. I (rather spontaneously) spent the night with one of my closest friends, and being able to lay next to someone I love all night made everything dissolve for a while. I love her so much.

 

I have already taken an aspirin, but having a lie down is completely out of the question. I have family around at my house right now and the walls are quite thin, and they really are unnecessarily loud.