The Not Happy Thread

If the councilor is saying things like "ignore them and they'll go away" or other such things they require a punch in the face.

Hope things work out for you there Dizzy

 

Thanks Trish and Steamwolf

The thing is, alongside the depression is a sense of apathy, and it's hard to get him interested in anything at all. Everytime he fails at something (as we all do, when we're starting out in anything) he sees it as a personal failure, so he gives up and starts berating himself.

It's one of the saddest things I've ever been around. I really hope that the therapy starts working soon.

 

Maybe you should look into a different therapist? I'm sure there are programs that help if cost is an issue. And I may be wrong, I know nothing of where you live, but here - school counselors aren't always the most... helpful.

 

^ Agreed, you might want to seek an outside help, If you haven't already. What I mean by an outside help is A counselor outside of school. It might be more efficient.

 

Yeah, you guys are probably right. Thanks. It's just a pretty heartbreaking situation, at the moment. Not good.

 

I know. I'm really sorry, Dizzy. My nephew went through a very similar thing, very close to the same age, when his parents split up. It's a hard thing for him, and a hard thing for you. Not knowing what to do, how to get through to him, is very frustrating and makes you feel helpless too. I wish you the best.

 

Sounds like medication might be appropriate, if other therapies aren't working. But really, the only thing you can do is see doctors. Don't even try to take it on yourself--depression is a serious illness, but it is treatable.

 

I agree. Sounds like he's suffering from depression.

When you mentioned what was happening at home and with the troubles he has in school, I thought, "I think he's associating the two together and drawing the wrong conclusion."

It's common for children to blame themselves for what's happening between their parents, even when it's damned clear that it wasn't their fault.

At any rate, I hope things get better for him. No ten-year-old should be saying stuff like that. In fact, no one, young or old, should be saying things like that.

 

Just seen this. Oh my god, that poor boy. 10?! I wouldn't be as shocked if he was 12+ maybe, but that's shocking...He must be really troubled by everything going on.

Maybe if he just gets lots of love and attention from you and your parents (despite them splitting up) he'll eventually get the message that bad times don't always mean the end of his world, just the start of a different one to what he's used to. It must be tough getting the right perspective when you're still just a child.

At least he's lucky to have a big sister to look out for him.

 

TV is really p*ssing me off.

There is a new show coming on called 'Geordie Finishing School for Girls' which by the looks of it is just another TV show saying 'Look at how stupid people in the north are!' and I'm getting sick of this. Is this really how southerners see us? Or is the BBC just xenophobic morons?

 

^ You're talking as if these Northerners don't volunteer to go on the shows. But the participants don't seem to care about being patronised. They're annoying people regardless of region.

Anyway, don't feel like you're the only one. We get The Only Way Is Essex...

 

I think pretentious southerners really do think they're better. I was down in London t'other month (well, February) and the attitude one or two people had to myself (Yorkshireman) and the Geordies I was with was shocking. Kind of an 'oh, we won't speak to you then'. One laughed at our accents, another asked if we were actually English...

Most were perfectly reasonable, mind. Can't lump everyone in the same boat. Much as sometimes it's nice to point out all southerners are soft southern bastards (as the terrace chant goes).

 

I feel your pain.

Here in the States, there are some TV shows that like to protray us southerners as swamp people. As in, we all...

#1- Live by a swamp in a crappy looking cottage with no plumbing.

#2- Have a swamp boat. Y'know, small boat with big-ass motor/propeller in the back?

#3- Eat only sea food that we grill. Because, y'know, we don't go to any Wal-mart or eat at fancy resturants like the civilized northerners. (Okay, sure, they're yummy and we do that sometimes, but that's not how we do it ALL the time.)

#4- Have a wardrobe full of guns. (Really? Really?? It's bad enough when the Europeans buy into this, but last I checked, Northerners, you're part of this country.)

#5- Have the confederate flag in some form. Be it an actual flag, a bumper sticker, a shirt, or a hat as if we all wished we'd won the Civil War. (I'm actually glad the Union won, because otherwise I wouldn't be here!)

In other words, you're not alone in that regard.

 

You basically just described Trueblood and My Name Is Earl, two of my favourite American shows LOL.

 

Thus my work here is done. :|

 

Here in the U.S., there are plenty of idiotic reality shows...the people on "The Jersey Shore" and "My Super Sweet 16" are real, too, supposedly.

 

ARGH! So annoyed with my dad right now! They have people coming over, and mom's practically having a panic attack because it's so messy. So of course I come and help her out, and dad doesn't do anything! Or he washed the toilet, then he started making messes wherever we clean. And he has a bunch of tools on the dining table that mom and I don't know what to do with, and he's just sitting on his computer!
I mean, I don't care how it looks, but I'm trying to keep mom from having a heart attack here!

 

I saw an advert for this the other day- to me it looks more like it's aimed at mocking pretentious southern private-schooled daddy's girls than it is an attack on northeners, so I wouldn't worry too much

 

My cat's at the vet now. It's nothing serious, but I hate leaving her there. She doesn't like being away from me.

 

^ Hope she gets home soon.

I can't tell if my novel writing is pretty crappy, or pretty good. The only way I can keep writing is if I decide not to care at this stage. I don't really have much choice. If It's bad I can't change it now!

 

Same here. Even though I've completed the first chapter, I can't get the energy to continue again. =(

 

Sometimes I have to utterly force myself to write before I get back into the swing of things. Maybe you just need to get started again and eventually you'll enjoy it?

My problem is I'm enjoying my work, but I have no way of knowing if any of it is decent. You know, if it reads like an actual novel. It's so hard to judge your own work, or even just to read it the same way you would any other book.

It doesn't help that I'm too stubborn to get a beta-reader who isn't so close to me they'll always give me ten times the praise for every single mistake I make.

 

I use what I like to call the 'Guantanamo Bay' style of taking praise. Assume that everything they didn't say needs work.

 

I think I'm hopelessly addicted to the internet. I want to break free, but I can't. =(

 

I had them suspend my service, and they said that there's a slight chance that I'll get it back if someone brings it into a store to try and activate it, but that was all they could do. :/ Oh well...I'm eligible for a new phone in September, so I guess I can deal with my crappy old phone until then.

Like others have suggested, I would look into another therapist. Poor kid. I hope things start getting better.

Is that not how it is in the South? Maybe I should stop avoiding traveling there...