Have you thought yet that what actions and deeds of you, give you more calmness and relaxation and what actions make you more nervous and uneasy?
Things that calm me down: Listening to music Reading Having a good conversation with friends or the girlfriend Not posting in the Debate Room
Playing guitar is pretty much guaranteed to calm me down and put me into a state of peace, and possibly even bliss. I don't like crowds. If I have to spend more than about a half hour in a place crowded with strangers (shopping mall, unfamiliar bar, Disneyland, etc.) I get anxious and very uneasy.
My yoga practice, a productive day's work and being beside the seaside all bring me a lovely sense of peace. I start getting antsy if I have too much time in social situations without a chance to be alone and recharge, and on the rare occasion I give in to the lure of Daily Mail online my head just explodes
Guitar, hiking, reading, writing, reciting lines from books and poems I like (especially in other languages than English, especially Anglo-Saxon for some reason - I don't know why) listening to music, getting together with friends, getting royally fucked up with friends thanks to lady liquor, and also cooking is a new passion I've discovered, and i'm trying to get to grips with Italian and Greek and Moroccan cooking. Bet those who know me are shocked by that.
Playing American Football or Basketball. Also talking to good folks about interesting issues. Listening to music with a message that I agree with. Drinking mix of chocolate, milk and bananas And asking guidance from the lord.
Relaxing stuff: -being together with @KaTrian -writing -playing guitar -playing drums -boxing, muay thai, krav maga, and Brazilian jiu-jitsu -swimming -running -parkour -drawing -reading -working out at the gym -horseback riding -target practice -historical, European fencing -vaping Stressful stuff: -not getting to do the relaxing stuff
+ Reading a book I love. + Writing in my journal. Sometimes the stress is just that I have so many things in my head and I need to get them down on paper. A journal can really help ease the load. + Being with my internet friends on the Zelda Universe forums and this forum. <hugs> I'm known as Link the Zora over there, so if you're a member of that forum, feel free to say 'hi'. + Playing a video game I like. + Playing with my dogs/watching them play with each other. + Drinking coffee while staring out of the window. + Drawing. + Going on a walk with my dogs. + Watching science stuff on Youtube. Watching movie and video game reviewers on Youtube.
walking in the woods in the rain. I love it. I haven't been able to do it in quite a few years but I remember when I did how relaxing it was. Especially if there is a river involved. Woods, river, rain..... bliss!! I get anxious in crowds as well, a crowded restaurant, or wall mart almost sends me into a panic attack.
Calm - Sleeping - Staying at home reading - Staying at home writing - Walking alone - Gardening Anxiety - anything to do with other people - Having to be in public - Noise - Having to go out to dinner with friends, its just torture for me. I don't like to be on display eating and I hate having to get dressed up to go out. - Shopping
I haven't found what gives me the greatest peace. But I'm searching! I've found stuff, things, people that/who give me peace, but it always seems so short-lived! Prayer & reading the Bible give me peace but I'm so undisciplined! Anyway, I like this thread. Very glad it's in the lounge. Hope no one is offended by my bumping it! But I'm not ashamed. I think it's extremely important that we search for peace.
Peaceful: Reading, Writing, and Origami . The smaller the piece the better. Origami has a way of slowing you down. Focus on one thing at a time. Living in New York everything is rushed. I even talk so fast that my friends from other parts of the country constantly ask me to repeat myself, slower this time. Stressful: Drama ( there's a solution to every problem. Drama is created by the people who refuse to find the answer or are unhappy the solution isn't what they wanted), and Golf. I love the game but I can't for the life of me figure out how you can nail a 300 yard drive down the middle of the fairway and duff the next shot five feet, at almost a right angle to your target, into a bunker.
Peaceful = Reading Tarot cards Stressful = Trying to plan out my productivity and then freaking out when life chips away at it
@Grub-r I love doing origami, my favourite is the double crane. Other things that relax me: reading, writing, music, drawing, sitting in autumn sun, imagining new worlds and people. Things that stress me: Trying to get a job, writing, drawing, people making assumptions and you can't change their mind, choosing what to eat.
Peace: -Exploring the woods with kids. -Workout runs along unknown routes. -20s to post-WW2 big band tapdance, singing movies and shows. -Picnics in Autumn. -Old-style fencing. -Hand to hand practice with wife. -Lords of Acid music. -A good strategy game.
Relaxation: Writing. Sitting in my garden. Hiking. Snuggling with cats. A hot shower. Sauna. Diving. Sailing. Out there on the ocean everything is at a one remote. Even I, myself. I love a good workout, but it sure is not relaxing, more the complete opposite Itchy stuff: My family. Too many people around. Expectations. And shopping for (trendy) clothes and shoes
I used to relax SO much on the internet with my friends listening to music, writing, and in our own weird way, talking back & forth to each other but that's been blown all to hell since I started feeling like everything I did was supposed to have a special meaning or motive -- and trust me, it is never my friends that think that about me. It's usually someone jealous trying to make me look bad, hoping everyone will hate me. Hell, it ain't my fault no one likes you. Lol that's what I want to say to them.
Relaxing: - A whole pack of cigarettes - The first sip of freshly made coffee - The smell of snow (so so rare) - Sitting in front of a lit fireplace (I can stare at fire for hours) - The sound of calm waves - Any number that can be divided in half perfectly - The sound of a water stream - Drying up my hair (especially if someone else does this for me) - A warm hug - The after effect of making love, sex, oh, call it what you will. (Making love is better though) - The after effect of a cold shower (yup... I know) - Eating chocolate when the situation demands it - Daydreaming - Friendly and playful cats and kittens - Playing guitar - Playing some more guitar - Watching long awaited series that have piled up with friends - Walking - The sound of wind - The sound of rain (but not a storm) - Listening to music on the front passengers seat of the car - Spinning chains Worrisome: - An almost empty pack of cigarettes - The signs of a thunderstorm while on the road, or when needed to go somewhere - Ok. No money. Now what? -> Illogical bills piling up - Job interview - Arranging to jam with unknown people for the first time (Are they better than me? If yes, then what's the gap? Will I be able to follow)? - Going to the airport/ checking in - When chaos stops seeming like order to me (then I know there's something sinister approaching me) - Two days passed and no recollection of a single dream (God? Have you abandoned me)? - Emotional numbness (the calm before the storm) - Detachment from physical activity in general - Mild backache - Toilet issues related with camping, be it free or organized. (Ok. Another seven days left. Maybe, I'll make it... or maybe I'll die). Stressful: - Common knowledge that makes no sense at all, however I try to approach it (what am I missing, damn it?! Is it me or them)? - First day at work - Being all out of energy in a situation that I really shouldn't - No cigarettes on site (that's actually "panic") - Strong backache (also panic) - Fights (either you try to avoid them, or initiate them, or simply get caught in between them) - Why is the bass player and the drummer on different tempos? Who should I follow? How long until I lose it? Shit. The singer choked again. - Being late - Sunday drivers - Explosive inspiration (ok... should I write or play music or sketch? No time for job-hunting today. Someone please, guide me through this). - Realizing that I'm are not able to help a close person of mine in need - The very loud sounds of construction sites - The first encounter with my toilet after a long long journey - Family - Unable to switch-off brain manually, when I should be sleeping - Sleep deprivation Oh, life's delights!
