The Not Happy Thread

I know, but it's just been three months and it doesn't seem to matter what I do. Although I am now looking at graduate schemes and alternative lines of work, like you say. Not often you see people applying to Aldi and then Deloittes in the same day!

 

If you haven't already, try local authorities. I work with LA barristers who get a great range of work to deal with, and at least the recruitment process is pretty straightforward.

You could also look into academia (again if you haven't already), I know someone who became a lecturer straight from finishing the BVC and a lot of universities seem to be recruiting lately.

I know its frustrating, but try not to get disheartened - the rejection rate isn't personal, it's just the times we live in. Employers are spoiled for choice at the moment and unfortunately don't treat jobseekers with the greatest respect.

 

Perhaps you aren't confident enough?

Seriously though, look in other areas. Are you over-selling yourself; giving them an over-keen impression? Sometimes that's as bad as seeming too mellow. You're only young; maybe you're punching above your weight. I find a lot of employers are very picky because they don't like us young know-it-alls coming to interviews with people who've worked the job 30 years. Being enthusiastic is great, but being too boastful can be fatal.

P.S When did I start sounding like a horoscope!?

 

I'm not telling them that in interviews, I know that'd be suicide! I was exaggerating a little (understatement of the year) with what I was saying, but compare me to someone at the same stage in, say, the American system, and I know I'd be coming out on top. I've had the training and most people would kill to have been taught to the standard of draftsmanship and advocacy I have - both being skills which can be utilised on a day-to-day basis by most jobs. I've done a year in practice with real clients and real cases (again, something not everyone has on their CV, and one of the reasons I chose to go to Northumbria to study law). It's just immensely frustrating to have gone through all that and come out the other side with my degree and experiences apparently meaning squat, with employers and agencies alike. I've had some battles with agencies who kept saying I hadn't got any experience when I was pointing out my year in the SLO to them!

I've not expressed myself well, there. I'm just very, very frustrated with how things are going, and it doesn't help when I'm spending much of my day sitting around at home browsing job sites while all my mates are at work or uni. Lack of human contact plus frustration equals a lashing out with outlandish comments. And it's also unhelpful that my self-esteem is low and I know I need to stay confident. So I'm perhaps over egging the pudding a little.

 

Dante, keep on applying. Something will turn up eventually. As has been suggested, try different areas. Also, do you have any experience, as in have you volunteered or had a job before? Because I think a big part is people lacking experience, particularly if you're applying somewhere that involves interaction with the general public (which is pretty much most jobs). You could also consider doing a course, something to prove you can do things in order to get a job. Good luck, and don't give up.

As for me, I'm (and my housemates) aren't receiving the service we're paying for. We're paying to have the internet yet is it working? Nooo. I mean, it's working now but it hasn't been previously today. And yesterday, apart from a short time middayish, it wasn't working all day until like 9ish in the evening for a couple of hours. At this rate, I'm going to be spending a lot of time on my uni's campus just to use the internet.

 

Madness at work. Luckily I've delegated stuff to someone else now.

Places depend on people.

 

Joel and I are going on a cruise in February with my sister and her hubby. When Joel's mom found out, she asked if she could go, and he said no--because, hello, that's fucking weird. Apparently she has no decided to pretend she doesn't know we are going on said cruise. She emailed us today asking if there was any way we could get away to go on a huge cruise with all our family and friends...and it's the cruise we're already going on. Are you kidding me? I'm so tired of this shit...

 

Snip snip.

I should know better than to spout out my life's story on a public forum.

I don't like it when people have horrible misconceptions about you, insinuate that you are a total loser, out of control, and have life so easy. Clearly you don't know me at all. I have what I have because I work extremely hard. Don't dare to spit in my face when you have no idea who I am, where I've come from, what challenges I endure. You know absolutely nothing at all.

 

I heart you, Merc.

 

I get this all the time too. Brush off what these idiots say to you; don't even get angry about it. They know nothing, so what do you care? Let them be ignorant and get on with being happy and content with yourself and all you've worked for. Being an individual is beautiful. They'll envy your ability to care less about their misguided efforts at an opinion. Chin up chicky.

