The Not Happy Thread

So after posting my current anxiety worry/fear, I'm paranoid that you all think I'm some twisted, perverted freak.

 

Thought that already, what's new?

 

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!

 

I ain't one for bellyaching, as my previous absence on this thread will testify, but bad manners is bad manners and it disgruntles me greatly to see newbie introductions consistently ignored on this site. If it wasn't for @Carly Berg and other unsung heroes, the newbie introduction board would look downright shameful.

As for you newbies... it doesn't take a minute to acknowledge that one person in two hundred that made the effort for you.

Right, bellyache over. Happy New Year everyone.

 

@A man called Valance Has a point, I think we need one or two designated welcome party members. I nominated @Oscar Leigh for the job once, but it didn't catch on.
Maybe give the volunteers a special user name color (colour) or something.

Seriously though, who am I going to lord my contributor status over if no one new joins?

 

I haven't been on in so long the 'newbie' count seems considerable, relatively speaking.

 

It sounds like @A man called Valance wants to volunteer...

 

There's a couple of new chiefs since your toppling, that's all - and a general ban on guitarists.

 

I welcome new members but they never return my personal messages.

 

Now I'm worried for the newbies - a PM from @matwoolf could be a bit... intense?

 

I wouldn't like it.

 

It was more of an abdication than toppling. Too many faux 'right on' whiners for my liking.
There's much in the modern world to be affronted by, and to rally against. Then there's WF morality.

 

I've always felt that it is better for the "welcoming" to come about spontaneously, rather than forced. But when I've got down-time, I'll try to say hello to a newbie here or there.

 

Well, my mom's still sick with a week-long cold. >:[ And of course my anxiety is filling my head with thoughts that she's really dying of something worse, thus making me miserable and pissed. It even had the audacity to suggest that I didn't care about her because I can't just stick my hands out like Dende from Dragonball Z and heal her. Oh, and it's rainy and miserable outside.

Y'know, the Russians have this folk tradition (I believe) where the first day of the year marks how the rest of the year will go. Well, if I were Russian/living in Russia, and believed in this tradition, I would think 2017 would be yet another 'Year of Suck'.

 

So... I make pretty good money, but my wife still works so that we can keep up a nicer life-style.
I work 60 hours a week, traveling an hour to an hour and a half each way.
My wife just got angry because over a 3 week period, I finished off the 17 pack of hot pockets she bought from Costco. Telling me, "do you know how expensive those were?"
So I say to her, "Do you know how expensive your new tablet, clothes, and purse you bought this month were?"
Now we're in an argument and it's my fault.
We've been trying to work on "love language." Hers is generally receiving gifts, whether expensive or not from time to time, is an affirmation of love.
We never really figured out mine, but I'm pretty sure it's being trusted to do what I want when it's little things... like eating hot pockets. Did not know I had to ration them in case of the hot pocket famine of 2017.
She took an unpaid vacation for 4 days in the last month, missed about 3-4 days due to feeling sick(unpaid).
She works 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, 15 minutes away from where we live btw.
Yet she gets angry about me not cleaning the house.
Then she gets angry that my alarm wakes her up at 4 AM in the morning. (we go to bed at the same time.) How in the hell does she not realize, I'm the one that has to get up and get ready to work at that time, she gets to go back to bed for another 2 hours.

I am super stressed out and pretty much things suck right now.
However... I will soldier on. Because things can always be made better, I'm just figuring out how. Because I do love her, and a lot of times things are great. She just takes out any frustration she is feelings towards others or herself out on me, and when I talk to her about it, she acts like I'm making her out to be the villain.

Tempted to say "I make you out as you are, and if you think that's as a villain, maybe there is some truth to it.

So that's my not-so-happy rant.

 

Excuse my ignorance, what exactly is a 'hot pocket'?

 

A microwave-able pizza pocket brand.

 

Sounds like a seriously first world relationship issue you've got going on. Hope it all works out for you.

 

Hot pockets are great... and come in a wide variety of flavors. Think of them kind of like... those little meat pies you guys have in the UK, but these are frozen and cooked in the microwave.

 

Could be. 1st world problems = more like 1st year marriage problems.