The Not Happy Thread

@GingerCoffee - I think you'd save a fortune on bandages and splints if you coughed up for a vacuum cleaner

Remember what I told you about toes? Devices for finding furniture in the dark? Not sure that applies to fingers though. Maybe they're devices for finding naked electrics in the dark? I am picturing you as one of those hoarders we see on TV programmes with boxes of crap everywhere, crying because cleaners are in throwing out boxes of yellowed newspapers from 1960 no-news days and it's funny

I've got a cold! Who comes to Nevada with average 90 degree days and gets a frigging cold, blocked nose and sore throat? I'm blaming the AC, oh and the damned ceiling fan in our bedroom!

 

You can't vacuum up board games. Not a hoarder, just filled the house with EBay merchandise faster than I was selling it. Though I do believe there may be some Mt St Helen's news paper accounts in the garage somewhere.

It's viruses not the weather that cause colds. And with that little one being a magnet for new viruses, you may be in for a rough year. I know you're not in Vegas but I often see the first outbreaks of influenza every fall starting in that area. It's because people come from all over the world and they all share hand holds on slots, dice, cards and doorknobs.

 

Tony Abbott is now PM of my country. I feel like I'm caught up in some bizarre dream I can't get out of! My country is led by an increasingly old, creaky political system and led by ridiculous men.
I didn't want the other guy to win either.
I have a fantasy were a zombie outbreak hits Canberra, wipes out both parties, and the Greens save the world with a drug harvested from the Great Barrier Reef, forward thinking and maybe a few hugs.



I'm so freaking peeved!

 

I have no clue who the guy above is, but he ticks me off already.

 

You have the queen, at least. Head of Empire, colonial Affairs, or something? Google 'last night of the proms' and spark up a bifta.

 

Me either until the news yesterday which made MsScibble's post suddenly make perfect sense.

 

When the mention of something completely innocent or funny triggers an ugly memory in someone that ruins both your days. His for having the ugly memory brought forward, and yours for the sneak peek into the way people hold on to ugly things for ugly reasons.

 

@Wreybies: Like Florence once said "You can't choose what stays and what fades away..."
I hope it all worked out for you both in the end.

 

It's not a big thing. Wasn't a fight, but frankly, I detest when people fling something at you that they've been holding in crystal clear, 1080p, photorealistic detail for some time. There's a whole thought process that was used in the storing of that memory in such fine detail for later use, a thought process that is really, really, really ugly to me. People do ugly shit to me just as much as any human does to any other human, but I don't and won't do a file-save in that kind of uncompressed, FLAC way. It always leaves me at a disadvantage, always, in an argument, but the road to that advantage is one I just refuse to traverse.

 

I can relate. We have two monkeys -- nay, that was insult towards monkeys -- two boogers running the economy of my home country right now. They just released the budget and it's plain shitty.

Sorry to hear about your finger, Ginger :/ Don't blame the clutter. I live in a very clutter-ish apartment at the moment. Bad luck is bad luck.

I hate it when this happens. Used to happen a lot more; nowadays both of my and my hubby's somewhat murky pasts are so waaay in the past that these triggers surface less and less, but whenever it happens, it sucks and we're both left with this... impotent anger.

 

@Wreybies: I know exactly what you mean. I am the same. The thing is, some people are just much more passive-aggressive. I can't live my life that way. So I let them take small victories.

 

So I think my roommate has Asperger's or autism. I noticed it the first day I met him. For example, he becomes really fixated on certain things, and when things don't go as expected/planned, he tends to get frustrated/uncomfortable. There are also lots of little, insignificant things that irritate him (like not folding the kitchen towel a certain way). While most of my interactions with him have been positive, there have been some less-than-pleasant interactions as well.

I honestly do think he has one of the disorders I mentioned, but for obvious reasons it's not something I can bring up and ask him about. I'm trying to be as understanding as I can, but the fact that he becomes irritated by things that don't bother most people is really frustrating.

Anyway, I just needed to vent a little.

 

@Wreybies This only happened last night in the house we're currently staying:

"My boyfriend is such a twat, guess what he did - blah blah blah - and now he's gone out with his friend but don't worry, I'll keep that for later!"

I wondered who was the twat

 

Good luck with what I presume is a new roommate situation, thirdwind. Your roommate actually sounds like a lot of law students.

 

He's an engineering student actually.

 

It's not a victory at all. These are people who collect poison within them, like Vladimir Harkonnen collecting festering infections in his bloated body. It is a self-destructive obsession

 

I've known a few of them, too.

 

Aw, man, I feel for you. I've been in that situation before, where a flatmate has had a (let's say) quirk. I would try not to let it bother you, it could be because he's displaying a form of stress - I don't know. Is there anyone else living with you? Anyone you can talk to about it?

 

@thirdwind: I hope you guys can get used to each other. I agree with posters above, that stress can exacerbate everything. Also, he could have OCD, which is treatable. So maybe as time goes by, you can broach the subject of what bothers you in general (there's always something!)

@Cogito: I will be eternally grateful to David Lynch for that visual

 

It's just me and him. It could be stress, though he doesn't seem to have much homework or anything that would stress him out. But it could be something else that I don't know about. Unfortunately, there isn't really anyone I can talk to in my social circle. But it's OK. That's what my girlfriend is there for.

 

Ah... but that's just it. What stresses him, and what stresses the majority of people might well be two different things. I have a number of the 'quirks' (as Lemex so delicately puts it) you speak of. To anyone else they seem unusual and unreasonable, to me they are just facets of my behaviour. My friends have learned to live with my 'quirks', in fact, if they were to suddenly disappear it would worry my friends more. If my actions seriously impacted on my way of life, I would seek help... but they don't, not in any real sense.

I do agree with jazzabel though... some of the particulars you've noticed do fall under the umbrella of OCD. I wouldn't necessarily jump to the conclusion it's Asperger's or Autism. It is treatable, successfully so in most cases, but as with so many things in life, the person they are controlling needs to be at the point were they accept it is having a negative impact, and have to feel the need for change.

Perhaps, in time, you may get to know each other well enough that your roommate might be able to talk to you about it.

 

This is certainly true from what I have seen.

I tried to pick the best word that I could think of to be respectful with. I know people who have such things can't help it, sorry if that was the wrong word to use or anything.

 

There are some socially awkward things as well that make me think it's something like autism, but I guess I can't say for sure. I know he takes meds daily, but I don't know what they're for. Maybe in time he'll open up and share more about his personal life.

Yeah, I hope so. That would be great.

 

That was a lovely way to put it. Didn't offend me in the least. But then again, I let my friends get away with calling me 'Crazy.'

 

I hate how my dad dis-validates my opinions and feelings. It makes me want to scream.