My boyfriend is a very passive person and he doesn't seem to be able to stand up to his mother. She constantly gets him to drop what he's doing and do errands for her, or chores or what have you (often meaning he must cancel plans with me)- but he's 19 years old and it's getting ridiculous. The last thing she did was take money out of his bank account without asking him (and it wasn't a small amount). Obviously that is beyond insane; he's a grown man and she's treating him like a child. He won't stand up to her because she's threatened to chuck him out of the house in the past ("if you don't like the way we work, you can leave" etc.) I have tried to get him to talk to her about it in the past, but it just ended up completely backfiring on me; with her saying that I was the one making him think these things, and I'm controlling him and so on. So now he thinks that if he talks to her about this money-taking incident she will assume it's ME trying to control him again. What should I do? Should I leave this alone? What should I say to him? This pisses me off beyond belief because I love my boyfriend more than anything and the reason I don't like his mother is because she completely takes advantage of his passive nature. This whole issue is just grating on my nerves, because no matter what I do I'll be labelled as "the meddling girlfriend trying to steal my boy". But taking somebody's MONEY without asking? That's just straight up theft!!! (It's not like he has a lot of money either, he's a student). Also, breaking up with him is not an option. Even though this situation is driving me crazy, and I am intensely frustrated with him- I love him, I know he intends to marry me so his mother will have to get used to me at some point. Anyone else had a similar problem?