 

Oh man that is terrible Merc; I can completely relate. Everywhere I go, it seems people make assumptions of my experiences; education level and occupation; its tough being a brown dude, but nothing to do about it but shake it off. Feel better Merc

 

Thank you, everyone. It just gets so frustrating sometimes. All my life I have felt like I needed to change to make other people happy and to conform to social standards, and it is a very hard balancing act to fulfill all my roles and responsibilities that people give me. I am finally at a point in my life where I can say that, on the whole, I am happy with myself. And it shows --I go out more, I am smiling & laughing more, I am losing weight, I am healthier; I am all around better. I am so proud that I got that way because of me. Furthermore, the one thing I have never changed about myself is my dedication and hard work toward making a good life for myself. It is so hurtful when people not only judge you but also judge you based on things that aren't even true. I am doing really well for myself, and I'm happy. Why cant people just take that as it is and be happy for me? Why do they want to bring you down?

I'm feeling mildly better today. I'm resting up (sicky sick ) and later tonight I'll visit with true friends who love me for who I am. If people don't like me... fine. I guess you cant please everyone.

I'm sorry for everyone else's issues too. I didn't comment because I was breathing fire last night and wasn't going to be helpful to anyone.

 

Man, that is just totally weird. Sorry she's being so stupid, Soul Sister. Hopefully she'll just be able to accept that you don't want her to come (hello, who would want her to come??) and stop nagging about it. *hug*

 

camera troubles grrr

 

Has had a totally crappy and miserable week and day, and it's only going to get harder. My BEST friend is going to marine boot camp next week and I know that my friend will be fine and all while they're at camp but what is scaring me is the part that comes AFTER graduating boot camp. :/ And I besides that.. life is just crappier and crappier by the second. I can't seem to find an escape. :/

 

Math. I hate it and no matter how I try, I can't understand it, and it reflects in my grade.

My English grade is at a C+ because of some stupid article analysis, which pisses me off. Planning to ask my teacher about that, because it's bull.

The school's new grading system sucks, hard. Homework worth only 10 percent of your grade, tests 90 percent. What the hell is that?!

 

I'm going to take a guess and say your doing your GCSEs, without sounding like a put down, don't panic, after a while, once you have been to college your GCSEs count for just about nothing. GCSEs are you route into college that's it really. I don't mean don't try but don't panic if there is a subject you struggle with. We all had them, do your best and be satisfied with the results good luck, I'm sure you'll do fine

 

I'd say she's probably not doing GCSEs, since she's in the US

 

once again my observational skills do me proud

 

I don't know what boot camp is, I'm assuming something like the navy(?). I hope things get better for you soon, things don't seem to be going right for you lately (judging by your posts in here). Try and do things you enjoy every day, and do something active otherwise there's no hope in escaping what you want to escape from. I know. Anyway, if you need to talk then I'm always here.

 

Unhappy because I'm going back to school tomorrow. Oh, joy!

Two more years and I'm out, two more years and I'm out. I keep telling myself this whenever a new trimester's rolling close.

 

Even though I'm not doing those, thank you. It means a lot to me with the encouragement. Geometry is my worst enemy.

I tell myself that too (junior in high school).

 

^ I tell myself that too. I have 576 days until I graduate from college. Can you tell I'm ready to leave? I almost want to double up and continue on through the summer so I can graduate another semester early, but I think that might be too soon, as much as I want to be over with it all, as that would mean I'd earned a 4 year degree in 2.5 years. I also don't think it would afford me enough time to prepare for the GRE. Which I need to get off my ass about and start studying for..

I just feel like I'm constantly fucking up in most if not every area of my life. But hey... what else is new.

I was complaining about people who don't know me, judging me a few days ago. They have their facts all wrong, but maybe the conclusion is right. Maybe I am a loser, and it's not really a question that I'm on a self-destructive path right now. I don't even really care anymore either.

Winter is coming... I'm preparing to hate everything until March when the sun comes out again.

 

Missing a couple of people, already.

Sometimes physical distance is a stumbling block, but then other times it makes those times spent with
friends all the more sweeter.

 

I picked up two puppies on Saturday. They own.

One of the little guys has a cold