The not happy thread

I am wrestling with this huge unwieldy spreadsheet I am making for someone at work. I am tempted to say "screw how you wanted it. It isn't going to work like that." And start over. However..it is over two thousand rows long...I really don't want to start it over.

 

So over this whole Swine Flu thing.

Wow. I am eloquent.

 

Hang on, last I heard he was still with us? Hopefully he'll be okay, it would be nicer for him to find posts of people not talking about him the past tense. Just my thoughts, sorry if I sound a bit narky.

xxx

 

I'm really really sick of this. There is more to me than my weight, my clothes, my hair, my appearance, and honestly, I don't care what you think. But, that doesn't stop you, does it? Every single day.

*for the record, this refers to no one on this forum.

 

I'm happy I finally got back together with the one I love (even if certain things about it suck and I may not understand his unwillingness to compromise even if it's just to make me feel better about myself, but whatever) but I'm unhappy that he doesn't seem to have any time for me anymore. I see him for maybe an hour a week.
-sigh-

 

Lunch is not sitting well with me... oh my tummy!

 

Oohh I feel for you Carmina. The other day my stomache was in knots, I felt awful, and even after I was sick it didn't go away. If there's one thing I hate, it's feeling sick and queasy. I hope you feel better soon!

 

*Hug* Thanks luv.

 

I am just a complainer...posting two unhappy posts next to eachother.
Anyway, I am unhappy because my husband and I had a "discussion" about his not working and not helping around the house. His depression is really crippling him and he won't do anything about it. He really isn't doing much of anything these days. He got very upset when I called him on it. I think what really hurt was that I said I was beginning to resent all the free time he had to sleep in and do whatever he wanted while I had to work and then come home and make dinner and do the housework. I think he interpreted that as I resented that he was unemployed while I had to work. That isn't exactly what I meant. I resent that I have to do ALL the work at home and at the office. I wouldn't resent him being home if he took care of the house and yard. Judging from his Twitter...I don't think he got that. More discussion in the works I fear.

 

Wallowing at home indulging in your favourite pastimes (like sleeping) is neither a way to cure or stave off depression.

Activity of some sort is always, always essential. A walk to the shops, maintaining your regular, normal social interactions that make us human, is a must. Isolating yourself from everyone by staying home can only lead to deeper, more complex mental health problems.

 

Preaching to the choir Welsh...if only he would listen to me.

 

Not true for everyone. I am living proof.

 

I am angry because I cancelled plans for prom beacuse I was flying out to California this weekend. Then, I find out that we're leaving on Sunday anyway. By that time, the group I was going with had already changed their plans. I said to myself, "Oh, well. I have to be at the airport by 4AM anyway; it's probably for the best."

Now I get a call saying that the interview has to be postponed. I get it; he's busy. But now I am not going to California or prom, and I'm more than a little upset about it.
I spent quite a bit on that dress too, and now I dont even get to wear it.

 

oooh no! poor merc. can't you still go to the ball anyway, Cinderella? p)

 

Yeah, why can't you go to the prom now? No shame in going stag in this day and age.

 

*sigh* i know what you mean, sweetchaos. the reason for my unhappy post today: will refuses to talk to me. *crosses arms* he won't even let me know what homework i have from missing school yesterday. i only see him for half an hour a day (lunch) and we never ever ever get time alone (apparently his schedule is way to busy to include me). then, when i point out that we never get to spend time together, he gets mad and accusses me of being demanding and selfish. *frown* it's been over a month since he agreed to go out with me, and we still HAVEN"T GONE ANYWHERE!

 

Petty complaint. I got eaten alive by mosquitos at rehearsal last night and want to scratch all my skin off.

 

Guys like that don't deserve girls like you. I was in a similar situation, and it's hard because you feel so strongly about them that you don't want to end the relationship, but really...I would just look at the situation. If you spend more time being sad about your relationship than being happy, ending it is something to think about. Shouldn't the person you love make you happy? I think you guys deserve that.

And I'm upset because I keep volunteering to work and then finding out that the extra time I'm there could have been spent with Joel. Monday, I was supposed to be off at one, and they asked me to stay late. I thought "well, Joel doesn't get off until 5, so sure, I'll work later." Then I take my break, and it turns out he had some cancellations, so he was home the entire time I was working extra hours and then had to go back to work as soon as I got home. GRRRR! Then this guy needed me to take one of his shifts, and I had the choice between working today or working tomorrow. I chose today...only to find out after I agreed to the switch that Joel gets off at 3 today (I work at 4) and then has a longer day tomorrow. So I could have had today off with him and then worked tomorrow when he worked...but no...I don't know how to communicate and find out what hours he's working.

Sorry, that's a long rant. It just sucks, because we don't see each other much, so me screwing up extra chances to hang out with him makes me whiny.

 

Have you actually gone on a date?

If not, YOU'RE NOT GOING OUT! You need to tell him that.

 

If his not spending time with you and if you are telling him how you feel ...then you guys cant be gonig out..


I always kept away from my gf for the first week (trying to be "cool" and not rush things or appear that way, ala in control) but i got put straight in my place (Are you going out with me or not she asked)..... so i changed and realsied it was not cool.

If he cant get that you wanna spend time with him (and if he cant find time for you) then screw that!

If his going out with you, he should worship you and try to find reason why he cant spend time with you! (esp if its near the month part as things should be going into a new phase by then easy)

 

Boys in general don't really know much about relationships...My brother was a jerk to his gf...first he didn't have time for her...then he'd insult her, flirt with other girls and make her feel like a nothing when they did go out. She was unhappy, but didn't know what to do--I told her to brea off with him...that was 3 months ago, last week they were missing each other and talked stuff out and are now finally together and happy.

What I'm saying it...if you've made stuff very clear to the guy, and he still doesn't get the point, it'll be best for you to stop supposedly "seeing him".

 

My husbands got too much time for me! Each time I plan to go out with the girls he either finds some way of making me feel bad so I stay home with him instead, or asks if he can come too!
I think hes just upset that he doesnt see his mates much any more, and resents me seeing mine.
grrr.


xxxxx

 

Husband is the key word

 

I wouldn't dismiss it like that. He could be feeling a bit neglected or sad, or he could be an utterly controlling personality, or any of a number of situations. Hopefully it is something that can be talked out.

 

My fiance would sympathize with you on this, because i think I kinda do the same thing to him...not on purpose, it just stinks if he goes out while I'm off work because I don't really have friends that I can go out with, so I just sit at home or go over to my parents' house and wait for him to come back.

I need to get a life.