Again I don't want to give away too much of my plot or character details but I just wanted to gather some opinions. The romance in my plot is important, it's not the main story however but it helps to develop one of the main characters. The main character of the whole story is female, her name is Ashley and she's fifteen. She has a lot to deal with and so I want her to fall in love with the male lead, Elias, but I want to do it gradually. When they first meet there's a lot of tension between them and believe me, it's not sexual. Ashley can see he's attractive but he's also arrogant, over confident, rude and egotistical so she's determined not to like him and she certainly doesn't trust him. It's Elias who falls in love with her and it softens him as a character, it opens Ashley up to trust him eventually by the end of the book but it's a very fragile trust still due to certain revelations about his motives for coming into her life which aren't good at all. So here's the question; When the romance is secondary to the main story but is also essential to the development of certain characters, and when one of the characters has impure motives before entering into any ideas of romance, would it be better to have a subtle journey to their final realisation of mutual love which develops gradually? Or would you, as readers, prefer to see something turbulent and passionate which has to overcome a number of hurdles and setbacks along the way? I should also point out that I'm not fifteen anymore (though I wish I were but without the whole puberty saga) so I would be interested to know if there are any younger members of the forum who could tell me what they think about their ideal love or the people they're attracted to. Do you go on looks or personality? Do you like the good guy or a bad boy? Would you want to be pampered and protected, seen as an equal, or have to prove yourself to the person you want to be with? Also do you think that love changes characters for the better or makes them worse? What have you noticed about people who fall in love, or what has changed you when you've fallen in love? Like, do you find yourself becoming more like the person you've got a crush on so that you mesh better or do you think you'd stay exactly the same as you were before you met them? And would you rather read a strong female character who has her own mind and opinions even after entering a relationship or do you like her to become a little more dependent on the person she's fallen for? EDIT: Just to add, I'm really interested in opinions, it might not change what I've written already or what I have in mind because obviously at the end of the day I have to do what's right for the story I want to write but it does help to have an insight into what others think or how they would behave in such a situation.